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... Send *ulietteElise a private message | | | *ulietteElise's profile:I am the person who everyone has always come to for advice, or just someone to be there and listen. Even for adults much older then me. I do not say this to brag, but to explain my general nature. I try my best to see all sides of a situation, and love learning. I am an INFP personality. One of the main features of this is that I put other's problems above my own. I have been through some tramatic situations in my life, and helped several friends who have also had bad life experences. I am, overal, complete opposites in one. I am introverted, but act more extroverted; i am allmost nievely opptomistic and yet cynical and a bit jaded; I act like a silly sugar high five-year-old but am also mature beyond my years... even when i was a young child; i have a very loveing personality but also keep people at a distence and am a bit of a misanthrope. please excuss my horrible spelling. :0) My longest relationship was 4 years, and i have dated 5 people, my current relationship is already allmost 2 years. I am an artist. I am going to college for Illustration and Biologicgal anthroplogy, though I plan on being a sex therapist once i'm done haveing fun learning, though i will probably be paying off loans forever. I am currently 21. I am pansexual. |
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Was I raped?
Q. is i rape if you wake up to find someone having sex with you?...
A. 8 May 2007: YES yes and YEEESSSSSSS. even if this person is your boyfriend that you've dated for years and years, or a husband, etc, this is STILL rape unless you told them spicifically beforehand that it was okay. Any sexual acts that you didn't or couldn't ... (read in full...)
I'm asexual - I have no desire to have sex - what woman will be okay with this?
Q. What woman would date a guy who’s asexual? Hi, I’m a guy who’s 25 years old still a virgin and asexual. For those of you who don’t know what an asexual is, it’s someone who has, never had, or desired the need to have sex. The thing is, althou...
A. 7 May 2007: Hello!
In case you weren't already aware, there are actually forumes set up for asexuals to find someone to date, and even possably marry eventually. I don't know of these sites off the top of my head unforunitly, but i do know for a FACT tha... (read in full...)
How can I tell if he's "Mr Right?"
Q. Beeing togehter with my boyfriend 2 years and 5 month, how can I find out, if he is Mr.Right or not?...
A. 7 May 2007: i think that everyone will always have some shadow of a doubt far back in their mind, esspically if they haven't dated too many people. however, if you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone, there are some things you both need to... (read in full...)
Can't believe he loves me, when he doesn't accept me as I am. I want to change for him..how do I do this?
Q. Hi all! I'm with my boyfriend for two years and a half and yesterday he told me a few things he doesn't like on me. One is that I'm very slow. All things I do, I do in my tempo, which isn't the same as the tempo of others... I no that myselfe ...
A. 5 May 2007: perhaphs you could clean the flat together, him showing you the ways he thinks things should be done. after this, its up to YOU weither you want to do these things or not, but i see nothing wrong with at least trying it out with his lead. Also, if ... (read in full...)
We are long distance and have alot of phone sex, is that all he wants from me ?
Q. phone sex can it be away to show you love each other from a distantce ? i mean me and my man have been doing it for a while we are a way for the time being and i feel that its good because masterbation is healty but also because its better than no ...
A. 27 April 2007: first... to answer your question, phone sex can be a way for people who love eachother to feel closer and keep some of the fire alive while they are apart. However, i don't know if doing this everyday is as healthy for the relationship... or more ... (read in full...)
Why is it that some days I can't sleep yet other days all I ever want to do is sleep?
Q. some days i cant sleep at all, other days all i want to do is sleep and cant get the energy to get out of bed, i constantly feel down and cry for no reason. whats happening to me? i have exams but never have i felt so down and constantly exhausted ...
A. 27 April 2007: Hun, not only are you suffering from sever stress, but you are DEFFINITLY haveing signs of depression. Depression can come in many shapes and forms, but common to all of them is an inability to sleep or feeling like sleeping all the time, or ... (read in full...)
So tell me....why don't girls like guys with Ginger hair?
Q. Why don't girls like guys with Ginger hair? I've got Red hair and it seems to turn alot of girls off, especially if I'm with a girl and one of my friends makes a crack about me being a fire crotch. Wehnever that topic comes up most girls seem t...
