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Is he interested in me and if so how do I let him know I'm interested too?

Q.   Hey guys, basically I am not sure if this guy likes me. I've never had a boyfriend before and never really had a "crush" on anyone until recently. I started uni two months ago and that's when I met him - through a society. I'm ridiculously shy which ...

A.   12 November 2012: It sounds to me like he likes you. I've been terribly shy most of my life too. However, a few years ago i developed a mind trick that really seemed to help when it came to dating. I would just convince myself that person i liked really, ... (read in full...)

Would you break up with someone over something like this?

Q.   My boyfriends exes have all looked very similar, tall, very thin with a flat chest. He's not particularly tall, 5'10''. I'm quite short, I have broad shoulders, big boobs, but small waist and hips with muscly thighs. I'm not fat so I don't have body ...

A.   12 November 2012: I'm quite sure he looks at all kinds of girls. It's just that you're noticing it more when it's tall skinny ones because that's where your insecurity lies. Who cares about the past.. i'ts over. As you said it's a pretty new relation... (read in full...)

Why was he so harsh towards me?

Q.   I'm 24 years old. I posted a question on here a while back, about my guy best friend ditching me because of his jealous girlfiend. I have a similar situation now and I need advice on what to do! He got back in touch with me about 4 weeks ago, he ...

A.   12 November 2012: This is complex. I can certainly understand your hurt and anger... it's ok to feel that way when getting blown off by someone you care about. However, i think if this is really a platonic relationship and you care about him as a friend. You can ... (read in full...)

His comment has damaged my self esteem. What should I do now?

Q.   Basically, my crush called me ugly indirectly a few days back. He did indeed mention that he was joking, however, this is not the first time something like this has happened. It really crushed my self esteem, especially since they were talking about ...

A.   12 November 2012: He either treats you like a queen.... or kick him to the curb. Set the pattern for your life now while your young. If they don't treat you with respect... all the time. Say good bye, and never look back. It will shock you how much guys will w... (read in full...)

how can i find a boyfriend fast and be attractive to men?

Q.   hi. i'm single and just cant find a guy. i'm a nice girl but even the guys in my life dont want me- even those i've known for a while. no-one ever hits on me or notices me. how can i find a boyfriend fast and be attractive to men? i want to get ...

A.   3 August 2007: Fair or not men are generally very focused on physical beauty. So do the best you can to make yourself look good. Otherwise just smile, have fun, and be honest and caring. All of those qualities are attractive to men. ... (read in full...)

Really like this guy, but I lack confidence. What can I do?

Q.   Hi there, bit of a juvanile question but here goes. Im 32 years of age and there is a guy I like he works in my building (large building) and I notice him on regular occasions in the canteen or in the lift etc, I have never spoke to this guy and ...

A.   3 August 2007: Just shoot him a smile and say "Hi", the next time you see him. I wouldn't call that making the first move, i'd call it just being polite. After a few times, just introduce yourself. Its to hard to say if he'll be interested or not, but just ... (read in full...)

My friend is pregnant and her bf cheats on her. How can I help her?

Q.   Ok well I'm on BCP, so I'm not trying for a baby. But I was wondering how easy it would be for a 17 year old to get pregnant. In a magazine I read that under 18 it is very easy to fall pregnant - If this is true, why is it? Alot of my friends ar...

A.   1 August 2007: I don't know if its true that its easier to get pregnant if you're younger than 18. I doubt it... once your fertile, your fertile. I think they are just trying to discourage younger people from having sex. However, i think there can be a gre... (read in full...)

I want to break up with my gf but am having a hard time...I can't get away from her! Any advice?

Q.   My girl and i have been going out for 1.5 years and it was awsome but i lost feelings for her and now she is all lovey and all ... i called to break up with her many times but like she will just start crying and it doesnt bother me thta she crys ...

A.   1 August 2007: End it. Like ripping off a band-aid. It stings, but its ultimately easier on everyone if you just do it immediately and honestly.... (read in full...)

should i go off to school or spend the rest of my life with him?

