Boyfriend wants everything his way and doesn't care about me!
Q. I'm getting really annoyed with my so-called boyfriend. I just can't reason with him anymore... even when I try to be fair and do things equally, it's still not good enough. For example, if we're arguing over which film to watch, I'll say "Okay, ...
A. 8 March 2011: Nothing! He's a selfish narcissist. Unless he's willing to be open to your wants, desires and needs on a 50-50 basis you've only got more of the same repeated behavior to expect from him. Unless you FORCEFULLY flex some authority, you are ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to pressure my wife to masterbate before sex, even if she doesn't like it?
Q. I love to watch or help my wife masturbate two or more times a week. We do have great sex after the masturbation. She says she does not like it but only does it because I like it and the all around sex after it. How do I get her to maybe want to ...
A. 6 March 2011: Most people consider masterbation to be personal and private and your wife may wish that her solo pleasuring be for her to experience on her own. If that's the case, you should respect her and allow her to enjoy herself privately. Men who insist ... (read in full...)
Sex toys vs the real thing. Which one is more satisfactory?
Q. Hi people I'm just curious. Sex toys (dildos) and the real thing (penis), which one is more satisfactory?...
A. 6 March 2011: I don't like objects in my vagina but do enjoy a vibrator against my clitoris. I prefer to have my husband over masterbation hands down. My vibrator doesn't make me feel sexy, desireable and wanted. My vibrator doesn't declare it's love and ... (read in full...)
He asked if I can shave down there, should I be offended?
Q. if my boyfriend and i have agreed to try fingering and whatever else goes with that should i be offended if he asked me if i can shave my vaginal area because he hates hair down there? do most people shave down there??? is it more sanitary?...
A. 6 March 2011: I've been shaved to have my children and to have female surgery because removing the hair lessons the chances of infection. However, I was completely offended when my husband asked me to shave. I personally don't like the feeling nor the look of ... (read in full...)
He has a girl friend. He flirts with me. Could there be a chance for us? He's two years older than me
Q. Dear Cupid, This guy and I have been friends for a few months, and we've already gotten close. He makes me laugh, and it's just so much fun being with him! But he's the kind of guy that would say flirty stuff, but you have to know that he's just jok...
A. 3 March 2011: Look at it like this Anxious and Confused, he has a girl friend who probubly isn't aware of his flirtatious nature with other females when she isn't around yet you are aware of her existance in his life. What he's doing is direspectful to her ( hi... (read in full...)
I have a noticeable mustache, I wear glasses, I'm overweight, and I've been told I look like a man and that I'm ugly. Please help!
Q. Hi well I’m 14 going on 15 and I’m very insecure I’ve always been overweight but not that much overweight. I’m 165 pounds I gained 30+ pounds in a year. I’ve been trying to lose but no success. I’m also very much unattractive. I feel very much use...
A. 1 March 2011: You really need a GYN and Endocrinology workup and the sooner the better. Everything you've discribed sounds like PCOS-Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome and the sooner you receive treatment, the better. If left untreated, can lead to not only ... (read in full...)
My wife never initiates sex with me. How can I fix this?
Q. My wife and I have been together for 9 yrs and she is not happy with her body and I have never given her any reason to think I agree with what she thinks I have actually told her and showed her I love the way she looks but even with all my effort ...
A. 18 February 2011: Many women feel that it's innapropriate to be sexually aggressive and it's the man's place to be the aggressor. Often these same women believe that being available to their partners sexually is their job, and not that their partners are ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't like oral sex but sex is getting boring!
Q. How can I get my girlfriend to please me more? We have been together 3 years now and sex is getting dull. She won't do anal and oral won't work because of her small mouth. Sex games don't work because they usually entail some oral stimulation. And ...
A. 16 February 2011: Your focus is wrong. Sex is a very enjoyable activity and just like lassagna and red velvet cake, I'll never tire of eating it. If you are getting bored and wanting to be "pleased" more, you are thinking entirely too much about yourself and not ... (read in full...)
Love her to bits but she says no sex before marriage and it's frustrating me!
Q. Hi I'm 28. For the first time in my life I think I am truly in love. My relationshiip with my girlfriend of 4 months is fantastic. However, she does not believe in sex before marriage because she is christian. I am not religious but repsect her...
A. 14 February 2011: My husband of 20+ yrs didn't have sex until we married and we dated nearly 4 yrs. In my opinion, any sexual activity that involves a partner is sex. This person is telling you that she has standards and the only way you are going to get into her ... (read in full...)
I find guys attractive until they pull their pants down!
Q. I find guys attractive until they pull their pants down. And I find that I'm only attracted to guys with a rather feminine appearance. And I wouldn't mind kissing a guy (as long as he has no facial hair + he has feminine features). But male bits ...