A. 25 April 2007: actually, i think red pube hair is the sexiest thing in the world. Its probably just your friends comments in regard to "sexual things" that make the girls feel awkward and thus seem less intrested. Many girls, esspicaly in your age group and ... (read in full...)
I find it weird with girls because in my head, I find it wrong and not normal. Do you think I'm gay?
Q. hey im 16-17 im going out with a girl we havt done anythink yet but we said we would trouble is i find girls attractive and i dont with boys they turn me off but doing stuff with a girl freaks me out also we both say we ent gay but for me that is ...
A. 25 April 2007: First off i want to let you know that there is nothing at all wrong with being gay, bi, or stright. A person's sexual orintation is completly normal and natural. It is just how we are born/made, and no matter what anyone else says, its not a sin, ... (read in full...)
4 week ago she found out that i had had sex with a boy she knew!
Q. hello, i have a relationship problem :( my girlfreind of two years wouldnt have sex with me even though she wasnt a virgin. 4 week ago she found out that i had had sex with a boy she knew! i just need to know how to get her back and if the ...
A. 25 April 2007: I think the main thing here is weither or not you are bisexual, or in fact gay. Also, if you just had sex with a guy because you were despret to have sex and saw haveing it with a guy as not cheating (sexual activity with anyone other then your ... (read in full...)
Does too much wetness in a girls vagina gross guys out when they finger you?
Q. Does too much wetness in a girls vagina gross guys out when they finger you? I'm talkinga bout a 16 year old boy....
A. 25 April 2007: It shouldn't at all. The fact that you are getting very wet means that he's doing his job right! When a female is aroused she naturaly "gets wet" in order for sexual activities to happen more pleasurably and saftly.
if it did freak him out or g... (read in full...)
Is an orgasm THAT important???
Q. Is it a big thing for a girl to get her first proper orgasm????...
A. 30 March 2007: what a strange question.... of course its a big deal... wasn't the first time you orgasmed a big deal? sure it dosun't change the way the earth revols around the sun, or anything extreme like that, but it does mark ones sexual maturity, and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hates me wearing make up!
Q. My boyfriend is having problems with me putting on make up. He said he doesn’t want me to get my make up on him and he thinks real beauty should not be created with make up. He doesn’t even like lip balm when I kiss him. It actually stops us from ...
A. 30 March 2007: i am actually quite jelouse of you my dear.
you see, i had the same problem.... just opposite! haha :0D
in high school i didn't wear makeup at all (except sometimes to dances and other such things) and my bf, though he said i was beutiful wit... (read in full...)
Why are 11-13 year old kids talking of dating and sexual contact???
Q. hello It might be I am wrong or I came from mars but it is so tragic to see 11 to 13 years old kids are dating and talking about sexual contact? Where are the families? Why don't they look after their kids? thank you...
A. 30 March 2007: I agree with you completly.... i am amazed and unsettled by many of the things people ask on here who are so younge. I think a lot of it has to do with pressure, it seems like many younge girls think that the only way they could keep a guy is to ... (read in full...)
Can a guy and a girl remain best friends with one another even if they both become romantically involved with other people?
Q. Dear cupid and all aunts. Can a guy and a girl remain best friends with one another even if they both become romantically involved with other people? Would that friendship last or gradually become more distant due to having a boyfriend or gir...
A. 19 March 2007: of course its possable!
most of my friends are male, and most of them i've been friends with for years, though some more reccent, all the while either they or me, or both or neither dated others.
however, the other people have to be all right ... (read in full...)
At first I was cool she was a lapdancer, but now I have feelings for her I hate it!!! What can I do ?
Q. Ive been seeing a girl for over a year, she is a lapdancer. Didnt bother me at first but now ive deep feelings for her as she has to me. It gets to me a lot and she knows it but i know she wont give it up. Im thinking of breaking up with her to ...