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over a month. he asked me out a week or so before he went to basic. he is amazing and i love him to death. i know it is crazy but i do. anyways the day he was on his way to basic he asked me to ...

A.   1 August 2007: The great difficulty with decisions like this (especially at your age) is that you lead so much with your heart. Heart is good but you need an equal portion of head to make the right decision. The good news is your head is working well enough that ... (read in full...)

I want to stay with her but her trust issues are making it very difficult

Q.   Hi- I have a tough one. I am engaged to a girl that I have only known for 1.5 years and we have a 9 week old baby. She wants the relationship, yet has some serious trust and insecurity issues. Her dad cheated on her mom and her mother told her...

A.   1 August 2007: You're right, you do have to give up on this relationship. Even if there is some therapy that can help, she needs to resolve those problems before she is ready for a long-term relationship. Trust is the very foundation of any relationship and if ... (read in full...)

I don't know if I'm being selfish but I can't keep hanging on wondering how long it will be till he next speaks to me or if he will ever ring me again at all.

Q.   I love my boyfriend to bits and im pretty sure he feels the same about me. The only thing is that he has a baby with his ex girlfriend and she has just recently stopped him from seeing his baby, for no reason. Obviously this has affected him badly ...

A.   30 July 2007: You really can't do anything. The more you try help him or reach out to him, the more he'll push back. Just leave him be. Call or write him and just say "hey, i know you need your space and i'm going to leave you alone now to handle your ... (read in full...)

I want us back together and back to normal.

Q.   Hi me and my girlfriend have recently split up, we was together for a year and a half and we are both young.I love her still and she loves me still but she doesnt like the fact that I look at other girls. I want our relationship to be back to normal ...

A.   30 July 2007: I hate to say this but i applaud what your girlfriend did. It's great that at such a young age she's strong enough to walk away from you, while at the same time teaching you that there are consequences to your actions. Perhaps you'll be a little ... (read in full...)

My friends think he is controlling, and i'm not happy either.

Q.   hi, basically ive recently got married but we are already having problems we have a daughter together and have been together 4 years previous to getting married. my husband has threatened to leave twice but going as far as packing his packs and me ...

A.   30 July 2007: The first thing that really struck me in your writing is how you had to beg him to stay when he threatened to leave. Unfortunately, i think that is the worst thing you can do. This is his way of manipulating you and you shouldn't let him get away ... (read in full...)

Is it true, 'what comes around goes around'?

Q.   My partner left after seventeen years togther. She found a new boyfriend within a few days. She handled the breakup poorly telling me over the phone. I turned up at her workplace to she if we could sort things out but was only to find her new part...

A.   30 July 2007: Is it true that what comes around goes around? I don't believe there has been any scientific studies on that yet... it doesn't seem to me that its true... it just sometimes makes us temporarily feel better to think it does. It doesn't really ... (read in full...)

I seem to be going through various rough patches with my girlfriend mentally... why?

Q.   I seem to be going through various rough patches with my girlfriend mentally. One day I wake up and i totally love her and think I couldn't imagine losing her. Then other days I get irritated by her and just feel generally irritated specially when ...

A.   30 July 2007: It seems to me that your being tired might be one of the causes for your moody behaivor. If so, what can you do to rid yourself of being tired? Try to figure out what else might be causing you to be moody, and rid yourself of that too. I'm ... (read in full...)

We attended a wedding and he spent more time talking dungeons and dragons with his friends than talking to me... I am starting to wonder if he is the guy for me...

Q.   I had a really down weekend with my boyfriend. He noticed I was a bit off by very few times I respond back “I love you too”. We attended his god sister’s wedding and I was very upset about how much attention he pays on me. He was talking to his ...

A.   30 July 2007: Don't judge him to harshly on this wedding. If his lack of attentiveness is pattern or and emerging pattern than there is cause for concern. But for some people (including me) they just get excited and caught up with seeing people they haven't ... (read in full...)

