My 15 year old daughter is pregnant, any advice on how I proceed?
Q. well at the mo i should be called sad mommie..my daughter has come home tonite and told me she is pregnant..she is only 15..said she wants to go ahead with the pregnancy..im so confused..i cant think straight..told her we will talk tomorrow as she ...
A. 8 June 2008: No offense but you said, Even in the animal kingdom , they don't do that."
I said it does occur and gave some examples.
That was the point that it does happen in nature. You didn't disprove that.
No offense. Apologies to the OP... (read in full...)
I had sex with my best friend's boyfriend and now I'm pregnant.
Q. i need help and quick. im 13 and about three months ago i had sex with my best friend's boyfriend. i regret it, because im pregnant. i dont know how to tell people. let alone my best friend. please help....
A. 8 June 2008: Honey, don't worry about the boy or your friend right now. Go tell your mum right now.
You need to get to a doctor and get tested for STDs and also to make sure you are ok.
To the person who is against abortion:
An abortion may be the ... (read in full...)
My husband is making me have too many children!
Q. I need some advice. I am 8 months pregnant with my 5th child. my other children are 7, 5, 4 and 18 months old. My husband works extremely long hours and spends every second week working in another state. I was done having children after our t...
A. 8 June 2008: It is easy for your husband to say keep having more because he doesn't have to take care of them. He has conveniently made himself scarce with a job with long hours and lots of travel.
I suggest when he takes a week off for you to go on vacation... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to give oral? I've been trying for years!
Q. i want to give my husband oral sex but every time i put his penis in my mouth i start to gag and i dont like the feeling. i have been trying for years to give him oral does any one have any tips how to over come this problem i have as i really want ...
A. 8 June 2008: Is he clean down there? Make sure he is washed and trimmed and then just try some licking first. Good luck... (read in full...)
My 15 year old daughter is pregnant, any advice on how I proceed?
Q. well at the mo i should be called sad mommie..my daughter has come home tonite and told me she is pregnant..she is only 15..said she wants to go ahead with the pregnancy..im so confused..i cant think straight..told her we will talk tomorrow as she ...
A. 7 June 2008: Actually the animal kingdom does do this and often.
Herding animals will kick and kill their own young to protect the herd during attack or kill often crippled or injured.
Mice, hamsters, etc actually will eat their own young.
Fish e... (read in full...)
Should I give my husband a second chance after he cheated and had a child behind my back?
Q. March of this year was the worse month of my life. I found out my husband of 5 years, had cheated on me 3 years ago. During that affair they conceived a child. The child is now around 3 years old and I never knew anything about her. I received a l...
A. 7 June 2008: I know you love him but that love has to go both ways. What he did was not loving to you or your children at all. It disrespected you and the kids to the fullest extent. He is a liar and a cheat. Is that the kind of person you want to spend the rest ... (read in full...)
My marriage has quickly become angry and bitter over my husbands job opportunity in another country... how should I handle this?
Q. My marriage has quickly become angry and bitter over my husbands job 'opportunity'. He works for a finance company who wants to set up offices in Australia (either Sydney or Melbourne they are not sure which at the moment) and they have asked him ...
A. 6 June 2008: I moved here from the US and it is 100 times better. My life has changed for the better.
I say give it a chance.
... (read in full...)
My 15 year old daughter is pregnant, any advice on how I proceed?
Q. well at the mo i should be called sad mommie..my daughter has come home tonite and told me she is pregnant..she is only 15..said she wants to go ahead with the pregnancy..im so confused..i cant think straight..told her we will talk tomorrow as she ...
A. 6 June 2008: I will go with the have the abortion camp. You are the mother of a minor and if she has the baby, you will be the one taking care of it.
At 15, people aren't allowed to make legal decisions, drive, go to war, get married, etc. and why...? because ... (read in full...)
I don't like her back!!!
Q. Hi, I'm 15. I've been single for almost 2 years now. My hearts always out to beautiful girls I cant have. But this one girl likes me. She's crazy for me. But I dont like her back. I don't consider her to be my type nor beautiful. I f...
