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Is he scared, or does he just not like me?
Q. so theres this guy i like, its been like 6 months and i know he kinda likes me. his friends have told me this. we hang out like once a month, and we talk on the computer. he has been hurt before and he admitted once he backs off when someone gets ...
A. 15 March 2006: It sounds, to me, like he is just playing games with you. It is a sad fact of life, but at your age, a lot of guys are just immature and they don't know what they want and so they kind of jerk you around. I think you should just leave him alone ... (read in full...)
We clicked so well, but my parents didn't want that!
Q. I'm 22. I come from a 'well to do' family. I met a girl who had similar likes and dislikes to me. Seen her for about 3 months, we really clicked, never felt this before. Then i told my parents about her. They said don't see her, because she not ...
A. 15 March 2006: Your family should want you to be happy. If this girl makes you happy, then you should be with her. There is no reason for them to be stuck up about her background and not give her a chance. I know you love your family, but you are an adult now ... (read in full...)
I can't my behavior towards her, I'm going crazy!
Q. I am a 34 year old guy and I have fallen in love with a 32 year old woman. The problem for me is that I am feeling very insecure in this relationship. She is very beautiful and often gets admiring looks, comments, telephone numbers, and pro...
A. 15 March 2006: Well, you have pretty much answered your own question here. You know you need to back off, focus more on your own life, and stop being so obsessed. So what is stopping you? This is something you are going to have to work on yourself. You will ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for a guy that has a pregnant girlfriend. HELP!
Q. i am having a relationship with a guy whose in a relationship and his girlfriend is 5 months pregnant. we are both 30 something and educated people, but i cant help it. he is so what i am looking for after a 7 year sham of a relationship what shall ...
A. 15 March 2006: I am sorry to have to say this, but I think you need to let him go. I know you have feelings for him, but he is already involved with someone and they have a child to think of now. Things are only going to get harder when the baby is born and his ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him....it's wrong....but what can I do about it?
Q. Ok im 20 years of age and i have fallen madly in love with my Business School Teacher's Assente. I mean i know its wrong to try to start a relationship with him during school hours but how do i get to know him outside of school without giving any ...
A. 15 March 2006: If there is a risk of him getting fired or you getting expelled, then I would not pursue this relationship right now. If you are going to be finished with school soon, then try to wait until then to start up a relationship with this man. If you ... (read in full...)
Stunned by my ex's news, so how do I deal with this?
Q. I have recently split with my gay boyfriend, 21, after six months together. I am 33 and found out at the weekend that he has left me for his best friend who is 37. This man has just separated from his wife after 13 years of marriage and has...
A. 15 March 2006: Well, I can certainly understand your surprise over what has happened. I would be hurt, too, if my boyfriend left me for his best friend. But, you are right, you are "best out of it" and I think the only thing you can do is move on. I know it may ... (read in full...)
She says no body was as perfect as me, but I don't believe her!
Q. A Question to all you woman out there, my wife tells me guys are attracted to women more from a phyisical stand point, women from a emotional. that a mans body, penis size are not important. I cant believe my wife who has been with better body, ...
A. 15 March 2006: I agree completely with missbunbury about trying to be less negative about your body and your wife's compliments. You can't compare yourself to others all the time. Just because some that came before were better looking, does not necessarily mean ... (read in full...)
I don't get to out with my mates, but they don't ask me either!
Q. I don't really know where to start with this but, basically i never go out with my mates!I'm 17. I feel like a am drifting apart from the mates i hang round with in college at lunchtime and break, me and them just don't seem to have an awful lot in ...
A. 15 March 2006: You are right, I am going to suggest that you invite them out. But you don't have to invite all of them -- if you are too shy to deal with very many people at once, then just invite the one you like the most to see a movie with you. It isn't hard ... (read in full...)
Why won't he discuss our future with me?!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for almost a year, we're renting at the moment and are now looking into buying a place of our own. I dream of us having a long and happy future together, but he doesnt really let me in on whats his ...
