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writes: I'm currently crazy about this girl, but i'm living in a different country, it's only for a few more months, until the summer. we've got quite a long history, but we've never actually been an item. we email occasionally but im worried i might have missed out by living abroad for a year, she might have someone new!! Any ideas how i can keep her interested without seeming desperate, and stop myself going crazy thinking about what she might be up to, and what should i do when i move back home? she might have a boyfriend. how should i approach the situation not knowing? Should I just assume she hasn't!?We're both early 20's by the way.Tim Reply to this Question
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reader, terri palmer +, writes (12 March 2006):
Hi Tim
I agree a lot with the last piece of advice you were given..
It might be a good idea to hint that you are interested in this girl in one of your mails.. Not too heavily of course.. try to be as discreet as possible..lol... Make sure you tell her how much you miss her friendship while you are away and that you are looking forward to getting home again. You could even tell her you would love to take her out somewhere when you get home.. for a meal maybe? As you have missed her so much and realised how much you appreciate her? that kind of thing..
I know you are fretting about what she may or may not be doing while you are away.. but of course its impossible to know being so far away.. I guess you could ask her what shes been doing.. I dont mean that as an inquisition..lol. Just as in.. you telling her how your day/week was and what you did.. then of course ask her.. or she may tell you anyway..
Good luck
Terri Palmer
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reader, juliagulia  +, writes (8 March 2006):
 Well, I think since you have been away for a while, it is best to just approach the situation as a friendship until you know whether she is seeing someone she really likes -- unless she has been very flirty with you in the emails, which should indicate to you that she is interested. If she is single or just dating someone she isn't really that into, then you can tell her how you feel. Of course, it might be good to plant a tiny little seed right now through your email to let her know you really want to see her when you get back. If she likes you, that will send her a signal to hold off on starting anything serious before you get back. Good luck!
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