A. 2 June 2008: It is good that you posted here. Just think how you would feel if a girl used you for awhile until she found someone better. I don't think you would like it at all.
Do you realize the way you feel about this girl you don't find attracti... (read in full...)
It's a stressful period for him, should I give him time and hope for reconciliation? I started nagging him about commitment and we broke up.
Q. I just broke up with my bf...together for almost a year and things were great. We are in our 20s-30s so mature adults here. Thing is we've had different expectations about marriage (I know this is a fundamental problem) and he's going through some ...
A. 2 June 2008: You're doing fine. A week isn't long at all. Just wait for him to contact you and don't contact him.... (read in full...)
He's more experienced than me and I need some tips on improving my technique
Q. I've been on three dates with this guy and on our third and last date we finally made out. I know that in the next few dates it'll lead to at least oral sex if not actual intercourse. I'm very self conscious about my abilities for oral and ...
A. 28 May 2008: I would be more concerned if his oral skills were up to par! Most men are really easy to please in the bedroom. ... (read in full...)
It's a stressful period for him, should I give him time and hope for reconciliation? I started nagging him about commitment and we broke up.
Q. I just broke up with my bf...together for almost a year and things were great. We are in our 20s-30s so mature adults here. Thing is we've had different expectations about marriage (I know this is a fundamental problem) and he's going through some ...
A. 26 May 2008: Give him time. Don't contact him in any way. It'll give him a chance to really miss you. If he really wants a future with you, he'll be back
Best wishes! xo... (read in full...)
Please help. I can't move on or let go and it hurts.
Q. I am really struggling to come to terms with my break up. I was with M for 2.5yrs. I moved across counties with my son to be with him after only 3mths. I know you will say it was too soon. Over time his temper and verbal aggression reminded me of my ...
A. 25 May 2008: I am so glad you are out of this mess. Any longer and you would have been in the loony bin!
It will take time to heal from all this abuse so be kind to yourself. Surround yourself with loving friends and family. See a counselor if you feel you... (read in full...)
When do you know you are ready for sex?
Q. When do you know that your ready for sex !???!...
A. 25 May 2008: When you feel absolutely no pressure from a boy to do so and when you are not doing it because you think a boy will like you more if you do.
When you have talked about pregnancy and STDs and have a reliable form of birth control and condoms.... (read in full...)
He has me on a 7 pm curfew! And he blames me for what he does to me! Am I doing the right thing planning to leave him?
Q. I'm now 21 years old. I was barely 19 when I MOVED IN with my boyfriend. Things have gotten worse since I turned 21. He has me on a 7PM curfew! If I'm a few minutes late he doesn't talk to me for the rest of the night. Hes even locked me out for ...
A. 25 May 2008: Honey, you are young and have your entire life ahead of you. There is no reason to ever put up with this type of treatment from anyone!
Remember this, someone who hits you doesn't like you. This poor excuse for a man thinks you are his personal... (read in full...)
Lately, I've been thinking. About relationships, love... What do you think we need in order to be satisfied in a relationship?
Q. Lately, I've been thinking. Everyone here has an ideal type of relationship, different things work for different people; but, I do wonder, how many of us really get the things we want/have the type of relationships we enjoy. The golden standard ...
A. 25 May 2008: Very good and thought provoking questions.
If you have been brought up in a society where people are seen as disposable when one tires of them and have no reference to a happy marriage that has lasted more than 10 years, then it is easy to think... (read in full...)
Since starting work he's got enough time for his friends but not enough tme for me
Q. I have been dating this guy for 1 year and a few months now. Things were soo good in the beginning..and i got really attached to him, i thought things were going to be like that forever. But then he got a job, so we couldnt see eachother as much. ...
A. 24 May 2008: I say get busy with your own life, friends, and your own activities. He will notice you are gone and likely step up wanting to see you more.
