I am suffocating in my arranged marriage!
Q. Hi Its funny i didnt even think i will be ever coming to these site. i am asian i just turned 24 i have been married for 7 years now. i never approved with me marriage because it was forced by my parents. i just turned 17 when i got ...
A. 23 August 2010: Why dont you tell us exactly whats going on inside you?...pls tell us everything.
I try not to judge people.
Look forward to yr reply... (read in full...)
I am suffocating in my arranged marriage!
Q. Hi Its funny i didnt even think i will be ever coming to these site. i am asian i just turned 24 i have been married for 7 years now. i never approved with me marriage because it was forced by my parents. i just turned 17 when i got ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi there,
If you cant resolve things with yr hubby/family then :-
I think that you have two options
1) Speak to the Imman @ yr mosque and see if he can help you resolve things in a peaceful/ammicable way.
or
2) You need to get out of t... (read in full...)
Contraception Question - I want to put my periods on hold
Q. I've been on the Cilest pill for over a year now. So far it has been effective, has made my periods lighter and more comfortable and has improved my complexion. However, I'm going to uni to study dance in september. I'll be moving about a lot, and...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi,
I would be very vary of messing with mother nature and trying to put your periods on hold. The Pharmacuticle co's dont tell you of the side effects off all these chemicals in yr body & the long term damage they cause...could cause damange ... (read in full...)
Music to turn him on?
Q. What music would you advice to turn a man on? or maybe for strip tease,,, ??? Something so erotic......
A. 19 August 2010: If he's a sports fan..maybe the music to MAtch of the Day or the one for the Cricket..lol ;)
Generally you cant go wrong with Marvin Gaye/Lionel Richie/Commodores/Barry White/Bee Gees/Gloria Estervan/Stylistics & Prince...all of which can be found... (read in full...)
What other things can you use to masterbate??
Q. instead of dildo, vibrator,etc. what other things can you use to masterbate?...
A. 18 August 2010: Hi,
I have friends who work in the medical proffession (as Nurses/paramedics/Dr's..they tell me of some of the things that men & women use to masterbate (or rather things that they have removed over the yrs when they have worked in A&E..the... (read in full...)
Tattoos... a turn on or a turn off?
Q. Help, i find tattoo's a real turn off my gf is planning on getting one, im worried it would make me feel less attracted to her tattoo's i dont mind on other people, i keep my opinion to myself unless asked on what i think about tattoo's in g...
A. 17 August 2010: Hi,
For me...def a turn off big time..sorry but I find that it makes a woman look masculine....even if its an angle/butterfly etc... (read in full...)
Swollen testicles causing discomfort.....
Q. ok so sometimes my right testicle will swell slightly, its not that bad but it is causing discomfort. Also the lower abdomen is swollen on the right side just before my testicle and is slightly harder than the left side. When in this state if i ...
A. 17 August 2010: Hi,
That sounds very painfull!!
I think that you should go to yr Dr or a GIU clinic ASAP. You could have an infection..but its better not to speculate & get it seen to sooner rather than later.
... (read in full...)
Should I reunite with my one true love?
Q. MOD NOTE: 2 posts combined into one I have been aware for 15 years that my first and only real love has been trying to find me. The only link he knew to me was my mother and she would tell me he contacted her, but she would not give him my info bec...
A. 15 August 2010: Hi,
A similar thing happened to me recently...my 1st love tracked me down after 30 yrs!! ( you can see my question on here.)
Long story short. Sally is married now & has 4 kids!! I am single. We met..got on very well. After such a long time... (read in full...)
Is 'I'm not ready for a relationship' a polite way of saying 'I'm just not that into you'?
Q. If a guy says that the time is not right for him to be in a relationship and that it wouldn't be fair to me to start a relationship, is there EVER a time that this is a true statement? I feel like he's just letting me down easy and that he is j...
A. 15 August 2010: Hi,
Its a difficult q to ans without more information from you.
It could be a way of letting you down gently or it could be that hes just come out of another realtionship/about to leave the area for wk/studies etc and needs time...
Hope ... (read in full...)
Does flirting with other guys equal cheating?
Q. Does flirting with other guys equal cheating? I've got a bf but I tend to sometimes flirt with other guys, no touching, nothing, just teasing them. Is this wrong and does this mean I'm cheating in any way? ...
A. 12 August 2010: Hi,
Some would say that its "Emotional Cheating". Why dont you spend the time constructively with yr BF rather than "other guys". If you love someone then you dont flirt with others.
I guess that there must be something missing in yr current re... (read in full...)