A. 19 March 2007: First of all you should talk with her. You say you know she won't give it up... but have you asked? At least ask her if you were both to be engaged or married if she would give it up then (if she dousnt even after marriage then... well... it might ... (read in full...)
Is a man-women relationship always about sex?
Q. Is a man-women relationship always about sex? If not, why at every other time I try to get to know a girl closely do they pressurize me to enter into something sexual? ...
A. 16 March 2007: Perhaps these females don't have the right impression from the very beggining that all you want is friendship? Or perhaps you are seeking out girls who for whatever reason don't ussualy have guys intrested in them, havent dated yet, or your their ... (read in full...)
How can I get my mother to trust me more?
Q. I am 16 years old and have now been with my boyfriend for over 1 year and my mother still won't allow me to stop over night at his house, how can I get her to trust me? ...
A. 16 March 2007: I'm so sorry... I know how this feels... I REALLY do. For all four years of high school I dated the same boy, and we had agreed NOT to even have sex, and never did those 4 years until after we graduated and were 18. The whole time my parents ... (read in full...)
How can i make myself last longer in bed with out coming to soon?
Q. How can i make myself last longer in bed with out coming to soon?...
A. 10 March 2007: hello! I have answerd this question many times, so here is the advice i've given before: One of the things you can do to enhance your/her "fun" since you cum quickly is for you to do extended forplay and going down on her, etc before you have ... (read in full...)
Am I too small or is this normal?
Q. I need help My penis is 2 inches long when not hard and 6 inches when hard I am 16 and 5,7 and 222 pounds is it to small...
A. 10 March 2007: six inches is perfectly normel, and also perfectly fullfilling for a female. Don't worry :0) Anything over 7 inches actually frightens me a bit because i don't know how the hell it could fit, haha. I am dateing someone now who is rather large, ... (read in full...)
Is it true that emotional attachments tend to destroy the creativity of a human being?
Q. Is it true that emotional attachments tend to destroy the creativity of a human being? I am not sure but have felt like this a few times, for in emotional attachment, there are so many do's and do not's that one may feel trapped altogether to have ...
A. 10 March 2007: I'm not quite sure if your're talking about a dateing type relationship or a "in love with a friend" type of relationship, the latter of which i would certinitly belive ones limitations to be far greater due to the predicament. However, in the more ... (read in full...)
Is he the right guy for me? He seems to show some interest, but not sure exactly.
Q. Hello - I wonder if somone can advise me: I have recently started some dance classes. At the beginning the thought of getting into a relationship with the teacher there did not cross my mind. However I am now getting distint vibes that he likes me...
A. 10 March 2007: If he says he is gay, please belive this. Many more outgoing and somewhat sterotypical gay men are very flirty with girls, but more as a fun thing to do or as part of friendship, or just how they are. The fact that he flirts with other girls in ... (read in full...)
I want us to lose our virginity together but maybe he's gay??
Q. I’m 25 and this guy I like is a few years younger me, I’m always quite shy around guys, so I blush whenever I talk to him and I find it difficult, but despite this we have a LOT (freakily a lot) in common and seem to have developed a friendship of ...
A. 6 March 2007: I think you should talk his friend, the female hes with "24/7" alone sometime... ask her about him... if you are too shy to ask outright if he is gay, then try asking her what he thinks of you.... or maybe even say that you like him a lot and would ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my Boyfriend and My girlfriend! I want to keep both, What should I do!!?
Q. I am 23 and had a sexual relationship with an older gay man since i was 17 when i fell in love. up till then i have always just fancied girls, and though i had the odd one night stand (girls) in the 5 years. i have always been in love and happy with ...
A. 28 February 2007: You need to be honest with your g/f and tell her about your b/f and how you are NOT gay, you are bi, and thus will not cheat on her and will continue to love her and her child. I'm glad your b/f is willing to share you, and though it most likely ... (read in full...)
How can I balance my new job and continuing to see my boyfriend?
Q. I'm thinking about taking up a job that might affect the number of times I'll be able to see my boyfriend. He lives 2 hours away from me, and we spend every weekends together since we dated 2 yrs ago. If I take on this job, I know most of my ...