Best wishes! xo... (read in full...)
Should I move for love?
Q. My bf and I have been together for almost a year...recently he's relocated to another country and he's asked me to move with him. We are still going to live separately. I am giving up a career here, but he thinks it's not a bad thing for me to be in ...
A. 24 May 2008: No, it isn't in your best interest to give up everything for someone else without a commitment from him meaning a ring and a date. What if things went sour after you moved there?... (read in full...)
My husband is unaffectionate and cold, what can I do?
Q. we have been married for 2 years. before we got married, it took me a while to accept my partner as the one. he now seems to be very bitter about the rough time i gave him. before we got married, he used to be this nice guy but nowadys he is very ...
A. 24 May 2008: Try to talk to your husband and see if he is interested in making the marriage work. If he wants to stay in the marriage, then he will have to learn ways of resolving conflict. Ask him to remember why he got married in the first place. if things ... (read in full...)
I broke up and now I want him back!
Q. I need help ! I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago.. he was such a great person but things between me and his mom went wrong and i couldnt take it anymore.. He kept begging for me back but I just couldn't stand his mom and I kept refusing.. ...
A. 24 May 2008: Ask yourself this. If he had no girlfriend right now, would you still be wanting him back?... (read in full...)
What can I do to keep on having this great relationship?
Q. Hi everyone ok here it goes me n my bf love each other very much n 4 the past couple days theyve been amazing hes been living w/me n we usually fite alot but i believe that what weve fought abt has been eliminated n things have been great im just ...
A. 24 May 2008: It takes two people to fight. If you feel the issues that were problems have been resolved, there is no reason to bring them up again.
Are the issues serious enough to be fighting about or are they things that really don't matter?... (read in full...)
My parents can't communicate with my boyfriend
Q. My parents seems to claim they don't know my boyfriend well enough. We have been dating for 3 years (I'm 25 and he's 27). He comes over and stay every 2nd weekends at my parent's house. My parents don't speak English very well, and my boyfriend is ...
A. 24 May 2008: Ask you parents what he can do to make them feel more comfortable. You boyfriend does sound like he is making effort to talk to them and spend time with them.... (read in full...)
How can I stop him being so stuck on me. I've never encouraged him at all
Q. Okay so... I need some advice..I have NEVER delt with someone like this before. I have a cousin, Dina. She's pregnant, (again) and she's a total leech. She's my family, but I have very little respect for her. Anyways recently she left her bo...
A. 24 May 2008: The fastest way to get rid of a guy is to act like a bunny boiler. Call him and pester him day and night. Call him at work and bug him. Tell him you want to marry and have 10 babies. He'll disappear so fast you'll see skid marks.
It's funny ho... (read in full...)
We have an age gap. Will it work?
Q. Hi I am 23 and i am living with a man who is 46. we have been living together 3 1/2 months. He and i share similar opinions, leisure time preferences, ideas, jokes, hobbies etc, even though unlike the usual "older man younger woman" scenario ...
A. 21 May 2008: The age gap is fine right now but what about in 20/30 years? He'll be elderly and getting frail and you'll still be young and full of life.... (read in full...)
She is amazing but her past puts me off...
Q. Im in a relationship with someone. I love her. She is amazing. She is, ultimately, what I have ever desired about in a woman. Except, I fear she is a slut... Slept with about 20 people, one a couple weeks before me... A couple months before that ...
A. 21 May 2008: I am wondering how the conversation about how many partners came up in the first place? Don't ask questions you might not want to hear the answer to.
It doesn't matter what we think she is. It matters what you think and it seems you don't th... (read in full...)
Should I cheat or not? I'm in a long distance relationship of 5 months and won't see her for 6 more!
Q. Hi I'm a student and I'm in a long distance relationship but its only been 5 months do, bad thing is that I wont be seeing her for the next 6 months,do you think I should cheat whilest I personally don't want to cheat coz I really love this girl but ...