A. 14 March 2006: well, i know this may be too hopeful, but maybe he is planning on proposing and is waiting for the right time to surprise you? that actually happened to my best friend and it was after they bought a house together. she was worried,too, and i will ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is sick and is letting go of us and I am feeling guilty. HELP!
Q. My Girlfriend and I broke up last night, and it hurts like hell. But yet it feels like a dark cloud is lifted off my shoulders. Let me explain… We’ve been dating for 8 months, and we have had some trying times. Let me start by saying that she is 15 ...
A. 9 March 2006: Well, I am sorry that you are so confused. It sounds very confusing! She is probably feeling 10 different emotions herself right now and is haivng a hard time realizing what she wants and she is just projecting all of this onto you. I think you ... (read in full...)
My gf and I don't have a spark anymore and she doesn't seem as interested, what can I do?
Q. hi i am 16 years old and i am a senior in high school. i have known this girl for about 1-1.5 years now and i have recently asked her out. when i first met her, it was very exciting and fun for her because she said i was upbeat and wasn't boring. so ...
A. 8 March 2006: I hate to say this, but if she wants to keep the relationship a secret at school, then she probably doesn't like you as much as she should. It sounds like you may be missing some chemistry there. You shoudl be able to feel comfortable around each ... (read in full...)
My fiance doesn't want to share importantness with my daughters, what should I do?
Q. I've been in a 6 year relationship with a woman who dislikes my 2 daughters, from prior marriages. She constantly brings up my past and berates me about my ex-wives and daughters. My Fiance demands that I tell her she is the " most important thing ...
A. 8 March 2006: No, you aren't way off base. This woman should not be trying to come between you and your daughters. Someone who loves you should want you to be happy and encourage you to be a good father, not be selfish and insecure about your past ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is sick and is letting go of us and I am feeling guilty. HELP!
Q. My Girlfriend and I broke up last night, and it hurts like hell. But yet it feels like a dark cloud is lifted off my shoulders. Let me explain… We’ve been dating for 8 months, and we have had some trying times. Let me start by saying that she is 15 ...
A. 8 March 2006: This situation sounds really painful for you. I think it is ok to feel a little relieved about the split because it certainly sounds stressful. It sounds like you have done all you can really do, but circumstances have happened that were far out ... (read in full...)
I'm crazy about this girl, how should I act when I get back home?
Q. I'm currently crazy about this girl, but i'm living in a different country, it's only for a few more months, until the summer. we've got quite a long history, but we've never actually been an item. we email occasionally but im worried i might have ...
A. 8 March 2006: Well, I think since you have been away for a while, it is best to just approach the situation as a friendship until you know whether she is seeing someone she really likes -- unless she has been very flirty with you in the emails, which should ... (read in full...)
A one night stand wanted to keep in touch, but then told me about another woman! What's this??
Q. I met a guy back in mid November, I am in my mid 40's, he is 40. It was supposed to be a one night stand, that ended up being more... Shortly after Christmas I heard from him, vis a text message that he was in a real mess with huge problems, he ...
A. 8 March 2006: Sorry Willy. Duely noted. I thought you were pretty cute, you know? I'm kinda bummed now. LOL!... (read in full...)
I have fantasies about my twin brother!
Q. I am 15 and I have a twin brother. Nothing has ever happened between us but the other day I walked into the bathroom and he was in the bath and I saw that his penis was erect. Since then I have had fantasies of him making love to me and I know that ...
A. 8 March 2006: You should definitely not act on this impulse. I think maybe you are curious about something that is "forbidden" and that may be a pretty common way to feel, actually. Just try to divert your thoughts when you think about things you know are wrong ... (read in full...)
We've been friends forever, but now he's acting like he don't even know me!
Q. this may be a long question but please bare with me... alright... well you see my best friend is a boy we have been best friends since gr 7 i love him to death... we have been physicaly doing stuff together (sexaul stuff ) since gr 8 i am now in gr ...