A. 28 February 2007: There are a few things i'd like to know before adviseing you, such as were each job would be loacted (distince wise), and if either one of you will have to move for it. However, if its just that the jobs are in the areas that you both live in (2 ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to respect me regarding sex, should I let him know this?
Q. hi me and my bf are both 16 and have been going out with eachother for nearly 2 months. we have only kissed about 4 times in one day. but that was about a month ago and we havent kissed since! also his mate has a gf and he is always saying to ...
A. 19 February 2007: I agree with everything xxxsoulsistaxxx said, but would like to reassure you as well with my own expericences.
I started dateing in highschool freshman year, and we ended up dateing all four years of highschool...
and you know what?
he wait... (read in full...)
Why do nice guys always finish last?
Q. Why do nice guys finish last? If so, why? I never appreciated why women go for guys who treat them bad....
A. 16 February 2007: i have never understood it either, and i'm a female! I have heard that some girls who meet nice guys might find them boreing, or that the girl likes him a lot but isnt ready to settle down yet. however, i have always thought this was crazy, since, ... (read in full...)
After his climax, he's dressed and ready to go out for food! What about my needs?!?!
Q. It's like it's all about him! How can I make him see I have needs, too? My boyfriend and I are really close. We've been together for a year, but after the first five months of having sex (It's month nine and a half), he kind of lost interest in...
A. 16 February 2007: aww, your welcome! thank you so much! and i know how u feel... ive been in the same situation before! but good luck! messege me if you want to talk more :0D i'm sure the things heather and i said will help a lot though :0)... (read in full...)
After his climax, he's dressed and ready to go out for food! What about my needs?!?!
Q. It's like it's all about him! How can I make him see I have needs, too? My boyfriend and I are really close. We've been together for a year, but after the first five months of having sex (It's month nine and a half), he kind of lost interest in...
A. 15 February 2007: I have an idea, why don't you have him make you cum before he ever cums? My bf has problems with premature ejaculation, so to make up for it he gets me to cum before we even have sex, that way even if it didnt last long i still got to cum, not to ... (read in full...)
How can i get my girlfriend to try anal sex and three somes?
Q. How can i get my girlfriend to try anal sex and three somes, these are my fetishes and would like to fulfil them. I've asked her and asked her but she keeps changing subject when i mention them. How can i approach her with the question? ...
A. 15 February 2007: Though i belive people who are in a long lasteing and sexual relationship should try to please one and other, you have no right to try to get your g/f to do soemthing she obviously feels uncomfertable with. In fact, everytime you mention this she ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about masturbating and watching porn? Is there anything I can do?
Q. Hi, I’m a guy who’s 24 years old and still a virgin. I’m abstaining from sex till marriage but I have a problem I’m worried about. At a young age before I made the decision to abstain from sex till marriage I really got hooked on watching porn at a ...
A. 15 February 2007: Congradulations on decideing to wait to have sex, this is a very huge decision and one many people today don't seem to appreciate, so its wonderfull knowing theres a guy out there who understands sex is important and shouldnt just do it to "do it." ... (read in full...)
My guy can't last longer than 10 seconds! What can we do?
Q. is it normal for guys to only last no longer for 10 seconds? the guy im with now cant last longer then 10 seconds we even clocked it one day....its sad i feel like its getting in the way of our relationship i just dont know what to do i need help ...
A. 14 February 2007: Along with everything else the other people said, like him cumming an hour or two before, and NOT to keep talking to him about the whole thing and thus makeing him insequre, as well as for him to pull out/stop movement when he feels hes close, i ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but I still have doubts that she's "The One"
Q. Hi, I've been dating an amazing girl for 7 months. She truly is all that I ever wanted. But I still have doubts about her being the one that would pop up every so often but would then disipate. This came to a head 5 days ago and we decided to ...
A. 14 February 2007: Hey there! i'm so glad you found someone who you love so very much, but why are you worrying about marriage now? You've only been dateing 7 months, and from what you said you are in your early 20s still. It might seem like everyone else is getting ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend so critical about physical appearance?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I am just beginning to realize that he is very critical about physical apperance. I love him and want to be with him but he just doesnt get that when he makes critical comments that it really damages me. ...