How to know if he's the "one"
Q. I have an important question.. How do you know when you've found the right guy? How do you know that you've found the person you can spend the rest of your life living happily with? I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 8 years now. We'...
A. 12 August 2010: Hi,
When I 1st read yr post...I thought "If you have to ask if hes the one..... then he's not!! "
However, You know if he's the "ONE" if you CANT live without him & vice versa. The way that you describe him & yr recent meeting it sounds like h... (read in full...)
Do boys like big girls?
Q. dear cupid i know that this has nothing to do with relationships but i need advice. i am 14 and i have 38dd breasts, is that normal? i really want 2 lose weight what exercise helps? and i have 42 inch hips and i am 5 feet tall. do boys like big ...
A. 8 August 2010: Hi there,
I agree with what most of the people say on here.
If you want to lose weight, best way to do it is to eat properly (loads of veg & fruit) and excercise. I find for me the best excercise is cycling/swimming as it minimises the st... (read in full...)
what do guys mean by take care?
Q. Mode Note OP's own title: I have a close guy friend,we've agreed we have feelings for each other but he isnt single and Im not prepared to take things further in this situation. We crossed the friendship boundary once but have gone back to frie...
A. 7 August 2010: Hi,
WOW I am amazed at the diffrecences between guys/girls on a simple message and how it can be misconstrewed!!!!
I sign of my sms with "Take Care"...its not meant to mean GOOD BYE forever..just take care of yrself till we meet/speak/email... (read in full...)
Am I setting a good example by staying for the kids, or am I setting myself up to be alone with a stranger when the kids leave the home?
Q. Hi, I am 28yrs old and have been married for 9 years. I am not sure exactly what answers I am seeking, but am compelled to tell my story in hopes of gaining some advice, or at least a different perspective from those in similar or different ...
A. 23 July 2010: Hi there,
Thanks for your post...I think I understand where you are coming from.
My 1st love from 30 yrs ago recently contacted my under strange circumstances (see my post under my name). I feel that she's in a similar posn to you.
To cut a... (read in full...)
Did you ever love someone you couldn't have?
Q. This isn't really for advice, more for opinions. Is there anyone whose ever loved someone before or had feelings for someone, but there was sort of an obstacle to get to that person? Did you ever get to them? Was it worth it to risk the things y...
A. 23 July 2010: Hi,
My 1st Love from 30yrs ago recently got in touch via some strange circumstances. I had got over her 29 yrs ago but now am v confused.
Unfortunatly she married with kids...but appears unhappy. We met and hit if off again!!.We met f... (read in full...)
I'm emotionally stressed thinking about her and I can't handle it anymore!
Q. a couple of months ago i realised that the girl i was absolutly stone cold crazy about, was never going to feel the same way about me as i did about her. even though i had found out that it was never meant to happen between us, i still couldnt stop ...
A. 23 July 2010: Hi,
Sorry to hear what you are going through..I had something similar many yrs ago. I found the best way to get over her was to take up new hobbies/go to different places...maybe even take up an activity like Salsa/ballroom dancing which allows y... (read in full...)
My family doesn't approve of my boyfriend because he's of a different race!
Q. i have met and fallen in love with a guy, we dream of a future together, but inside my heart is breaking. I am caucasion, he is black. The problem seems to be with my father and brothers. They are all racist, so i am to scared to introduce m...
A. 14 July 2010: Hi,
I had something similar 20+ yrs ago. In those days it was very unusual for an middleclass "english " girl to date an asian guy.I will call her Linda. She didnt have any brothers though.
When she took me home after our 1st date, I initally... (read in full...)
Is this man I really liked a con, sex addict and fraudster?
Q. hi i just got back from turkey i fell in love with a beautiful man working on beach and in bars. he wrote me a note to meet him that night, i was shocked as i had not really spoke to him i went and he told me a story about someone conning him for ...
A. 9 July 2010: Hi,
From a mans point of view Sorry to say this, but I agree with the other two posts on here.
He's looking for a "rich" western woman and sees you as a good way to get out of Turkey.
A real man would not ask a woman for money
Cheers
Ben... (read in full...)
Will he say I misused his brother in law? I consider it harmless!
Q. i am very open with my youngest BIL who is 22. started with he shown sexual interest up on me. when i spoke with my husband he told its just normal at his age and i shud not be very harsh to BIL. a day i noticed that he tried to touch on my boobs i ...
A. 9 July 2010: Hi,
Dont let yr BIL touch you again. What would happen if your husband knew?