A. 25 January 2011: You may sexual orientation issues. I personally think female genitals are far less "attractive" than a penis and scrotum. I'll also add that I find circumcised penis' more pleasant than the uncut variety. I've only had partners that are ... (read in full...)
We can't have vaginal sex due to my girlfriend's health issue, is it wrong to ask for oral?
Q. My girlfriend can't have sex at the moment due to a health issue with her vagina. She is hopefully seeing a gyno soon to figure out what's up. My question: should she offer to perform oral on me while we go sexless? if she does not offer (she h...
A. 25 January 2011: You need to get over yourself!! She's going "sexless", what about her? Yes, you can ask and see how she feels about it and if she doesn't mind doing it, that's her perogative. But, I'd ask without expectation and if she declines accept that ... (read in full...)
I perform oral sex on her. How can I get her to reciprocate?
Q. How can I convince my beloved to perform oral sex on me? I am doing it for her, but she always refuses. Help me....
A. 25 January 2011: Yea, what has she said when you've talked to her about it? Were you the one who initiated oral sex into the relationship? What are her feelings about oral sex and reciprocation?
If you haven't talked to her, you need to. You can always with... (read in full...)
Men: Would you date a taller woman?
Q. I am tall for a woman, just about 6'-0." While I physically prefer taller men, I can't really afford to be picky and so have dated shorter men. Sometimes though, they seem embarassed about the height difference, too embarassed to take me seriousl...
A. 20 January 2011: Generally speaking I think most males/females prefer that the woman be shorter but that doesn't mean every couple feels that way or that there arn't any exceptions. I've always been on the tall side and was attracted to older, taller, and bigger ... (read in full...)
How are anal sex and oral sex different from normal sex?
Q. Can anyone tell me about oral sex and anal sex? How are they different from normal sex and what do you do?...
A. 20 January 2011: It's all sex, the orifice used is immaterial. Each one carries risks of contracting and spreading STD's/STI's. At your age, these are not activities that you should be concerned about or participating in. Sex carries serious consequences the a ... (read in full...)
My BF is overly jealous and I really don't know what to do about this!!
Q. Please give me advice.. I have a boyfriend. He is a very very jealous man. He never allows me to attend my friend's birthday party or any party in my college because he said there will be many handsome guys there. He also calls me many times in...
A. 19 January 2011: You may need the help of law enforcement to leave this guy. He's exhibiting all of the characteristics of an abuser. It's starts out with extreme jealousy, then controlling who your contacts are ( family, friends, co-workers ) and if/when you are ... (read in full...)
Losing my hair at 17, what should I do?
Q. Unfortunately i am one of those people who start losing their hair already at a young age and i am not panicking around ,i already accepted the fact, and i know what i am going to do. So i will get a buzz cut or get bald completely. There are just a ...
A. 19 January 2011: Have you seen a Dr? Whether it be male pattern baldness or alopecia, there are treatments that will help you keep your own hair longer. When you are older and have the financial means, you may be a candidate hair plug implants depending on what ... (read in full...)
Sex is getting to be a pain in the rear!
Q. Ok I am so confused. I have had a total of 3 long term relationships in my 20 years of dating. 2 of my Xs are still dear friends and each has moved on. I have been in my current relationship with a much younger man for about 6 months now. It has ...
A. 19 January 2011: He very well may have been like this all of his life and the fact that he's never been able to "stay" with any of his past lovers shouts volumes to me! The man is selfish, inconsiderate and completely ignorant about how the female body works!!! Is ... (read in full...)
What can make me desire sex again?
Q. I am menopausal and i havne't desired sex for a long time, is there somethig i can do to help make me feel or desire sex. I do things to make my husband happy but, i feel in adequate. ...
A. 19 January 2011: Menopause is a natural and expected process that all women must face. Because of the physical changes associated with menopause it's important that you discuss these issues with your Dr as there are Rx as well as natural remidies that can help. ... (read in full...)
Do women enjoy it?
Q. Do women enjoy anal? I expect that it differs from person to person, but on average? Or is it only something a girl would let a guy do as something special for him? ...
A. 12 January 2011: I've never tried it and refused to do it so many times I threateded divorce so I wouldn't be asked again. Some message boards have supposed "women" who claim to like it but in the annynomous world of the internet, I don't believe that any of them, ... (read in full...)
Sex: I tend to do things I don’t want to, to avoid making a scene
Q. I'm basically just curious I’ve only slept with a few people and tend to do things I don’t want to, to avoid making a scene... I guess. It's just a few general questions about sex and what other people think. You don’t have to answer them all, ...
A. 6 January 2011: Honey, you need some convidence and a sence of self worth. I don't do anything listed in your questions, never have and never will and I'm confident that my partner accepts me as I am. If he can't, he knows where the door is!!!!!
Find your bac... (read in full...)
While she has all these boundaries, I have needs too. What do I do??