A. 11 February 2007: First, talk to him and ask him to stop being so critical of you, and why he has been. Perhaps he is worried that you haven't been takeing care of yourself and is trying (in a bad way) to motivate you to be healthy? i don't know... but you really ... (read in full...)
I don't feel the same about my girlfriend any more but don't want to hurt her. Any ideas of how to break it gently to her?
Q. Hi I have been in a relationship for little over a year now and I am begining to lose interest in the girl. After the first six months of the relationship I thought this girl was the one. But recently I have not felt the same way. She wants to ...
A. 11 February 2007: You need to tell her, right away. she deserves to know ASAP. Explain to her, that though you do care for her, you are not yet ready to live together, and that you don't want her to change colleges jsut to be closer to you because education is ... (read in full...)
Have any of you dated a guy who looks so hot now but was geeky in school?
Q. Have any of you ever dated a guy after high school that was older and you thought wasn't the hottest and maybe a geek or something? but he is soo much more good looking now. Would you feel guilty for dating him now? I mean i never talked to him ...
A. 11 February 2007: Though you might feel guilty, and i might too, just keep in mind that it takes awhile for guys to devolop, since us girls mature (lookwise) earlyer on. In high school a lot of guys are still going through growth spurts and thus be lankey or awkard, ... (read in full...)
I can't masturbate by myself b/c it hurts. Now I have a cut that won't heal - should I see a doctor?
Q. Imma girl and for some reason I just CAN'T masturbate. My boyfriend has to finger me to get anything happening and even then it's painful, imma virgin and plan to stay that way but we like to mess around etc. I don't wanna have to ask him to finger ...
A. 7 February 2007: ...females get pleasure from their cliterous (and g-spot, but don't even try for this yet, not untill you are used to your clit), which is the little circle like bump in front of where you urinate. Useing some slavia or lube, use one or two fingers ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to orgasm in the shower?
Q. Me and my shower.... When i have showers, i can give myself the biggest orgasms ever. Is it wrong? i have been with partners that get me to reach orgasm before and that was amazing but this... its like the world has exploded inside me, when i come ...
A. 7 February 2007: Of course it isn't wrong silly! Sexuality is an important part of being human, and perfectly healthy. Mannnnnny women masterbate when bathing (in fact most females probably have!) so your're deff. not the only one. :0) Many "adult" iteams are sold ... (read in full...)
Why is she encroaching on my privacy? I have nothing to hide!
Q. Dear Cupid My girlfriend has been demanding we exchange email passwords as a mutual good faith gesture of trust. Her ex let her have his and she says if I have nothing to hide I'd do the same. While I have nothing to hide, I am uncomfortable wi...
A. 7 February 2007: (more to my answer... i clicked the "enter" too soon! sorry!)
if she has no reason to be so insequre with you, then she obviously has some issues she hasn't worked on yet, and going to a counslor/theripist might be the only way for her to learn... (read in full...)
Why is she encroaching on my privacy? I have nothing to hide!
Q. Dear Cupid My girlfriend has been demanding we exchange email passwords as a mutual good faith gesture of trust. Her ex let her have his and she says if I have nothing to hide I'd do the same. While I have nothing to hide, I am uncomfortable wi...
A. 7 February 2007: I think your g/f is very insequre.... has she ever been cheated on in the past? or have her parents or people close to her been cheated on? If so, this may be why she seems so insistent. I agree with you that things like exchangeing passwords ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend keep talking to this girl when she's so bitchy to me?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for eight months, and its been very happy! Except for catching him once before doing things online that he shouldn't have been doing, I have no reason to suspect him of cheating or intending to cheat on me. However, ...
A. 7 February 2007: This girl has gone ouuuuttttt of her way to upset you, so it's not just that your're insequre. However, i don't think your bf will want to be with her either or he wouldn't have told you how she had acted over x-mas. If he dousn't know already, ... (read in full...)
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