I suggest that you find a woman for yr BIL and dont be alone with him again or you will end up having consentual sex or you may get raped by him.
STAY AWAY FROM ... (read in full...)
We've tried everything and I still cant orgasm!
Q. I can't orgasm. Plain and simple. We've tried everything. Oral, intercourse, fingering, vibrators, lube, anal. He even bought the mother of all vibrators. The stupid thing wouldn't go in. I was wet ready to go. So we poured a ton of lube on it. S...
A. 2 July 2010: Hi,
It sounds like you need to relax....perhaps you can go away for a w/e?...maybe a change of scenery will help.
Instead if trying to irgasm...try to enjoy yr love making..and things will happen. If you are stressed out and egar to orgasm..... (read in full...)
Suggestions needed on how to stimulate my guy??
Q. My boyfriend wants me to try new things involving foreplay. He doesn't want to have to tell me what to do because he gets the feeling like he is training me and that is just wrong. I'm fairly inexperienced and I don't know much about what stimulates ...
A. 29 June 2010: Hi,
Have you talked to your friends about this..they may have some ideas.
Different guys like different things that turns them on.
You could always buy/hire love making dvds and see what works or alternatively do you guys watch porn toge... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 29 June 2010: Hi,
If she is miserable in her marriage and wont leave until the kids r old enough (which I suspect) I would offer her the same support she gave me all those yrs ago when I was going through a tough time with my father. Without expecting anything... (read in full...)
Need tips for sex with my husband!
Q. i am 36 yrs old and married. i want when i do sex with my husband before him my ejaculation gets over how can i make it longer and tell me some new tips for sex but it should not be oral. and my husband is very sexy but i dont get that much energy ...
A. 29 June 2010: Hi,
Do you mean that you orgasm befor he does?. Its very difficult to understand what you are saying... (read in full...)
My best friend set me up and I am scared he will blackmail me
Q. my bestfriend told me that his cousin is all over him and demanding him to sleep with her, one night he said that she's at their house and he cant resist her anymore and he's so turned on, he said he needs help. i suggested him to mast. maybe he'd ...
A. 29 June 2010: Hi,
I'm SOOOO sorry that you have to go through this.
I would suggest that you keep away from him.
Can you confide in yr Mum/Dad/Aunt?
Please dont give into any of his blackmail threats...just tell him to stop bullying you and ideally cu... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 29 June 2010: Hi,
Thanks for your comments.
I disagree with you. Sally's relationship with her husband is of interest to me as I need to know where I stand if we are going to be friends. I wont enter into a realtionship with her whilst she's married.
... (read in full...)
My wife lets on that mine's not big enough
Q. My wife had sex sometime before we were married to a guy with a very large penis and has let it slip a few times that mine does not measure up. How do I keep from letting this affect our sex life?...
A. 29 June 2010: Hi,
You dont state how big you are erect...ave in UK is approx 5" according to the shows on TV!!!
A mate of mine has a similar problem...but he makes up for the lack of size with stamina and pleanty of experimentation.
Its what you do to yr... (read in full...)
How can I love my small breasts?
Q. I've only had one boyfriend and he told me he liked big breasts better, that most guys do because of fertility and I don't what crap. I can't get over this, not even after having broken up (other reasons). I notice how most men drool over large ...
A. 29 June 2010: Hi,
Speaking as a redbloodied male, I prefer women with small breasts.... I find them much sexier than large breasts..besides when you cuddle a woman, its nicer to be clse to her without the huge breasts getting in he way...(sorry if you are a la... (read in full...)
What is a good quote for a tattoo - to show I have overcome depression?
Q. I suffered from severe depression in the past and want to get a tattoo to show that I have overcome it. I want to get a quote. does anyone have any suggestions...
A. 29 June 2010: A tattoo is never a good solution to show that you have overcome depression....as it will be a permanent reminder that you had it.
Try doing some positive things..maybe charity/voluntry wk. This will make you feel better
Cheers
... (read in full...)
I feel guilty and terrible because I gave oral to a guy while drunk. Any advice?
Q. basically I'm feeling incredibly guilty because I gave head to a guy last night. Im quite young so that was my first time... He was one of my best friends but he also went out with my best friend for a little bit a couple of months back. I feel so ...
A. 29 June 2010: Hi, I think you should talk to the guy that was meant to be yr " one of yr best mates" and ask him why he did that? Friends dont do that to each other. You could try the denial route if it doesnt work you may end up looking worse. You could ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend's woman
Q. So I feel like the most terrible human being because of this, i've only told one person of this but I need the advice of someone who has delt with it....I'm completely and totally in love with my best friends wife, she's absolutely the perfect ...