A. 8 March 2006: For one thing, I think you should stop having sex with him (at least for now). It sounds like having sex has made things a lot more complicated and emotional for you and that he is taking it for granted. He is young and most likely just "showing ... (read in full...)
A one night stand wanted to keep in touch, but then told me about another woman! What's this??
Q. I met a guy back in mid November, I am in my mid 40's, he is 40. It was supposed to be a one night stand, that ended up being more... Shortly after Christmas I heard from him, vis a text message that he was in a real mess with huge problems, he ...
A. 8 March 2006: OK, well that changes things a bit. And after reading willywombat's advice, I think I agree with him that it was probably nothing that he mentioned another woman and if you really like him and are insecure about him dating someone else, then you ... (read in full...)
I'm WAY too ticklish......even during sex!
Q. I'm fairly new to sex and have discovered that I'm extremely ticklish. To the point that I actually loose my erection if there is ANY contact with the area around the base of my penis, lower stomach, etc. (Thank god the shaft and head of my penis ...
A. 8 March 2006: Hmmm... well I get ticklish in bed sometimes but it is usually when I am nervous or self-conscious. Is there any way that you can relax a little more? Try giving yourself light touches in the areas so you can get used to the sensation. Ask your ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to ask me out?
Q. I have a problem. there's this guy i really like and have fancied him for months. he now knows i like him but i only ever speak to him on msn, and he hasn't done anything since he found out i had a crush on him. How can i get him to ask me out, and ...
A. 7 March 2006: OK. Well, this may be a shock to you, but what if you just asked him out? Sounds really scary, I know, but if he already knows you like him, what would it hurt? If he says no, it will hurt your feelings, but you will get over it. I think it is ok ... (read in full...)
A one night stand wanted to keep in touch, but then told me about another woman! What's this??
Q. I met a guy back in mid November, I am in my mid 40's, he is 40. It was supposed to be a one night stand, that ended up being more... Shortly after Christmas I heard from him, vis a text message that he was in a real mess with huge problems, he ...
A. 7 March 2006: Man, this guy sounds like a real piece of work... It sounds like you just had a one night stand to me. If he really cared about you, he would have gotten in touch with you. I know he lost his job, but come on! Why did he wait so long to call you? ... (read in full...)
When I was 16, someone said I was small and it's scarred me forever!
Q. I lost my virginity when I was 16. The girl I was with told others that I was small. Hearing her friends laugh at me has scarred me for years. I am still very insecure when it comes to my size even though everything I've read says I am average. Yet, ...
A. 7 March 2006: It is very difficult to forget such a hurtful comment. Just remember it was a young girl who said it and unless she was a total hoochie in high school, she probably didn't have much to compare you to, anyway. She was just trying to upset you. I ... (read in full...)
A boy I like, don't like me, what can I do?
Q. i really like this boy but he doesn't like me. i've asked him out many times but the answer is always no what can i do???...
A. 7 March 2006: Well, you can't force someone to like you and if you have made your feelings known and he tells you he doesn't like you, then you should try to forget about him and move on. It isn't a good idea to force the issue because you will just look ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and may be pregnant! What can I do?
Q. Hi my name is Jessica im 14 and i think i might be pregnant.but i dont know im too afraid to go to a clinic and get checked out so i know for sure.I am like 4-5 days late and i dont want to tell my mom because she might like hate me and stuff.I cant ...
A. 7 March 2006: Can you ask a trusted friend for the money to buy an over the counter test? I think it may be best for you to at least try to be somewhat sure before you talk to your mom about it. I sincerely believe that when you are worried about not getting ... (read in full...)
I've been so strong but will I regret not having him in my life?
Q. After being left for other women 10 months ago, I still can't seem to get a grip on my life. I really enjoy not being lied to, cheated on or emotionally and mentally abused. I thought I had my mind set and was being strong, doing the right thing ...
A. 6 March 2006: Sorry to have to say this, but screw that guy. He sucks and you know it. He would say anything to get you back because you are probably the best thing that ever happened to him in his miserable life and he probably just misses having someone to ... (read in full...)