Q. I have a real problem and hope the folks here can give me some advice. I was previously married for 18 years. The relationship was loveless, sexless, and just bad. I felt unwanted, unneeded, etc. No sexual contact, no hugs, kisses, etc. ...
A. 5 January 2011: Unsatisfied urges and desires can over time undermine positive feelings you have for your partner as well as the relationship over all. But, on the other hand so does having to defend your feelings, body, standards and boundaries over and over ... (read in full...)
I don't feel I should have to ask for oral sex, especially when I give him oral 2-3 times a week!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost one year and I give him oral 2-3 times per week without him asking but he has only given to me maybe once a month or less. I don't feel like I should have to ask-am I doing something wrong?...
A. 17 November 2010: Stop doing it for him! He'll either get the hint or ask for an explanation. Then you can let your expectations on reciprocation be known. If he wants to get, he must also give!!!... (read in full...)
Was it too hot and that's why he didn't cum?
Q. I was having sex for about an hour with my boyfriend last night, in loads of different positions but he just didn't come! At least I don't think he did. He usually moans and he didn't, we just sort of stopped (because I was knackered!). I googled ...
A. 11 November 2010: Looking at your age and assuming that he's in the same age bracket as you, it's very likely that he's masterbating regularly and if he masterbated earlier in the day or multiple times within a sort period of time, he likely hadn't had time to ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my girlfriend to send me nude pics?
Q. Ok so me and my girlfriend have been dating for a while and I really like her and she really likes me, but how do I ask her to send me nude pictures of herself or should I even ask at all thanx in advance....
A. 9 November 2010: It's against the law. Don't ask her to break the law, you both have too many years ahead of you to get yourselves involved with such nonsence.... (read in full...)
Anal sex and condoms?
Q. My boyfriend of two years and i are both virgins. I have known him forever and know that there is no chance that he has ever slept with anyone and therefore he has no std's. We are considering trying anal sex but i was wondering how important it ...
A. 3 November 2010: If you are having any kind of sexual experience with a partner, male of female, you are not a virgin anymore and to me that includes oral sex too. The body is sacred, not the orifice. Since you both have an anus, why can't he go 1st!!!!!... (read in full...)
Am I going to get an STD from having anal sex?
Q. me and my boyfriend had anal...I read somethings on here...he dont have anything that i know of neither do i .so does that mean im going to get one or have an std already ?...
A. 28 October 2010: You can develope other infections and condiditons that are not classified as STD/STI's but can pose serious threat to your health. Look into autoimmune hepatitis, gay bowel syndrome, IBS, and anal/rectal cancer. You'll see that anal sex, ... (read in full...)
How to convince her to try new things in bed?
Q. How to convince her to try new things in bed? I have one question regarding to my sex life with my wife. I love my wife and try my best to please her in everything but we are living apart at the moment. When it comes to sex, we both enjoy it, a...
A. 7 October 2010: Honey, I personally didn't appreciate being asked nor did I tolerate continued requests and continued pressure and coercement. Not everyone is going to be interested in giving anal sex a try. All you can do is talk to her about your desires an ... (read in full...)
He says we are not compatible sexually
Q. How important is sex in a relationship. My boyfriend of 3 years says he loves me but that he thinks we are not compatible sexually and that sex is really important to him. I like that he may end the relationship because of it. Im not sure what I ...
A. 2 October 2010: Yes, sexual compatibilty is extremely important in a relationship. Those into BDSM are distinctly differant from those of us who are more mainstream and vanilla in our preferances. There is very little room for compromise as BDSM relationships ... (read in full...)
How can you justify looking at violent or rape porn?
Q. I don't just mean like being beaten and screaming, I mean the stuff where the woman gets her head shoved in a toilet, where the guy does anything until she cries or gags, etc... Why is that OK to get off on so long as it's not child porn or ...
A. 2 October 2010: I certainly don't think it's OK and thankfully my partner doesn't either. Why some people find it arousing and why some actually consent and allow for this kind of behavior from their intimate partners is another mystery to me. Human nature h... (read in full...)
When naked, do women still want to be treated with respect?
Q. I have found that when women are naked, they still want to be treated with respect. And I don't have the answers to all life's questions, but I want to know something...Do women prefer being treated with respect, or do the enjoy being ...
A. 29 September 2010: I don't think I'm understanding your question. Are you talking about roll play in a sexual setting where one partner may like being disrespected or degraded? Because, if you are that kind of lifestyle requires a higher lever of respect and trust ... (read in full...)
What do women like/dislike about getting it in the face?
Q. So I'm with a girlfriend who loves to make me come. She swallows, which is amazing in itself, but she wants me to come other places if I want. I would like to try coming in her face, well, really more like her open mouth, but I've always thought ...
A. 27 September 2010: It's not something that I've ever enterained or would allow if asked and not something that I would offer under any circumsatances. However, your partner has brought it up and has expressed a desire for. Not all women feel the same way about ... (read in full...)
