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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now and I was wondering when is the right moment to have sex or if we should wait a little bit longer? Reply to this Question
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reader, !Candice16! +, writes (5 August 2008):
 im going to put it like this, when you guys are sure you both want this, you are both ready , use protection , and if the bond and realtionship is strong enough. if this didnt help then im really sorry. i hope i helped you in an easy way.
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reader, MissWendlemoot  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 When you feel absolutely no pressure from a boy to do so and when you are not doing it because you think a boy will like you more if you do.
When you have talked about pregnancy and STDs and have a reliable form of birth control and condoms.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 When it seems to happen naturally, not easy when you are both young and live with parents. I will say though be careful, think about protection and the fact that as you are in the usa its not legal yet for you x
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (5 August 2008):
 The right time to have sex with him is when you two are comfortable with each other.
And to me, by you asking this question, it seems that you're probably not ready to start having sex yet since you're not even sure when to start.
To know when to have sex with him, try to see if you two feel comfortable with each other. Also, see if your relationship is a loving, respectful one. Also see if he cares about you and will not only be with you to satisfy him but stay with you even when something bad happens, like an unwanted pregnancy.
There isn't really a definite time when it's right to start having sex in a relationship, but it's not recommendable to start too early. There are many reasons to this, but one main thing is that the guy would not tend to respect the girl since she was too "easy".
Now, think about all I told you. If you're not sure of your answers for I listed above, then you should try to wait a little longer. If you think what I suggested for you to think about is right in your relationship, then you could start. But remember to NOT let him pressure you to have sex. This should come from both of you and if one doesn't want it, then the other has to accept it as it is.
Now good luck and remember to stay protected!
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reader, Angela.B +, writes (5 August 2008):
 And as a follow up to what I just said, I notice you are in the US and the laws on age of consent are different there to here in the UK - so if you are not old enough yet, not until you are!
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reader, Angela.B +, writes (5 August 2008):
When you both feel ready to is the plain and simple answer.
Don't feel pressurised to do it (or not to do it) because you've been together for 4 months, or any other length of time. It's not about time, but about feelings and commitment.
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