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Our threesome with the well-endowed black man has my wife craving more action-but without me!

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Question - (21 December 2007) 10 Answers - (Newest, 11 April 2010)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, *rsifter writes:

My wife offered to spice our sex life up by asking me to find a girl to join us, we posted on the internet and we had a great threesome with a younger girl, then my wife wanted to do the same with another man, I was a bit uneasy with it but went with it. She found a man online and we went to a hotel, the other man was an athletic black man with a considerably larger penis than myself, my wife dressed up in stockings and suspenders which she hasn't done for years and really acted like a slut for this man, he brought her to orgasm as I sat and watched. We still have sex ourselves but she wants to meet black men on her own now and I don't know what to do!

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A female reader, LoveGirl South Africa +, writes (11 April 2010):

smacks of a "loving wives" moment.

the saying once you go black you never go back?? bummer, right?

sorry i am not being helpful but this really is a can of worms being opened. try buying her a big dildo??

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010):

You allowed to open that cann of worms, there isn'nt a damn thing you can do now ! Just split up with her and go your own way and hope to GOD that you too wont fall into this bottomless pit yourself again......and tell your friends to stay away from this too !!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010):

Well dude, I think you are in trouble.

We actually did the same thing last week for the first time. I must admit that I had suggested this and my wife was finally convinced. It was supposed to be a 3some....

Well when it all started I was quickly forgotten and she was slutier than I've ever seen her. I couldn't beleive it; she never acted that way with me in 20 years.. She gave hinm a BJ without a condom, heavy sensual kissing. It look like a lot of fun...

Afterwards when it was all done, she was on another planet even if she saw that I was quite upset about her completely ignoring me.

I completely regret doing it, we had a good relationship, a great sex life and now it seems like 20 years went down the drain. She feels sorry for the way she acted, she regrets it, butI know that sexual adventure still arouses her tremendously which makes it very hard on us.

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A male reader, JohnnytheFox United States +, writes (28 July 2008):

My wife Anna and me had a hot threesome with a black man we knew after a party. What happen that night she got pregnant and we didn't know who's baby it was till after 9 months she gave birth to his baby, a baby boy. We have two sons before this black man's son. However, this man stays with us and helps raise his son and support. All I can say is have a talk with your wife, is our marriage important or black men? Unless you want a black man living in the house that you two know very well with you two so you know she ain't floating around risking getting STDs or worse a baby! Good Luck!

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A female reader, shetoo35 United States +, writes (5 July 2008):

I have been trying to get her to have fun with a friend but it hasn't worked out..prob never will as I was her first....

my advice...enjoy the ride....... :

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A male reader, TRUTHFULLYOURS United States +, writes (24 December 2007):

You may have a problem my friend! one of the few problems with having great sex is that it is driven to repeat. Your wife has found something that stimulates her mentally and pysically. Its not illegal and it is free(in most cases).You must not hesitate to tell her how big of mistake it was to envolve other people into the bedroom and that you would like very much for it to stop. all you can do after that is hope for the best. but just remember,YOU OPEN THAT CAN OF WORMS.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007):

tell her to choose you or the black men? Women face this dilema constantly and we simply offer the ultimatum...all men , regardless of what they claim want a young porn star look alike.....Once us wives have a few bubs r dare to age a few years, you can practically see our husbands walking with us in shopping mals with their tongues haging out over every woman they see....what do we do...? Well seriously I belive us women should wake up and reaslise how men treat us and cancel such contracts as marriage and stop doing all we do...but no, we plod along, knowing our husbands want what they cant have! Sometimes our demand for faithfulness hold but more often than not they stray and decieve us...

I guess your n the same place, even if you demand she choose, the risk is still there that she will stray...you just need to decide whether you want to take that risk?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007):

What is marriage to you? This is the real question. You are already diluting it - sorry to take a distinct view. This would only do that further and surely it undermines your intimacy TOGETHER?

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (22 December 2007):

rcn agony auntIf that wasn't the agreement regarding the threesome, I'd have to say she's overstepping her boundaries within your marriage. How would she feel if you said you liked the younger female so much, you'd like to meet with her, without your wife present?

If it was my wife, I'd simply tell her, that's your decision, but we can't remain married if that's your choice.

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A male reader, pyan Australia +, writes (22 December 2007):

Hi

we did the same a few years ago, my wife always wanted to try a black guy and she did and loved it. she wanted the same as your wife and i was unsure. so we met up with him several time together. but i think she was holding back

i did agree to let her see him alone and after about six times, one was a full weekend it had worked out of her system. that is she had had enough, it was just sex and fufilmant.

if you can let her do it and hopfull she will get it out of her system.

if you want to discuss further write back. my wife may be able to discuss it with your wife

good luck

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