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writes:I feel uncomfortable with my two friends: J (guy) and my friend S (girl). In college they're my main friends and well, S is making me uncomfortable. She's in a relationship but she's very flirty around J and keeps bad mouthing. She's a flirtious person but still I don't know if I should say something.She made to be getting engaged but that doesn't stop her hanging on to J. Sometimes I try to have conversations with J about something serious she just turn it into a joke. Should I ask them if something's going on or just act as if nothing's going on? Or just not hang round with them anymore?
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (8 March 2006):
Angelicc is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank for all of your advise. i haven’t spoken to them about it but i do still spend time with them sometime. i decided socializes more with the other people in my class although most of them are 2 faced but thank anyway
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reader, juliagulia +, writes (6 March 2006):
 It sounds like you are feeling a little left out. YOu have two friends who are always flirting with each other and maybe they just aren't listening to you or paying you much attention... It is normal to feel that way, I think. Bringing it up probably won't help and will most likely just make them think you are jealous of their relationship when really you are just kind of annoyed. I think you should try to spend less time with them and find a few new pals or just do some things for yourself in your free time. Maybe being around them less will keep you from going off the deep end...
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reader, kellyO +, writes (5 March 2006):
 Hi there, I dont really think u should involve yourself in S affairs. I am sure J is aware that she is engaged to be married and if he decides to be flirtatious with her its his problem really.If either S or J comes to you for advise then it is a different issue and u can voice your opinion but really it isnt advisable to get yourself involved in others affairs whether they are your close friends or not because at the long run it is usually you that will get yourself burnt or hurt.
Also, u mentioned that S puts ur conversations with J down since she turns it into a joke. Perhaps u could try talk to her about it. If u really find it offensive then u need to make it known to her when she does that or you talk seriously conversation to J alone when she isnt around to make fun.If u find it difficult to tolerate her friendship and comments and u cant seem to handle it then u could find urself a new friend that is willing to take you more seriously. This doesnt mean u should stop being S or J friends completely, it just means u get to have others that u could also hang out with.
All the best.
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