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writes:My boyfriend is having problems with me putting on make up. He said he doesn’t want me to get my make up on him and he thinks real beauty should not be created with make up. He doesn’t even like lip balm when I kiss him. It actually stops us from kissing each other. He doesn’t like toe nail polish (clear gloss is okay). He thinks nail polish is freaky. What am I suppose to do? Not wear any make up all the time? I don’t usually wear any right now and because I’m Asian my features is actually alright. In some occasion (going to dinner, wedding), I will HAVE to put on some make up. But who doesn’t want their gf to look good all the times? Any one have similar problem and have a solution that they can advise me? I want to be able to kiss/cuddle him freely even when I put on make up.
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reader, simpleput  +, writes (16 April 2007):
Wear whatever makes you happy. A litle tasteful make-up like strawberry (something he likes) lip gloss no guy can resists to kiss those lips. I say wear make up and tell him its not what makes you feel better, its what makes me feel better. Since you have good complexion a little eye shadow and mascara and some blush is all you need. Just tell him this is the wild side of me like it or deal with it. Since it is not often there shouldn't be a problem. I would ignore his comments and put on what you like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): Your boyfriend may well think you look great without make up but insisting you can't even wear nail polish is a little ridiculous. Make up can be used for decorative purposes, to go with outfits -- it doesn't mean you're a slave to the fashion magazines. I think your boyfriend is going to extremes. I think most women would prefer a boyfriend who wouldn't even mind if his girl left a lipstick print on him because he was getting a kiss from the lady he loved and was proud to show it off! That's how I feel when I'm out with my lady!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys. I got to see both sides of the arguement. I have never think what my boyfriend said is a compliment. He likes me because of who I am, not who I look like during the day time. To think deeper, my bf didn't just say: no makeup allow! He would still let me. We girls sometimes think all bf are controlling.
And for the reason why he's so oppose to it, it's because when he was 5-6, his mom kissed him on the cheek after a fresh coat of lipsticks. That will of course leave a mark on his face, which his aunt and uncle and other kids started laughing at how cute that is. He hated it completely after that.
I should respect everyone have their no no about certain things. Mine will be cleaniness. Whether putting on make up or not, it is about how I feel about it. I do feel putting on some makeup do make me feel more attractive. I will try a little (maybe eye area) and prove to my bf that it will not get on him. As for lipstick, maybe apply it when I go out/work after kissing him good bye. I mean, as a guy, who wants to smell like strawberry or have a pink mark after kissing a girl? right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): I think a lot of the aunts have missed the point here. It's one thing saying 'I prefer you without makeup', it's quite another telling you not to wear it and refusing to kiss or cuddle you if you have it on. You even state what's OK (clear gloss). Does he tell you what clothes to wear as well? This, to me, sounds like the start of a controlling relationship
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (30 March 2007):
 Well my guy prefers me without make up, he does prefer the natural look and he says I actually look better without it! Hmm must be looking at me in the dark! rofl.. bless...
Anyway even though he says im better without it, he wouldnt stop me wearing it. Its my own indiviual flair if you like and it makes me feel good.
There seems to be a deeper issue with your guy... Hes obssessed with NO make up at all! Make up is an expression of ourselves and if we want to enhance features that ours business and he really shouldnt be expecting you to go all out to stop. I can appreciate the Lip gloss thing, and possibly a little foundation as that can rub off, but the nail varnish!! What the hell is he on ? Thats not going to get on him once dry, why has he got a thing about that...
Does his mum wear alot of makeup ? Is he worried that You will start to look tarty ? Theres more to this than him just thinking its freaky, I think somethings happend to put him off!
You should be able to be yourself and have others accept you for exactly as you are. As beautiful as you are with or without make up ... be yourself.
Take care x x
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (30 March 2007):
 Hello.
Never let a man tell you that you can’t wear makeup. Tell him this is who you are and he should respect that you feel good when you wear makeup, toe polish ect… its all part of being a woman. Don’t stop just because he dislikes it… Tell him to stop trying to be controlling and get over it because regardless you will wear it.