If i don't have sex with him, then i have really lost him.

Q.   I recently wrote about my husband cheating and going back and forth undecided who he wants to be with me (his wife) or his lover. And i know its obvious that i should leave him and I'm being strong and I'm trying to move on with my life, BUT when he ...

A.   30 July 2007: What if one of your daughters was all grown up and she came to you with the exact same problem? What would your answer be then? Would you tell her to keep chasing after a guy who clearly doesn't respect her? Would you tell her to have sex with a ... (read in full...)

Anyway if I start online dating which are the best ones and is it ok to tell them that I am a virgin?

Q.   I am a 22 year old virgin female not sure about online dating. Is it ok? Though I am trying to finish college I decided not to start dating until I am 25 or 26, however not only did my mother tell me not to date during junior high and high school ...

A.   27 July 2007: I would strongly encourage you to stay away from online dating. I've heard some of the saddest stories ever from people who chose to date online. OK, with that said, I've been dating the same person for 18 months who i met online. Yes, you can ... (read in full...)

He asked me out but I turned him down because I'm nervous and have never kissed a guy before. Any advice?

Q.   Hey guys, I'm 14 years old and I really like this guy, he likes me too and has asked me out on a number of occasions. However I am a bit nervous and have turned him down, I have liked him for ages but I'm worried it will be awkward especial...

A.   20 July 2007: You can't live your life in fear. Sure it might be awkward, but thats what life is all about. How awkward will it be if your 20 and you still haven't kissed a guy? It doesn't often happen that they person we really like, also likes us, so take ... (read in full...)

He says he is ok with me wanting to with him or someone else. He doesnt care either way!

Q.   I just got back with my boyfriend of two years after a month and a half break-up. Now he says that he learned that he doesn't own me so that's why he doesn't care if I was with someone else because I can do whatever I want. He says that if I want to ...

A.   17 July 2007: He's protecting himself and its a common thing that many people do. However, at this time he appears to have gone so far in protecting himself that he's actually pushing you away. This isn't healthy for either of you. With a little patience he ... (read in full...)

I suspect my partner may be cheating - again!

Q.   my partner had an affair a year and a half ago.He acts like it was nothing..i have had serious trouble 'getting-over it'. Thing is i am convinced he is at it again...no particlar reason other than 2 main signs that were there the last time and i ...

A.   17 July 2007: I don't see how relationships like this can healthily survive. He might be cheating or he might not, but the real problem is that you don't trust him anymore. Trust is a fundamental building block of any relationship and without it a relationship ... (read in full...)

I have been having an online affair and I need to end it!

Q.   I am deeply involved in an online affair with a much younger man - Im 35 - he is 21. He thinks I am his age and unattached. He says he wants to marry me. I am married with 4 children and I want to end the online affair. It has been going on for 2 ...

A.   17 July 2007: This must be incredibly difficult on you, but i think you know what you have to do. If you really care for your online friend, he needs to know the WHOLE truth. Yes, it will be painful for the both of you, but in the end its necessary and will ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is verbally abusive when he is drunk

Q.   This might sound like quite a minor problem but it really gets me down - my bf is lovely n kind etc and ive bin with him for over a year. but when he gets drunk he completely changes and is really nasty to me. he calls me a slut/whore etc and just ...

A.   17 July 2007: This is NOT minor problem. You need to get out of this relatonship NOW. Its obvious that your self-esteem has already taken a hit and if you continue to stay your esteem will drop so dramatically that you won't have the courage or willpower to ... (read in full...)

They call or text a few times and then just stop. What am I doing wrong?

Q.   Ive had enough of meeting men who I really fall for and then they dont contact me. Theres been a couple of guys over the past 2 months who Ive met whilst out with friends. At the time they seem to be really interested in me, we swap numbers and text ...

