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writes:Ok well I'm on BCP, so I'm not trying for a baby. But I was wondering how easy it would be for a 17 year old to get pregnant. In a magazine I read that under 18 it is very easy to fall pregnant - If this is true, why is it?Alot of my friends are pregnant and it's making me brody! But I'm not ready for a child yet, I just wonder these silly questions.Also my friends baby is due in September and I'm really worried about her. Her boyfriends been cheating on her and I don't have a clue how to console her about it because I know she's feeling really hurt. She's still going out with him although she's become very depressed, and he really doesn't seem to give a damn. She's quite good looking and he's not and I really think she deserves better.
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reader, NuVu  +, writes (1 August 2007):
I don't know if its true that its easier to get pregnant if you're younger than 18. I doubt it... once your fertile, your fertile. I think they are just trying to discourage younger people from having sex.
However, i think there can be a greater likelihood of teens getting pregenant, one reason is because they are less likeily to use protection, and secondly because everybody's libidos are supercharged when they are teens. Teens might have sex 5 times a day, where the normal adult might do that over a week or month time frame. So the increased frequency in itself increases the risk of being pregnant.
You are very smart for not wanting to get pregnant. The problem with your friend, is one that seems to happen again and again and again. Do what you can to help your friend build her self-confidence and esteem. She can't go on living her life passivly waiting for some man to treat her with respect, she has to go out and get it herself. If she can learn that lesson she'll be ok.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 I suppose that it's easy to fall pregnant because you're young and fertile. If you're afraid of this, which is so right, I think the BCP should help. If you're too afraid, perhaps you can ask your boyfriend to use a condom.
As to your friend, her situation is regrettable, but I'm afraid there isn't much you can do. She is in a very difficult situation which she needs to deal with herself. From what you say, I know she realizes where she stands with this guy, but, she's young and maybe she thinks she needs to keep the guy around, for the baby. Of course she deserves better, but, maybe she feels trapped. Perhaps you could talk to her and check whether there is a way to help her. Don't mess with her splitting with the boyfriend, as you're likely to find a lot of resistance; help her in other ways.
Hope this helps.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Hi,
Its pretty easy for you to get pregnant, as long as you have periods, at any age. Although there are some exceptional circumstances of course.
The reason its not a good idea though, well you answered your own question really. At that age very few people are mature enough to cope with it. And your mates boyfriend is a prime example.
You cant make this boy, faithfull to your friend. But you can try to make her life better by letting her know you are there for her. You will, no doubt be picking up the pieces when this all goes wrong for her. And it will.
She is lucky she has such good friends to be there, when that poor baby's father wont be.
Learn from your mate, dont do it to young, you usually end up on your own.
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