Not sure about anal sex but want to try!
Q. i am interested in having anal sex with my girlfriend of a year and im not really sure on whats safe or what we should do... is it safe not to use a condom and cum inside of her or can i get an infection or something? and is there a way to cle...
A. 27 September 2010: You are young so I'm guessing that your girl friend is too and you mention being interested but what about her feelings? She needs to be interested too!
Anal sex is a very risky sexual behavior and there is no such thing as safe sex or safe anal... (read in full...)
Trouble having anal sex
Q. My boyfriend really really wants anal sex from me, but every time we try, I can't follow through because it hurts SO much. He hasn't even gotten his cock all the way in yet. Does anyone have any suggestions for how to make this better? He's done it ...
A. 27 September 2010: Instead of asking how to make it easiler and possible to achieve; the real question is why does he keep asking for something he knows hurts you and why do you put up with it? What about what you like and need? If he's done it before and liked it, ... (read in full...)
How can I make anal sex a clean experience?
Q. hi everyone:) My BF has been asking me to try anal.. But I keep on saying NO!! I'm really scared, terrified you can say! I'm afraid it's going to turn out really disgusting (definately know what I mean).. he never tried it before, and I really w...
A. 27 September 2010: That's one of the risks that you have to decide if it's worth it or not. Just like playing with fire, you're bound to get burned once in a while! You play in a sewer or septic tank, you're bound to get waste on you. Isn't that part of the fun!... (read in full...)
How can you convince your girlfriend to give you oral?
Q. Do most women like giving BJs? How can you convince your girlfriend to give them to you?...
A. 24 September 2010: Oral sex is a personal issue an individual preferances vary widely in both males and females. Have you given her oral sex? If so, does she enjoy it? I'm one of those women who isn't crazy about oral sex, receiving or giving. I don't do BJ's and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't cum from oral...
Q. I have a good deal of experience in sex and have been told by all my past partners that I give a great blow job. The thing is I haven't been able to get my boyfriend to come from one. He wants to, I would love him to, but I just can't seem to get ...
A. 22 September 2010: Not all men can orgasm with oral sex, my own husband of 20 yrs has never orgasmed via oral sex. I can get him there with my hands but never my mouth. My partner needs allot of friction and a heavy grip, much like when he masterbates.
Don't let ... (read in full...)
Is it all women, or just my wife that have boring sexual fantasies?
Q. So, my wife really gets off on hearing about my sexual fantasies. She often asks me to tell her, " what were you thinking about last time you masturbated.". Then I will tell her, WHATEVER it was, be it having sex with our next door neighbor, the ...
A. 22 September 2010: My fantasies are pretty tame in comparison to my husband's but aren't boring to me at all. We don't swap fantasies as you discribed. Rather keep them as a privite little spice for ourselves.
The big problem with sharing fantasies is the inse... (read in full...)
My gf's fingers, feet and calves cramp up during orgasm! What can we do?
Q. Hello, My girlfriend and I have been trying to figure this out for a while now. Quite frequently durning orgasm my girlfriends fingers curl and seize up, as do her calves and feet. We are wondering what the cause of this is, if it is unhealth...
A. 16 September 2010: Your post stuck out to me not because it's so bizarre sounding but because of your ages (41-50)and I'm hoping that she has or will visit a Dr soon. It may be something as benign as carpal and tarsal tunnel syndrome, which is not likely that she has ... (read in full...)
I told him I didnt want sex, was it rape?
Q. i had sex with my boyfriend i wasnt sure about it and told him i didnt want it but he did it anyway was it rape?...
A. 16 September 2010: I know my responce is late but it's clearly rape in my opinion. You told him you didn't want it and you attempted to push him off. Is he still your boyfreind?... (read in full...)
In-laws forcing me to get pregnant for a boy child!!!
Q. Dear Readers, Please help me. I have been married for the last 5 years, I have a daughter (4 yrs old) and during my delivery I had severe heart complications and was under coma for almost a week after delivery. It took me almost 3 years to recover ...
A. 16 September 2010: You poor thing, I feel for you and the situation you are in. Obviously, male children in your culture is the prefered gender and that's been the case for centuries. Even tho you didn't name the heart condition, I'm thinking it's gestational ... (read in full...)
How can I be intimate with my wife without being selfish?
Q. My wife has been battling vaginal issues for about a year. First, they thought it was yeast, now they think it is bacterial vaginosis, the dr's think she may be allergic to her own estrogen, etc. It's very complicated - and I have read the ...
A. 16 September 2010: That's a tuff spot to be in for both of you and it sounds like you are very patient and understanding. It has to be so frustrating that her Dr's haven't been able to correctly or fully diagnose her problem(s) so no treatment has been effective. ... (read in full...)
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