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writes: hi i am 16 years old and i am a senior in high school. i have known this girl for about 1-1.5 years now and i have recently asked her out. when i first met her, it was very exciting and fun for her because she said i was upbeat and wasn't boring. so a few days ago, i decided i truly liked her and i asked her out. she said yes but she says she doesn't believe that i really like her. i do tell her i really do like her, but i have a feeling she doesn't believe me. she also said she misses the old me, the personality i had when i first met her. she said now i am more depressed, sad, and melancholy. we hung out yesterday and i noticed a bunch of awkward silences that i tried to fix. it was lame. i asked the lamest questions. i get the feeling its her that doesnt really like me. but i dont know i am confused. and i get a funny feeling that she isn't the kind of person that would hook arms or hold hands because it still feels like we are just friends. we've been going out for about a day already lol and it feels lame to me. but i do like her. i called her last night to tell her good night and sweet dreams and she didnt say it back to me. we were supposed to be in school early today about 730. and i got a call from my teacher because me or her wasnt there early as we were supposed to. i tried calling her this morning to tell her to go to school early... about 4-5 times and she didn't pick up. i confronted her about it, she said she didnt want to pick up. i felt kind of sad. we dont have a spark or anythin anymore. it is true i am more quiet and reserved now.. but i really DO like her. i just dont want this relationship (if u can call it one) a dud. one of those failure of a relationship. i do like her..but it doesnt feel right if she doesnt truly like me back and we are going out! my friends say i over-analyze and over think a lot of things. it could be im over-reacting but im not sure what i should do. we dont hang out a lot because she is busy with tennis. and i have a lot of free time on my hands. she lives about a 50 minute drive from town (Where i live). im guessing we can only see each other about once a week. in school she wants to keep it a secret. so it feels lame to me. i dont know what to do! what should i do! help..
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reader, juliagulia  +, writes (8 March 2006):
 I hate to say this, but if she wants to keep the relationship a secret at school, then she probably doesn't like you as much as she should. It sounds like you may be missing some chemistry there. You shoudl be able to feel comfortable around each other rather than feeling awkward. If you have been going out for one day and you think it is "lame" then it sounds like you are better off just being friends. In the meantime, try to find a hobby to take up some of your time so you aren't overanalyzing! Pick up the guitar or learn to paint or get into photography or some other thing you are interested in to keep you busy. You might meet a great girl that way!
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