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writes:Help, i find tattoo's a real turn offmy gf is planning on getting one, im worried it would make me feel less attracted to her tattoo's i dont mind on other people, i keep my opinion to myself unless asked on what i think about tattoo's in general. she knows my position on them and the fact i am opposed to them, it's not in my moral code. i find it quite discusting in a sense, it just turns me off.im feeling confused and worried, i have a high sex drive and worry this will force me to contain myself or turn to self pleasure instead of having sex with her. i dont think i could face a tattoo on a girl, let alone my girl :/ she's her own person and everything, so im not gonna stop her, but wow it puts me in a weird position if she was to get one :s
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 Well I have a few and haven't got any complaints. But then I haven't been looking for a LTR since I got them.
I think on guys they usually look silly (most times).
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): Huge turn off for me.
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reader, misfitschik66  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 my fiance actually thought girls who had tattoo's were sleazy
he didn't even know i had a tattoo until he fell in love with me and i put my hair up (it's on the back of my neck) it's also a band tattoo so it isn't your regular tat it's very unique
he was surprised with how my personality reflects it.. now he adores it and thinks it super sexy
i got another on just a few months ago.. on my wrist we discussed it and i made sure it was ok with him that i get it there and if it was an ok choice
he went with me and we had a good time.. he loves that one too seeing i got it because it also fits my personality
he loves how i like to show my loves and interest
He is now thinking about getting one of his own
i think you need to open your world up and understand that tattoo's aren't just about one thing they mean alot more to most people
if it turns you off then don't date woman with tattoo's
my fiances sister has a tattoo and she is a business woman nobody knows about it except a few people.. she hides it actually REALLY well not even there mother has seen it or knows about it
maybe she could cover it up while you have sex if you still feel passionate about hating them so much
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (17 August 2010):
 I think I understand what you mean by moral code and tatoos, in general women with tatoos are advertising to the world, I am a wild woman, and up for anything (sex included)...so it's not the tatoo itself you are morally against, but what impression it is meant to portray to the world.
I am not a big fan of tatoos, I had a long term boyfriend who had a couple of small ones in places his clothing covered so I didn't judge him based on those two tatoos, it did turn out though that he doesn't have morals, and he did a good job of hiding that from me, plus a lot of other things, so I think in general you can draw some conclusions about a person's overall character by the tatoos they choose to put on their body....of course I am sure there are exceptions, maybe in a rock musician or something, where it sort of comes with the rock and roll image, but these people have a career where tatoos are the norm, so it's in a different context sometimes, although rock and rollers have a reputation of being womanizers, sex addicts, and drug addicts, so that' there culture.
I would say that this girl and you are not compatible on a basic level, and you are right to wonder how your relationship will fare. This is just a symptom of your incompatibility.
My vote is tatoos are somewhat a turn off for me, not so much sexually as my ability to trust that person's moral code. Hope this helps.
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reader, blue_eyes1981 +, writes (17 August 2010):
 If you love her you will overlook any tat she gets. No idea why you find tatts disgusting though. It's the oldest form of adorning the body it's not a huge issue you seem determined to make it into one though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): Big turn off for me too. I did not forbid my wife from doing it, but I certainly let her know that I do not find them attractive, and to the contrary, find them very unappealing. But, I said, it is ultimately your body, and your choice. As a wife, she made the voice not to do something that her husband finds aesthetically repulsive. But that was HER decision to make...
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reader, dirtball +, writes (17 August 2010):
 Well, everyone has their hangups I guess. What's your question? I don't really see one here, more of a venting.
I'm neutral on tattoos personally. Some can be awesome, some ugly, it all depends on the person. At least you realize it is her body and her decision.
What about tattoos is so morally wrong to you?
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reader, mrvhappy +, writes (17 August 2010):
Hi,
For me...def a turn off big time..sorry but I find that it makes a woman look masculine....even if its an angle/butterfly etc
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