A.   17 July 2007: Think about why you are wearing your heart on your sleeve. I mean why are you so suddenly so interested in someone you just met? Anyone can be charming out with friends, but these guys really haven't done anything to deserve a place in your heart. ... (read in full...)

He's getting over me by pretending like we never existed and ignoring me. But I want to talk to him and get closure!

Q.   My relationship of almost 2 years broke up only a few days ago, and naturally I'm heartbroken. I dont consider how he ended it really closure for me, I want to talk to him alone, but our friends told him not to contact me, so when I IM him online, ...

A.   17 July 2007: There are only 2 steps when breaking up. The breakup and somehow managing the emotional upheaval that comes with it. Its very rare that anybody gets satisfatory closure when ending a relationship. Time is what provides the closure. The b... (read in full...)

My gf broke up w/ me because I'm too overprotective. Right now she hates me, should I not text her?

Q.   hey! 3 weeks ago while i was on holidays my girlfriend broke up with me! we are only 15 but she was going out to a disco that night and said i didnt trust her and she said that i was too over-protective! at the moment she hates me. do you think...

A.   17 July 2007: Of course you should NOT contact her. She broke up with you, its her loss and its time to move on. Do you think she was being truthful about being overprotective? Start thinking about if that is true and if so how you can fix it. Nobody l... (read in full...)

What turns a guy on?

Q.   Guys what turns you on? How can a girl make sex better for you?...

A.   12 July 2007: The best sex for me always comes from the connection of being in love. Casual sex doesn't even compare. So for a girl to make sex better for me, she's gonna have to get me to fall in love with her. Otherwise just be open, relaxed, and have fun... (read in full...)

I lashed out, then apologized. I think I ruined everything!

Q.   I've really screwed up with a great girl and now think I've ruined my chances with her. I've known her as a friend for a year and we've always had an amazing time socially, but things only started to happen between us recently after she split ...

A.   12 July 2007: Be sweet, send flowers, aplogize, but most importantly JUST DON'T DO IT AGAIN. She's known you for a year and it doesn't sound like you've every displayed this kind of outburst before, so i think she will judge you on the cumulative of what she ... (read in full...)

He always suspects me of cheating. How can I reasure him?

Q.   Hi everyone, My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months now and our relationship used to not be very good (fighting all the time) but lately it has gotten much better (were very loving and sweet). I noticed in the begining that he was a ...

A.   12 July 2007: I think you've got to be a little cautious of a guy who gets jealous so easily. If you're a loving partner and show that to him regularly there isn't anything else you can do to convince him that you love him and are faithful to him. He needs to ... (read in full...)

I am bi and am attracted to my best friend!

Q.   ok, i have incredibly strong feelings for my best friend-we are both females! nobody knows i feel this way and nobody knows im bisexual! do i tell her how i feel and risk losing the best friendship ive ever had or do i keep my mouth shut and hope ...

A.   12 July 2007: If your friendship is that close i would be suprised if she didn't suspect something already. I don't think you should come right out and tell her you're bi and attracted to her, but instead let it come out slowly so she has time to digest it. I'm ... (read in full...)

I don't know how to work the relationship thing--help!

Q.   I have told my boyfriend that I feel like things have changed ...but he tells me nothing has. Why do I still feel like something is wrong? It still feels like he is not telling me something...or am I just looking for something? I am new at the ...

A.   3 July 2007: In everday life i generally give much more weight to rational/logical thought rather than feelings, however i find in romantic relationships that feelings are often correct. Yes, things probably have changed, but relationships aren't static. There ... (read in full...)

He's determined to start smoking again even though it makes me ill

Q.   The last time i wrote,it was about my boyfriends unfair parents. evrything got sorted out at the end, thankyou for helping me!But as usual my life cant be simple... After a year he wants to start smoking! Now i'v written to you guys before about ho...

A.   22 June 2007: It sounds like he just wants to do what he wants to do regardless of your feelings about it. Today it's smoking, what will it be tomorrow? I'm not sure how deep or long your relationships been, but off hand i would say move on. If he's gonna b... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be uncircumcised?

