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writes:Is it a big thing for a girl to get her first proper orgasm????
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reader, eddie  +, writes (30 March 2007):
 I think it's as important for a female to orgasm but not always. I believe that many females can enjoy the closeness of intercourse or being together in some sexual way without actually reaching orgasm. The closeness is sometimes good enough for a woman. Men on the other hand seem to have a more difficult time going through the motions without actually reaching the climax. I think that is a basic difference between men and women. While we both enjoy sex, many times men are there more for the physical bond, rather than spiritual. Not always, not everyone but many.
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (30 March 2007):
 The thing I always shoot for with a new girl friend is "ladies first". I try everything I can, especially oral on her, to get her to orgasm if possible before I even start anything that's going to get me to mine. Sometimes it takes a time or two being in bed together before we get there, but I've never yet had a woman complain about this attitude.
Some women are VERY hard to get to orgasm, by the way. Some are too body-conscious to do it with a partner at first, but do OK by themselves. Get them used to it gradually. But a thoughtful guy should always be working toward giving his woman pleasure before worrying about himself.
And one more thing. About 80% of the women I've been with really liked it if I very gently stroked her body ... back, arms, legs, shoulders, face – not intimate places, just very softly all over – shortly after her orgasm. Just a VERY light touch with my fingertips. Most of them are VERY sensitive right after orgasm and this makes them really swoon.
Then give them a little break and they're all yours!
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reader, JulietteElise +, writes (30 March 2007):
 what a strange question.... of course its a big deal... wasn't the first time you orgasmed a big deal? sure it dosun't change the way the earth revols around the sun, or anything extreme like that, but it does mark ones sexual maturity, and exploration. Most females, due to how we are raised by society into thinking that we are "dirty" down there, and how its a sin of soem sort, son't even try pleasureing themselves untill they have a bf who encourages them, or they are in college (here in the usa thats ages 18 to 21 or more). I think this is a very sad thing, for many women go throughout their lives never even knowing what sexual pleasure is (since females don't ussualy get orgasims from intercourse since in sex the cliterous, which is where females most often get their stimulation and pleasure), isn't rubbed, etc to induce an orgasim. Also, many females, from being scard that they might be "gross" don't even feel comfertable (at least for a long while) of their partners going down on them. thus.... yes, it is a big deal for a female to get her first proper orgasm because too many girls arent educated correctly in how their own pleasure is important too, and how its normal to masterbate. and of course, its a nice feeling.... and thus, as said, opens up a new understanding of her own body and sensuality and sexuality as a women.
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reader, Anianca  +, writes (30 March 2007):
It depends on the circumstance, I suppose... Yeah, it's a big thing, but the first guy who gave me an orgasm didn't mean that much to me, so the first guy I loved who gave me an orgasm- that was a much bigger deal. If you get me. But if you want a yes or no answer, I would say yes. Sorry for rambling! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): is it that important for a guy 2 orgasm? exactly! its the same 4 women!!
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