My two friends are so flirty with each other, and it's making me uncomfortable!
Q. I feel uncomfortable with my two friends: J (guy) and my friend S (girl). In college they're my main friends and well, S is making me uncomfortable. She's in a relationship but she's very flirty around J and keeps bad mouthing. She's a flirtiou...
A. 6 March 2006: It sounds like you are feeling a little left out. YOu have two friends who are always flirting with each other and maybe they just aren't listening to you or paying you much attention... It is normal to feel that way, I think. Bringing it up ... (read in full...)
I don't think that I'm gay, but what just happened with my friend?
Q. Hi there, I'm a 21 year old single girl and was out with a couple of mates last night on the pull. Two of my friends left early so I ended up ging clubbing with my pal Leanne. We got back to hers at 3ish as I was crashing there. She got a doub...
A. 6 March 2006: I don't think there is a problem with it. It sounds like you two were just having some fun. You aren't necessarily gay just because you got intimate with a friend. But you should talk to see what her feelings are. If she wants a relationship, ... (read in full...)
My gf decided she 'couldn't be responsible for my happiness' now we are apart and I am gutted. What can I do??
Q. After my girlfriends mother passed away after a long illness my girlfriend starting pulling away from me and shutting me out. She said that she couldn't be responsible for my feelings\happiness and preferred to hang out with her friends as she didnt ...
A. 6 March 2006: My dad passed away a few years ago and I was very depressed for about a year or more. I ditched my guy, too. Once you have lost someone who is such a fundamental part of you, everything else just falls by the wayside. I wasn't even sad when I ... (read in full...)
Will he leave his girlfriend and child?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have met a guy and we have really hit it off, the problem is that he has a girlfriend and a young child to her. Up until she fell pregnant he was planning on calling things off but now cannot stand to be away from his child. He has n...
A. 6 March 2006: This is a situation you should try to steer clear of, at least until this guy figures out what he wants. Do you really want to be the catalyst for this guy leaving his girlfriend? For one, he may hold that against you at some point if things get ... (read in full...)
He's 28 and can't get a hardon. Could it be the drugs? Any suggestions?
Q. iv been seeing a lad from work since xmas 2005 and its going really well apart from in the bedroom,we are both 28, i dont think im his usual type but i no he`s liked me for ages and iv liked him a while too.Anyway he cant get a hard on no matter ...
A. 6 March 2006: I agree with smeedle as far as trying to stay sober for a while to see if it helps. If not, he should definitely ask his doc about it because it could be a symptom of a serious health problem. If it isn't either one of the above, it could just be ... (read in full...)
I peed when I came!
Q. last night me and my partner had sex. i felt like i was about to cum but something weird happened. Its very embarrassing to admit but instead of cuming massively i urinated... is this normal... I doubt it! someone advise me please!! i don't know how ...
A. 6 March 2006: It could be female ejaculation, or it is true that some women do pee a little sometimes when they come. It is totally normal and I know it might have been embarrassing for you, but I doubt your guy was caring too much when you were feeling good ... (read in full...)
Did I step on K's toes by kissing X in the club?
Q. Hi, I have written lots of responses on this site myself but want to remain anonymous for this I hope all the pro’s like Bev and Irish49 can help me with this one, as well as anyone that can give me a thoughtful response, I am a guy in my lat...
A. 6 March 2006: Well, I wonder why K would be upset about you and X? It doesn't make much sense, really, as I have always been happy when my friends have hooked up with each other (you know, you picture yourself standing next to them at the wedding taking credit ... (read in full...)
When we argue, it's somehow always my fault. Then I chase her and apologise... I wish I didn't do that!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a year now, and we are both very close and spend a lot of time together. We are both 16 years old. However, recently, things have started falling apart a little - we argue more than ever. However, as much as we ...
A. 6 March 2006: Well, you have described one instance. In this particular case, you probably were being too possessive since she was just kissing the guy on the cheek and it most likely was completely innocent. So you were right to apologize rather than let it be ... (read in full...)