Q.   I havent been circumsized. is this normal? I'm 15. kinda makes me think it is the problem why I don't hve confidence to have a gf. Help!...

A.   22 June 2007: Don't let this reduce your confidence. You can be thankful you never had it done. Studies have shown (according to a mens health article i read a couple years ago) that an uncircumcised penis is much more sensitive than a circumcised one, so your ... (read in full...)

I have a milky discharge from my breast

Q.   Hi im 14 years old and when i squeeze 1 of my breats white liquid comes out. Is this normal????? its kinda like milk but im not pregnant or anything. Discharge it could be? help. ...

A.   19 June 2007: Hormones can be a little crazy at your age. Its called galactorrhea and its fairly common, so don't freak out. However, do go see your doctor so they can eveluate if further testing is needed.... (read in full...)

I know she reads my texts but she's choosing not to answer me right away for some reason! can someone explain why this may be?

Q.   My girlfriend dumped me last sunday and this sunday just gone we talked about starting fresh and 2 take things slow by just dating again and meeting up every week or so and to slow down on all the calls and texts, i was fine with that and still am ...

A.   19 June 2007: I know this will be hard, but you got to just walk away from her, NOW. She can't dump you and then keep you around. She's not respecting you, and your not really respecting yourself to let her play with you like this. Think about it... she dumps ... (read in full...)

I only see him 3 nights a week and do want more but get the feeling he doesn't. What should I do?

Q.   been seeing a guy for a year on and of,he is just about divorced and i would like to know where i stand with him? his kids are the same age as mine and get on great at school but he doesnt really involve them too much with me.i only see him 3 nites ...

A.   19 June 2007: I think he is justified in taking it slow especially since he's not even divorced yet and he is children to be concerned about. I don't think you should push this with him right now. However, if you are confused and don't know where you stand with ... (read in full...)

What does it mean if your boyfriend went from calling you everyday to every other day to every 5 days???

Q.   What does it mean if your boyfriend went from calling you everyday to every other day to every 5 days??? I really miss talking to him and it's even harder since it's a long distance relationship. I cant call him because I don't have his # he doesn...

A.   19 June 2007: Initially i would say its not a big deal if a guy reduces the frequency of his calling, we all go thru times where we just want little more seperation for awhile, it doesn't necessarily mean anything bad. However, what kid of boyfriend is it that ... (read in full...)

We had a fling and now everyone knows about it and is being nasty! What should I do?

Q.   i had a fling with a guy i knew through work, it was supposed to be descrete, now i find he has told people things we did and its got back to some relatives and people at work who are being unpleasant, i said its lies but they're being really nasty ...

A.   19 June 2007: There is nothing you really can do. If people want to judge you or talk bad about you, they will do it. The more you try to convice them otherwise the more you play into their hand. Just let it go. Let them talk. Just smile and go about your ... (read in full...)

How do you know if your meant to be together?

Q.   How do you know if your meant to be together? i met this guy in hs,he was w/ his gf. We started talking n really clicked, n he didn't want be w/his gf but felt like a jerk if he just broke it off w/her. So he was going wait until she finds anothe...

A.   18 June 2007: I don't think you can know if you were meant to be together. People say they are soulmates and then up divorced 2 years later. While at the same time there are couples that have been together 50 years who still wonder if they made the right ... (read in full...)

I have issues with jealousy. He appears to be talking to another woman an awful lot. Should I worry?

Q.   My husband and I have been married for 9 years. We have 3 beautiful children. I have a problem with jeolousy. I have accused him in the past for cheating on me (knowing he never has.) I have searched his wallet, cell phone and truck. I have never ...

A.   18 June 2007: Do you trust your husband? Has he been a good husband and father? I'm worried that years of living with a jealous person might push him away. Show him trust and love and you'll likely receive good things back. Accuse an honerable man of not b... (read in full...)

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