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xhailofbulletsx
writes:Having sex for the first time in a relationship can be a scary, and even stressful thing. Especially if you are a virgin, like I was. I am 18 years old, and my boyfriend is 19. We have been dating for almost two months and we had discussed the idea of having sex a few times already. We had already done oral sex, and were comfortable with that. But we never went all the way because he wanted to make sure I was ready (he knew I was a virgin, and he wasn't one).But, the day finally came where we ended up going all the way.I was spending the night at his house, and his parents were sleeping. We were both laying on the couch watching Planet Earth. We started making out, then touching each other..."the usual". We started getting a little bit carried away, and he told me he wanted to have sex. He asked me if I wanted to, and I felt like I was ready so I said yes. He went to get a condom and when he came back, he layed on top of me and...well, we did it (to put it frankly.)To be honest, it hurt me a lot. It wasn't pleasurable for me at all, but I guess that is normal. My boyfriend was very slow and gentle, but regardless I was a virgin so yes, it hurt. He felt really bad and he didn't want to keep going. But I told him that it is supposed to hurt the first time, and if he keeps going it will start to hurt less.I love my boyfriend, very much. And I don't regret doing it at all. For all you people out there that think you should wait until marriage to have sex...this was our personal decision. We were safe, and we used protection. Plus, we are in love. We liked each other for a very long time before we officially started dating. My advice to those young virgins thinking about having sex for the first time is to take it slow and easy. Guys, make sure your girl is wet, and well lubricated to make it easier and less painful. Girls, make sure you are ready. And try to be as relaxed as possible. The more relaxed you are, the less painful it may be.And ALWAYS (I can't stress that enough) use protection. You don't want to end up with an unplanned pregnancy, or a disease.
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reader, OhLawdWhat DoIDo  +, writes (13 November 2008):
 I'm happy that you waited until you felt passionately about somebody before making a move on it. Your boyfriend sounds like a really decent guy too! I'm glad you found each other and waited until it was right.Good article with good advice!
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