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Opened my heart to my ex because I thought he was single...
Q. Hi, I am very embarrassed about a rendez vous I had with my ex. You see, we broke up a year ago, and since then I have realised that I was mad about this guy, but just wasn't ready at the time. We both are single now, so I arranged to meet...
A. 3 March 2006: Just because you saw him with someone does not mean he is not single. It could be a casual date, which does not constitute a relationship, or it could be a friend and nothing more. Either way, you have made your feelings known. I don't think ... (read in full...)
I really love this girl and thought she was the one for me. How can I save this relationship?.
Q. I have been going out with this amazing girl for almost 6 months, and I will admit this girl is someone I can see spending the rest of my life with down the road..she is 29 years old....so far sounds good but there of course is a problem. About 6 ...
A. 3 March 2006: If she is this confused about the relationship, there isn't much you can do about it. You have expressed your feelings and been very sweet about it and that is the right thing to do. Sorry but that old cliche does apply here - if you love someone, ... (read in full...)
Are you born gay or do you "go gay"?
Q. Please help are you born gay, or do certain things in life or the way that you grow up determine your sexuality. Since childhood, I was not very boyish, or tough, more soft, timid, femine, as I got older and knew the ways of behaviour i bcame mor...
A. 3 March 2006: Honestly, does it really matter whether you are born gay or if certain things that happen in your life cause you to be attracted to people of the same sex? I think it can be both - for instance, some boys who are molested by men grow up and find ... (read in full...)
He's still hung up on his ex..I love him but I feel like second best!
Q. I met a bloke in work 7 months ago, we started seeing each other but he had recently come out of a relationship. soon after we finished because he said he was scared about how quickly he had feelings for me and wasn't ready for all that. anyway we ...
A. 3 March 2006: I think you deserve better than this. This guy is very confused and should probably spend some time alone thinking things through. He definitely doesn't sound as if he is ready to be with you. I don't think you are necessarily "second best" - he ... (read in full...)
Is she playing a mind game or do I just need to relax and wait her out?
Q. Hi, I'm the one that had the question "I enjoyed our first meeting, but she's so busy that I can't seem to plan a second!" and I'm still lost. Here is some more information and the latest happenings. I laid off of her and waited for her to contact ...
A. 3 March 2006: I have to be honest here and say she probably just isn't really that interested in you. No matter how busy she is, if she felt "the spark" or whatever, she would want to talk to you and make an effort to do it. A "hi" through a text message or im ... (read in full...)
He's an alcoholic..should I just end this relationship?
Q. I have been with the same man for 5 years and he has always been an alcoholic, which has bothered me. I have confessed my feelings about this problem to no avail. Now it seems that I've given up, I don't care anymore and I am not happy in the ...
A. 3 March 2006: Yes. You have to do what is best for you and your child. My dad was an alcoholic and my mom kept trying to stay with him because of me even though both of us were miserable. You can't get this guy to quit drinking. Honestly, maybe if you left it ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him for being inconsiderate?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months. He says he loves me and buys me flowers all the time, but he keeps saying he is coming over and doesn't show up until two hours later. Last night he did it again and I went to the bar to have a ...
A. 3 March 2006: Well, I asked him about it, but he said he was mad at me because he thought I was "cooler than that" and that is just the way he is, etc. He kind of tried to turn it back around on me. I asked him if he was an alcoholic and he said yes. At that ... (read in full...)
Any advice for a porn addict trying to break free?
Q. I have a problem. Currently I'm single. Been that way for over a year now, despite various dates and the like I have not hooked up with anyone I really connected with. My problem is that I look at porn. Not too much, say once or twice a week, but if ...
A. 3 March 2006: Hmmm... well, as a woman, I often enjoy looking at porn, too. It is hard to resist sometimes. But, I find that my imagination works just as well when I am "taking care of business". I don't look at it much because I only have online access at ... (read in full...)
Sex with him is not passionate...it's just okay. I feel this is a big problem. hat should I do?
Q. i've been with my partner for 10 years. Sex has been okay but never really passionate. I love my partner to bits, but he never wants sex. I don't want to leave him, but feel this is a problem What should I do?...
A. 2 March 2006: It does sound like you have a great relationship. If all that is missing is some fun in bed, then you are lucky! All you have to do is try some new things. Get creative. Try meeting up at a bar and pretending you don't know each other and then ... (read in full...)
All we do is stay in and watch TV... How do I stop the perfect night in I'm planning become more of the same?
Q. ok so i've been with my guy for just over a year and we've been really close and everythings been great, but lately we've been getting bored, not with each other but just with what we do. (which to be honest is not much) We see eachother enough a...
