I love my friends husband!!

I'm struggling with the same thing as before...My attraction to my friend's husband. I have tried to avoid him like the plague, but we still end up seeing each other coincidentally, our kids are very good friends,etc. I have no problem seeing him, but I feel like my feelings for him have probably escalated or something and I think he can see this. He maybe sees this crush I have on Him? He gives me some intense looks back and I feel this electricity between us...I didn't expect to develop that sort of feeling, I am a married woman and I didn't think I'd feel like that after marrying my husband. There is alot of strain on my marriage at the momment, my husband works long and late hours. My concern is that this thing between my friend's husband and I seems like it's about to boil over and we'll admit some sort of feelings for each other...Is this okay, to just say okay, yes if we weren't attached, etc, but let's just leave it alone?? I feel like I can't keep hidding my feelings for him, my heart aches whenever I see him..I know I can't have an affair, but I'd like to tell him that I'm very fond of him,I Like spending the time we do share (of Course it's with the kids at the pool,etc). I've known my friend and her husband and family for 4 years. We're really close and I continue to struggle with this. What should I do? Should we keep ignoring the attraction Or should we talk about it?

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