Me and my best friends bf made love and now i'm pregnant with his kid!!
Q. I have gotten myself in to an awful mess. I didnt have a boyfriend so my best friend and her partner took me to a party. I didnt meet anyone there and my friend got so drunk we had to take her home and I helped him to put her to bed. Afterw...
A. 6 March 2006: You are sorry you deceived your best friend? You don't really sound too sorry you did it when you are telling her what happened out of revenge and in an effort to end their relationship so you could be with her guy. I think you need to leave them ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend takes ages to cum. Is it because there's something wrong with him? Or with me?
Q. Ive been with my b/f for just over a year. We love each other very much and do plan to get married in the near future. The problem is our sex life or maybe it's my problem? Well anyway I can get him aroused easy enough; i'ts just that he takes ag...
A. 6 March 2006: Maybe you should try oral or manual stimulation and see if that helps him to get there. Some people (men and women!) require more stimulation than what actual intercourse can provide. It may be that he masturbates a lot and that makes it more ... (read in full...)
He doesn't give me oral so should I for him?
Q. I always go down on my partner cos he likes it and enjoys it (i dont). I dont let him cum in my mouth tho because i dont like it. When i ask him to go down on me he wont he makes excuses. Am i right to give to him even tho he dont do the same for ...
A. 6 March 2006: Have you tried asking him why he never goes down on you? Maybe there is some underlying reason he doesn't want to tell you for fear of hurting your feelings - some guys don't like it when there is too much hair down there, etc. If he doesn't give ... (read in full...)
My female friend is getting it on with her own sister! How should I deal with this?
Q. One of my friends (who's 16) recently told me her and her sister are so close they even have sexualy contact. She told me they perform oral sex on each other and I find this very disturbing. Her sister is 14 and they have apparantly had this ...
A. 6 March 2006: Hmm.. this is an interesting situation. I can't help but wonder if your friend said this to you to get attention or if this is really happening. Sometimes people lie about horrible things and just can't control themselves. Maybe there is a ... (read in full...)
My gaydar is in good shape... But now I've fallen in love with a gay!
Q. Howdy, need some help. How do you spot a gay closet man, that's hiding his true colours, and is as manly and butch as possible, but something somehow gives it away? what is it? I've met this guy, the best looking, well groomed, fashionable, smells g...
A. 3 March 2006: You should just make a move on this guy and see how he reacts. There is not really a standard thing that gives away homosexuality. He could be a metrosexual! You will never really know unless you either come on out and ask him or just bust a move ... (read in full...)
How does a 12 yr old boy gets famous and have girls running for him?
Q. How does a 12 year old boy gets famous,have girls running for him,and get a girlfriend.(Just asking because my friend asked me to)...
A. 3 March 2006: Great suggestion about the guitar! Girls love musicians (against our better judgment sometimes...) and if you are really good, you just might get famous. Also, you could try becoming a professional skateboarder / snowboarder or any of that ... (read in full...)
My husband invited his cousin to visit, but I want to get to know him first!
Q. My husband and I have been married for a year and he has invited his cousin that he has not seen for years to come over for a couple of days to our house. I don't want him to come until I get to know him first to see am I dealing with. Is that OK ...
A. 3 March 2006: I can see why you would be a little put off, but how are you supposed to meet the cousin if he doesn't come and visit? It is rather rude to ask him to rent a room instead of letting him stay with you. I don't think you really have much control ... (read in full...)
Opened my heart to my ex because I thought he was single...
Q. Hi, I am very embarrassed about a rendez vous I had with my ex. You see, we broke up a year ago, and since then I have realised that I was mad about this guy, but just wasn't ready at the time. We both are single now, so I arranged to meet...
A. 3 March 2006: Just because you saw him with someone does not mean he is not single. It could be a casual date, which does not constitute a relationship, or it could be a friend and nothing more. Either way, you have made your feelings known. I don't think ... (read in full...)
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