A. 2 March 2006: Try going to museums - they are usually low cost or free and it gives you something to discuss afterward. Have a picnic. Play 20 questions. Do mad libs or crosswords together. Start a story with one sentence and let him do the next sentence and ... (read in full...)
"Spark" overrated?
Q. Is Spark everything? Is it better to be with someone who you really have that amazing spark with or someone who you really care about and respect and love but that spark is not there. I know the spark goes but if it is not there in the first pla...
A. 2 March 2006: Sometimes you just know someone is right for you and sometimes there is a person that you know is a good person and would be good to you and you try to make yourself like that person because you know they are good for you. Look, I hate carrots and ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my boyfriend if he wants a threesome?
Q. hello, i am a 23 year old girl who has been with my boyfriend for 1 year and a month. we get along amazingly and have a trustful relationship. the problem (which really isnt a problem exactly) is that i want to spice up our sex life, by having a ...
A. 2 March 2006: Hmmm... well, I think I agree with most everything everyone else has said about this one. But you also should establish boundaries. Maybe a threesome might not work for him, but maybe seeing you kiss another girl would be a turn on for both of ... (read in full...)
Did he change his e-mail address and not tell me? What do you think?
Q. A guy that I had been close friends with and hoped that one day we'd be an item had to move a couple of months ago for a job. He gave me his old computer before he moved so we could stay in contact. Well that was 4 months ago. Everytime I tried ...
A. 2 March 2006: Well, I doubt he changed his email and his number specifically to ditch you. It sounds like he wanted to stay in touch, but maybe once he got there he got really busy, met a new girl, etc. and just hasn't had the time to get in touch with you. ... (read in full...)
He said he's sorry and won't flirt...should I carry on with this relationship or is it pointless?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend two years now at the begining of the relationship i used to let him walk all over me because i didn't have the guts to say anything. He didnt realise i could see what hed' been saying online to girls and when i confront...
A. 2 March 2006: It is pointless. Dump him immediately and start working on your self-esteem. This guy is not treating you right and you are letting him get away with it. It sounds like you need to find some self-respect and then find someone who can appreciate ... (read in full...)
He gave another girl his phone number-what should I do and should I be worried?
Q. Me and my boy friend have been together for 2 years with a 3 month split in the middle because he is joining the army. Whilst waiting to go in the army he has got a job at a sport shop. Previously i found out that a girl called "julie" fancied him. ...
A. 2 March 2006: Well, it isn't good that he lied about who he got a text from. I'm not sure why he would lie. I think the fact that he gave a girl his number is less important than him lying about who sent a text. Did you ask him straightaway when you first saw it ... (read in full...)
My bf of 2yrs is joining the army.. will he cheat on me?
Q. my bf of 2yrs is joining the army will he cheat?...
A. 2 March 2006: I agree. There is no way to tell whether he will be faithful. But there is a saying that goes "Why worry today? If you worry today, it may not happen and you will have worried for nothing. If it does happen, you had to worry twice!" So, no need ... (read in full...)
We kissed but now that it's happened, he avoids me! What should I do?
Q. Hiya, I recently french kissed this boy that I've liked for ages, it was my first time. But now that I've done it he seems to be avoiding me. He signs on msn but doesn't engage in any conversation with me, and it feels already that he just wanted m...
A. 2 March 2006: Well, well, your first kiss. Maybe it was his first kiss, too and he feels embarrassed or something. Who knows what boys are thinking most of the time?! I think you should follow the advice you were already given and just let it ride. The ball ... (read in full...)
Met this girl online but how will her parents and brother react?
Q. Hi. i have recently met someone. I met this person online, and at first i was just talking to her to kill time. As i got to know her, i had this feeling she was the one for me and i started to get these feelings i have never had before, and before i ...
A. 2 March 2006: OK. First off, saying you love someone that you have never spent any face time with is not really a good idea. Not that looks are important, but you need to really see each other in order to determine your true feelings. It may be that there is ... (read in full...)
Any way to kick start a sex-life?
Q. My boyfriend and I don't have sex that much, I think it is because we don't have good sex. Is there any way to start having an amazing sex life, even though we never have....
A. 2 March 2006: Sure! You need to find some things that you both enjoy. For example, give each other full body massages and try different types of touch to see what you respond to and what your partner responds to best. Maybe some soft touches and then some rough ... (read in full...)
Am I paranpid or should I be concerned?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 10 months now, Im 18, hes 19. Its the longest relationship we've both had. My problem is, I get so paranoid over every little thing. At the beginning, everything between was perfect like it always is, but ...
