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How can I make anal sex a clean experience?

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Question - (27 September 2010) 13 Answers - (Newest, 29 September 2010)
A female United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

hi everyone:)

My BF has been asking me to try anal.. But I keep on saying NO!! I'm really scared, terrified you can say! I'm afraid it's going to turn out really disgusting (definately know what I mean).. he never tried it before, and I really want to make his day at least once..

so my question is:

Is there any way to make it in a clean non-disgusting kinda way?? like how am I supposed to clean my self up there??

Bottom line: I need tips on Anal please help me out:)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010):

If my boyfriend kept brining up something (like anal sex) which I already said no to, I would consider him a creep! I would tell him to never ask me again or he is going to get dumped! Sorry but my rear end is strictly exit only.

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A male reader, mrvhappy United Kingdom +, writes (27 September 2010):

Hi if you have severe constipation, try eating more fruit & veg and cut down on processed foods....this will make you more regular so maybe the anal experience wont be so painful if is it in regular use.

Good luck & dont forget to use loads of lube

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010):

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guess you might have a point here!! absolutely gonna check with my doctor.. thanks again though

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A male reader, Cerberus Ireland + , writes (27 September 2010):

Cerberus agony auntIf you have a condition with your bowels then you should consult a doctor before trying anal sex. I know it might seem a little strange and maybe embarrassing but you need to be sure that there will be no negative impact from it. Just to be safe you should have a word with your physician.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010):

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Thanks you guys for your help.. but whoever said that my BF is a creep for pressuring me, well he definately isn't a creep nor is he pressuring and each session he asks just once and let's it go.. And it's been a while he hasn't even mentioned it.. I'm the one who wants to surprise him and ask him this time. And I want to be fully sure that it's gonna be clean, a bit pain is tolerated but guwwy stuff?!

And Ven thanks for the link I'm definately gonna check it out!!

And cerberus, a pecial thanks to you.. Thing is I don't have to worry about solid stool, I suffer severe constipation and it takes me days to empty that particular area.. Does my condition help with anal?!

And Thanks again for all of you:)

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A female reader, LustyLisa United States +, writes (27 September 2010):

That's one of the risks that you have to decide if it's worth it or not. Just like playing with fire, you're bound to get burned once in a while! You play in a sewer or septic tank, you're bound to get waste on you. Isn't that part of the fun!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010):

Anal sex is something that takes alot of time to achive for most women. Most give up on it way too soon because they are only doing it because he wants to try it. I would strongly recomend that you experiment with yourself before letting him go there on his own.

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A male reader, Cerberus Ireland + , writes (27 September 2010):

Cerberus agony auntAnal sex takes quite a bit preparation. Firstly you have to make sure you do it on a day that you have solid stools, you have to make sure your bowels are empty too.

Porn actresses that do anal usually don't eat the night before or early that day but you don't have to worry about that because you won't be doing it for hours over and over again.

Spend a while on the toilet first clearing your bowels sitting there as relaxed as possible until they're clear. Then have a shower and clean that area thoroughly inside and out. Once that's done you're ready, use a lot of lube, really just cover him in it and put some around and inside your anus.

He should start off with his fingers, to get you used to the feeling and give you a chance to find a way to relax those muscles. Then he can try penetration. You have to be completely relaxed throughout so find ways of doing so.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010):

I understand you are thinking about trying it, but there is always a possibility that you will not enjoy it, and you will regret it for the rest of your life.

So just think about that. If your boyfriend really loves you, he will stop pressuring you if you tell him that you're not interested.

Maybe you should also consider dumping him. He sounds like a creep.

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A male reader, Ven United States +, writes (27 September 2010):

I pulled the following from a larger article you should probably read anyway here : http://www.freddyandeddy.com/howto/howtoanalsex.htm

"Clean yourself out with warm water. There are many methods: using your finger while in the shower to “rinse out” the area; using an anal douche to clean out the first 10 inches or so of your goods; or by rinsing out using a get-up attached to your shower head (there's even a “travel version”). Many people want to know if an enema is necessary before anal sex; all of my sources (including former registered nurse Nina Hartley) believe enemas to be too invasive for regular anal play. Enemas clean out much more than is necessary; you only need to clean out the bottom 10 inches or so of your canal for good, clean, anal play."

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010):

There are anal douches you can buy that would help you clean up beforehand. Most importantly, he should use a condom, and he absolutely should NOT enter your vagina with the same condom on.

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A female reader, bleh United States +, writes (27 September 2010):

Okay, from my past experinces with anal I had the same issue, I was scared but as I tried it trust me ull b worrying more about the pain than the "cleaness" of ur ass. Try not to think about it too much as you are doing it. Try to enjoy it and have fun. Although it is perfectly normal if poopie shows on his penis he should understand where he is poking you. Goodluck!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010):

if you keep saying no it's for a reason and you should listen to yourself. it's not clean and is one of the best ways to get hiv.

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