Bunny Boiler trapped my husband in a 5 year affair!

A female age 41-50, *23trinity writes:

My husband and I have been married for 16 years, we have two children ages 9 and 10, I caught him at this girls house 5 years ago, and he said he was helping her thru issues and they were friends- dumb me right- I believed him. I ask him to not talk or see her again, he said he would not. It took me these last 5 years to get over it and move on, I really thought everything was going great, so one day I got curious and followed him, He went to her house, I knocked on the door confronted him, after punching him in the face a few times I let him talk. He said we needed to go somewhere else to talk. he did not want to talk in front of her house. he told me everything, that it had been going on for 5 years on and off, and that she threatened him to tell his job, and his family, he tried to break it off several times, but she wouldn't let it go, she would drive by our house, call me and hang up, and other things, almost like a fatal attraction. He didnt know how to get away, he lived in fear. After he was confronted he said he was so happy that I knew so he could be free of it. The reason he didnt want to tell me is because I once told him if he did anything like that to me and the kids I would leave and he would never see them again, and that would kill him, he says he sacrificed hiself for his kids, he also said he never stopped loving me. He said he hates this girl and was only playing her until he could figure out a way to get out of it without her telling me or trying to destroy his job, he admitted he made the mistake of getting involved in the first place, but lived in regret from then on. I want to believe all this, but I'm havn a real hard time. Do i leave, or do i stay and hope its all true and that he has learned his lesson?

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