If my boyfriend said I don’t like you wearing makeup I would say… tuff… and then I would layer it on just to prove that he has no say what I wear (cloths, nail polish, makeup)
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reader, thor +, writes (30 March 2007):
 if you like to wear it and feel comfortable but also give him his wishes by not wearing it for him. he sees you as beautiful without it so take it as a compliment. saying who doesnt want his gf to look good, that is only your oppinion. he is wanting you to look good with out it and that is his oppinion. because it doesnt match yours it doesnt mean he doesnt want you to be good.
hope it was some help
thor
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reader, Blue Rat +, writes (30 March 2007):
A little make-up can enhance any girl's looks, even those who are naturally very beautiful anyway. It doesn't sound to me like you're the type to be wearing excessive amounts of the stuff, just a little to help you look and feel better. I think your boyfriend is being a bit weird about it to be honest. There's nothing wrong with wanting to look your best and a little make-up can do that. He's over-reacting to the whole thing.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (30 March 2007):
 Why is it that women feel the need to mask themselves behind a layer of paint? Somewhere along the way, women were told by the 'powers that be' that they had to look a certain way to be attractive. More than likely, it was the companies that make make-up. Women are slaves to the fashion editors.
Just tell your bf that it makes you feel good to try and 'look good' for yourself. Make it clear to him that you want to do it for yourself. . . even if you too are a slave to the fashion editors. LOL.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): He MIGHT object to your wearing heavy makeup. Do you? Otherwise, you are entitled to wear it whenever you want.
Perhaps you could compromise by removing your makeup when the two of you are alone and want to kiss and cuddle. If he is not willing to accept this kind of "solution" you may want to rethink your relationship.
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reader, JulietteElise +, writes (30 March 2007):
 i am actually quite jelouse of you my dear.
you see, i had the same problem.... just opposite! haha :0D
in high school i didn't wear makeup at all (except sometimes to dances and other such things) and my bf, though he said i was beutiful without it, really wanted me to wear makeup. It made me feel very hurt, like i wasn't good enough, and felt like he must be rather shallow and materialistic. I was more of a tomboy, and though i do wear makeup a bit more now (i looove that sparkaly lip stuff!!!) i wanted nothing at all to do with it then, esspically since i never wanted to be seen as anouther fashion-brainwashed girl who couldn't be pretty or happy without it.
however, just because my belifes where that then does not mean i agree with your bf! If you like it, and you like looking even more beutiful then i'm sure you already are, then don't let him pressure you into being a "plain jane." Though i deffintly understand how lipstick can be annoying and get all over, as well as feel weirdly squishy to kiss, just tell him that he'll have to get used to it because you like it... but that you are very glad he likes you and still finds you attrative without make-up. Perhaps you could try things like lipsmackers, which even though might not be as deeply tinted like lipstick, have great tastes, so he may enjoy kissing you with lipstuff on if it tasted ultra good. Also, just tell him to carry (or that you will carry) some tissues around so you can clean off any makeup that gets on him (and maybe some stainremoveing products if it gets on his clothes). As for the rest, how will eyeshadow and masscara harm him? unless you put on so much that you look like a clown, just keep wearing it if you like to. And even if painted nails can look weird and unatural (esspicaly if its dark colors on toes), just inform him that you like it, think its cool, and that its very common with females to paint their nails (and many females actually find this fun and relaxing to do!). Women have been painting their nails for ages, in ancient times henna was used to die nails, as well as paint intricate and amazingly buitiful designs on the body (still done today), and in ancient egypt people would actually paste thin peices of gold on their nails to give them shine.... and i could give so many more examples, but those two will do :0) i cant gureente that he will ever get used to or like make-up, but you don't have to feel hurt or insequre or frustrated over his remarks if you can get him to just accept its part of how you are since you like to do it.... you like to be fancy.
best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): What am I suppose to do? Not wear any make up all the time?
Well the world wouldn't end if you never wore make up again!
Your bf obviously finds you beautiful without makeup, and for that you should be pleased.
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