A. 29 June 2010: Hi there,
I had something similar happen to me... a Mates Wife is in love with me.
Stay away. dont spend time with her. Try not to be alone with her this will only make things difficult.
Find a woman for yrself and you will be much happier... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 28 June 2010: Hi,
I'm not messing with her..I may never see her again....will meet her again if she contacts me again and find out whats going on.
I wanted to ask her on the nite but we were too busy chatting/getting to know each others lives over the l... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 28 June 2010: Hi,
I'm not messing with her..I may never see her again....will meet her again if she contacts me again and find out whats going on.
I wanted to ask her on the nite but we were too busy chatting/getting to know each others lives over the l... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 28 June 2010: UPDATE
You might wanna get more coffee/sick bucket...lol
I called Sally @ suggested time to confirm meet up but she didnt pick up...I thought she'd got cold feet.....so I left it.
She called me back approx 1 hr later and apologised ..s... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 21 June 2010: Update.
I finally contacted her after much thought last Mon.
I got a sms from her asking if she could call me @ 6pm last mon nite but I was busy and suggested that she/I call after 9.30pm. She then sms me her wk no and suggested time ... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 10 June 2010: Dear anonymous, The inital contact doesnt seem to suggest social networking....we had NO connection on our FR website. And how do you explain her 2 fav songs appearing as suggestions on my You Tube a/c @ the same time (both from different genres... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 10 June 2010: Hey Anon Female, ( I will dispense with the degrogatory name for women as you suggested as I have a great deal of respect for women)
I did move on 29 yrs ago. I have had some special & wonderful realtionships since then..one I nearly married ... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 9 June 2010: Hi "A female reader, anonymous.." its a pity that you cant leave a name!!
My partner and I had problems b4 this all came about.I didnt kick her out at a momments notice. She saw some old photos of me and Sally...photos that I had in storage ... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 9 June 2010: Hi TimmyD
Thanks for your comments
I work as a Management consultant ( BOO HISS I here you all say..lol :) )..My gut feelings are normally pretty good both @ wk and in my personal life. But this really threw me thats why I came on here.
I do... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 9 June 2010: Hi West 1000,
Thanks for your comments.
To be perfectly honest with you, I dont know what I feel about Sally.
I guess I will go and meet her with an open mind if she still wants to meet once I call her...it will be a shock to the system prob... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 8 June 2010: Hi,
I have finished with my current partner.
I have never been "hung up" on white girls. I didnt see her colour..just someone who was very kind/caring/considerate/intelligent/funny/loving and supportive.
I have never dated a woman due to... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 4 June 2010: Hi guys,
Thanks for all your comments..just thought I'd give you an update.
A couple of weeks ago..someone from my infants school uploaded another photo of my class (taken when I was approx 6). I managed to identify myself on there as many ha... (read in full...)
How long should you wait if you want to keep a man?
Q. How long should you wait to have sex with a man you are seeing if you want to keep him?...
A. 25 May 2010: Hi,
I agree 100% with Rambini....if you have to sleep with him to "keep him" ..he's not worthy of you.
If he is presssuring you to sleep with him..then you have probaly lost him already.
If you dont respect yrself..then he wont re... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 25 May 2010: Hi Bunny Tee,
Sorry I dont mean to insult you or any of our cousins across the pond.
I have been to the US and the culture there is very diff to the UK..as are many of the customs/traditions. Surprisingly the UK is very diff to Europe.
U... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 25 May 2010: Hi,
Thanks to all for yr comments...West1000 in particular this is EXACTLY whats happening to me.
I am not obsessed with her..her recent actions have left me confused thats all..and bought back some wonderful painful memories. (Why upload the ... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 24 May 2010: Hi there,
Thanks for your comments.
There appears to be some confusion.
Lets look at the facts:-
I know its 30 yrs and she says she's married with 3 kids...so I dont even want to go there.
What has confused the heck outta me is:-
1) ... (read in full...)
Contacting her again has resurrected all of these old feelings...what should I do?
Q. I'm confused. Recently, an ex g/f came up as a "do you know this person" on my Friends Reunited page. She and I had a very loving realationship 30 yrs ago..the break up was hard on both of us. We were best friends before and during our r...
A. 20 May 2010: Hi,
I am normally a very rational guy. People come to me with thier problems both professionally and socaily.
I know that we are 30 yrs down the line..both probably v different people..bhal bhal bhal.
I know this is strange and If I did mee... (read in full...)
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