A. 20 May 2008: Ask yourself are you a stand up man with character, integrity, and true to his word?
These days it is so easy to do the wrong thing but a real man does the right thing even if it is difficult.... (read in full...)
Why would he make plans with me if he has a girlfriend?
Q. i feel incredibly depressed, i feel like i've lost my self confidence and i'm not worth anything, i started seeing this guy a while ago...it was my own fault to get intimate with him only after a few dates but the chemistry and his genuine ...
A. 20 May 2008: Dear, you are worth plenty! It isn't your fault for wanting to trust what turned out to be a dog.
I always tell the young ladies that the key to finding out a young man's true intentions with you are keeping your knees together.
It is very ea... (read in full...)
He wants naked pictures of me
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 months. Its a long distance relationship. To be honest Ive never met him before yet. He is a friend of mines boyfriends brother. We enjoy talking to each other everynight for more than 4 hours. We just ...
A. 20 May 2008: Please never send anything that you wouldn't want your mother to see!
You have never met this person. Online relationships encourage a false sense of intimacy. Please stop with the cyber too. You are giving far too much to someone you have nev... (read in full...)
I hardly see him, he wants to take it slow but am I being strung along?
Q. I have been seeing a man for the past couple of months and I know that I am falling in love with him and yet I have absolutely no idea what he wants or feels. I have been understanding, caring, not clingy as he leads a very demanding life and yet ...
A. 20 May 2008: I think it would be wise to date other men and put this one on the back burner. Also, if you are having sex with him, stop as he is supposed to be taking it slow and that means the intimate parts too.
good luck!
xo
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Should I be upset that my husband sends over 100 text mesaages a month to her?
Q. I am afraid that my husband of 21 years is having an emotional affair with a women at work. I have confronted him several times only to hear shes married, its nothing quit sweating about it, however, he works 5 to 5 and he tells me hes has no time...
A. 19 May 2008: What he is doing is very inappropriate. He thinks you really wouldn't ever leave. I would tell him one last time to stop it; maybe even contact the woman and talk to her a bit. Then if he continues, leave him. Most likely he will want you back so ... (read in full...)
Am I a horrible person for having lied?
Q. Am I a horrible person for having lied? My ex broke up with me yesterday. It was because I came clean about some stuff after I had lied to him some other times before. It involved my past. I hid a lot of things about my past. According to mos...
A. 17 May 2008: I'll never figure out why so many young people feel the need to have true confession time about their pasts. Sometimes I wonder if it is subconscious sabotage of the current relationship.
Honey, I don't know what you did in your past but if it wa... (read in full...)
Could a long-distance relationship really work?
Q. can a long distance relationship work if youre in different countries and only see the person once a year? and also if we broke up 4 times within the year is that a bad sign? ...
A. 13 May 2008: Long distance can work but I think you have to see each other more than once a year and have a definite plan for ending the long distance and being together.
I did long distance for 3 years and saw each other about 2 times a year. It was very dif... (read in full...)
My bf of 2 yrs wants a break - to date other women! Help!
Q. My boyfriend of almost 2 years is requesting a break, but we're in an awkward situation because we live together and I just started a full time job (there is no way I could live on my own right now). He's not gonna kick me out or anything. We're ...
A. 5 May 2008: It sounds like your young man wants to have his cake and eat it too.
I think you need to be a bit tough with him on this. You are right with the no sex with him. Start treating him like a roommate and nothing more. It will be hard, very hard bec... (read in full...)
Tests were negative but something is not right. Please help.
Q. Help me Please Ive taken a total of 4 hpts two which were negative and two that were positive 1 urine test at the doc which was also negative I had sex in March a few weeks after I had sex I began to bleed after the bleeding stopped i took a test ...
A. 3 May 2008: If you were pregnant, the test would consistently be positive so it is very unlikely you are.
Have you been tested for STDs? That would be a good thing to do and also when you go for your visit, ask your doctor for a reliable method of birth co... (read in full...)
All guys adore me and find me the hottest, but would not approach me...are they totally crazy?!
