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36-40,
*naida
writes:I have been in a relationship with this guy I met online. Every phase of this relationship was so rushed and unexpected. It was after about 4 months of serious long distance relationship did we meet. First meeting and we ended up in bed. He thinks I am not a virgin. After a lot of asking from his side (which I personally think was due to the fact that he wasn't sure about me being a virgin) I had to reveal to him this fact about how I was abused. And now he thinks I cheated on him by hiding this from him the entire time. I tried to explain to him that it was a crazy nightmare of my life and I definitely wasnt raped or anything of that sorts. But he just wouldnt believe me coz he thinks i have lied enough but hiding this from him. I know I am not wrong, but all I get to hear from him are swear words. I am thinking is it possible that he might be cheating on me and just finding an excuse to end this relationship? I did catch him cheating on me twice.. but he promised me he won't do it again. I am not sure as to give this whole thing a chance or let him go since he doesnt trust me. Is there a way I could possibly make him understand or believe me?
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reader, OhLawdWhat DoIDo  +, writes (13 November 2008):
 Cheated twice?!
A cheetah never changes his stripes.
(I think that's how it goes?!) It's not important!
What's important is the fact he is a cheat, always will be and you are much better off without him.
Don't think it over any more, tell him it's over.
You won't regret not wasting your time.
Do it now! Have fun!
:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2008): There a good saying I think I should use here:Fool me once, shame on youFool me twice, shame on me.This guy sounds like he's stringing you along. If he cant trust you that you were abused, you guys obviously have no trust in the relationship. Just because hes promised not to cheat on you again, doesnt mean he wont. The fact hes so paranoid about YOU cheating makes me suspicious of his own guilty conscience. If you want to stay with this guy you need to re-establish some trust in your relationship. But honnestly, you really do sound better off without him in my opinion. You can do better :)
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