Q. Well i am 19 years old and i am studying in this highly prestigious university in the United Kingdom. I am the most popular girl in class and my classmates think that i am a stuck up, attitude carrying show off. All this is said behind my back. ...
A. 3 May 2008: I would say that the guys would already think you have a boyfriend and are intimidated by you.
usually the only guys who have the nerve to approach you are super hot or are jerks. You will most likely have to approach boys you like first. T... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, my mum's single and disabled, please advise me what to do.
Q. I'm 14 and i'm pregnant. The boy doesn't want me to have the baby he's only 16. My mom doesn't think i should either. My mom is a disabled single mom and we are having a hard time. She takes care of me and my 10 yr old sister by herself. Is it fair...
A. 3 May 2008: Honey, I will give you my honest opinion. It wouldn't be a good idea to have a baby with the current circumstances. A baby brings a ton of stress even when a baby is planned by an older married couple who have good jobs.
Speaking from experien... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend compares everything I do to all the other girls he's been with...?
Q. i feel like whenever i try to give my boyfriend a blowjob.. i cant live up to the other girls he's been with..considering he's my first i just always feel like im being compared... and i realzie it makes me feel insecure about myself expeciall...
A. 29 April 2008: Honey, you don't have to to anything you don't feel comfortable with. You might ask yourself deep down why you are giving him oral, lapdances, and sex. Do you truly enjoy it and getting pleasure from it or are you mostly doing it for him to make ... (read in full...)
Should I let him meet this girl and just trust him, or tell him if he meets her it's over?
Q. hey, i need your help. I met a guy of facebook, he lives in my area and we met up and now going out. We've been together a month now, but last Friday he told me that this Friday he's meeting a random girl off the internet for the first time to go "s...
A. 29 April 2008: He is up to no good. If it is as innocent as he claims, then he would have no problem with you going with him to meet her. I would tell him how you feel about it.... (read in full...)
I can't help but feel jealous that this one girl keeps calling my bf or he keeps calling her?
Q. we've been dating for just about 7 months now and well...I can't help but feel jealous that this one girl keeps calling my bf or he keeps calling her. He knows that I don't like him hanging out with her and talking to her. I've talked to him many...
A. 29 April 2008: You have told him how you feel about the other girls and he still goes out with them so that tells you he doesn't respect you enough to stop hanging out with them. Now if they have been friends for years and years, it would be different but th... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend gay, or am I just imagining it?
Q. Is my boyfriend gay? I'm confused. I have been dating a man 12 years my senior for 2 years now and have serious doubts about his gender preference. He loves to have me come by his place every weekend to 'care for him' and seems to like my company ...
A. 28 April 2008: This guy sounds like a flake. Tons of red flags waving all over the place. Being with Mr. Wrong makes it impossible to allow Mr. Right into your life. You don't want to spend your life with someone that makes you feel bad. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my virginity yet-His persistance scared me so much I thought he was going to rape me!
Q. I had been dating my boyfriend for 7 months im a virgin and he is not. I have done stuff with him eg oral and jerked him off but not sex. He is getting bored. He says he wants to be inside me and cum inside me and stuff but i dont really want to. ...
A. 27 April 2008: No honey, he really doesn't love you. He just wants to get into your pants and use you.
The way he treated you and talked to you is just horrible. Never allow anyone to treat you like that. That isn't love at all. Please dump him. He is way too ... (read in full...)
We met online, only after we slept together he said that he loves his ex and we could remain FWB! Should I accept this?
Q. I met a guy on a dating site, we hit it off. But he broke up with me a few days later because he wanted to get back with his girlfriend. This is after we slept together. I emailed him back wanting to see him to discuss the situation. He said he ...
A. 24 April 2008: You deserve so much better than this. Because you are smart and attractive there is no need to accept crumbs from anyone. Besides, you know he is a cheater. Would you really want a boyfriend who is a cheater?
I'm certain his gf doesn't know he ... (read in full...)
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