A. 2 March 2006: You know, I am just going to come right on out and say this, but if he had reddish-brown stuff on his penis right after you had sex, it could be that you were spotting. Were you having your period a few days before that or did you get it a few days ... (read in full...)
Am I paranoid or just right about his possible straying?
Q. ok, so we have been together 6yrs. married for two yrs. we have a two year old daughter. I am just wondering if i am paranoid or what. my husband works alot of weird hours. which is ok becauase i don't work. i noticed on when i look on the ...
A. 2 March 2006: I agree with Shania on this one. You need to investigate fully before you come at him with accusations. You really need all the facts. And that may mean snooping. But so what?! You deserve to know the truth - you are married and have a kid, ... (read in full...)
My serial affair wife is pregnant... Again
Q. Hi, Me and my wife have had relationship problems In 1994 she had an affair. I forgave her and in 1999 we had our first child. In 2002, she had another affair and the diffiulty I had was multiplied because I now had a son whom I had to consider...
A. 2 March 2006: You definitely can't tell her not to have a baby when she wants to have a baby. I know it is kind of unfair to the men involved when we women make decisions against their will and whatever, but that is just the way it goes, unfortunately. If you ... (read in full...)
He prefers oral to making love to me... Why?
Q. The problem: my boyfriend prefers being given oral sex to having sexual intercourse. I figured this out a while ago but recently he has actually told me this and he seemed to think it was strange of him. I don't know why but I feel hurt that he ...
A. 2 March 2006: I am a woman and I love oral sex. Giving and receiving! And honestly, I enjoy getting it more than I enjoy intercourse. It is the only way I orgasm. So while I might mention that to my guy and hope that he responds with more oral pleasure (and I ... (read in full...)
Not sure how to leave my husband for my lady-lover...
Q. Hi, I really need some advise! ive been with my husband for 8 years and married for 18 months! but for 19 months I have been having an affair with a women who i also work with! i got married for all the wrong reasons, mainly to keep my family happy ...
A. 2 March 2006: You know you should leave, but you don't know how to do it? Well, this stuff is never easy, but the only solution is to sit down with him and be honest about who you are. It is unfair to him, unfair to you, and unfair to your partner to keep this ... (read in full...)
Do I just let him go or should I try to win him back?
Q. Having real trouble getting over a guy... Ok I'll try and keep this short; just before Christmas last year this guy started at my work. I found out from a workmate that he liked me and at first didn't believe it as I'd barely spoken to him (h...
A. 2 March 2006: I agree with the other opinions here. I know you felt a connection, but it doesn't seem that he is feeling the same way and unfortunately, sometimes that is one-sided. If he really liked you, he would believe that you didn't write that stupid ... (read in full...)
I feel I'm flat chested and I'm depressed and self harm...please help
Q. I am flat Chested and a 15 yr old, people some times directly say sumin to me, and i feel like i want to die, i also siffer from depression! Why cant i beat these bullies! What shall i do, how can i over come this? Please Please help me, because...
A. 2 March 2006: Breasts sometimes grow larger as you get older, so stop worrying about it so much because they may still get bigger. And if some guy makes a comment about them, you should comment on the size of his yoo-hoo and see how he likes it. You have to ... (read in full...)
I had sex with him but he was so ugly, I didn't want to be seen with him! It's over but I keep thinking about him??
Q. weve been going out with my bf for 2yrs with a 3mnth split in the middle. we split because i couldnt deal with him joining the army. when we were apart i ending up having regular sex with this bloke. he was very good in bed and i liked his ...
A. 2 March 2006: This same situation has happened to me before. I think ugly guys really go out of their way in bed or something. Anyway, unless you want to cheat on your boyfriend or dump him and go out with this guy (ignoring the stares and mean comments by your ... (read in full...)
I'm pretty and nice..my friend is ugly. So how did she get a bf and I didn't?
Q. Not boasting, just being confident, but im dead pretty and nice, and my mate is dead ugly and can be really horrible, then how did she get a bf and i didnt? im lonely and i want a bf because now shes left me for her new guy. ...
A. 2 March 2006: You need to stop looking for a boyfriend. What you should do is focus on making some new single girlfriends to go out with and let the boys come to you. And you should be happy for your friend instead of jealous of her. Ugly girls need boyfriends, ... (read in full...)
He's with me but still wears an engraved ring and necklaces from ex gf's. This hurts and why does he do this?
Q. Hi I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, we get on really well and have alot in common (im 22 he is 30) the problem is he still wears a ring that one of his ex girlfriends gave him with his and her names engraved in it, wears a n...
A. 2 March 2006: You are not wrong to feel that way. He is obviously nostalgic about his past relationships, and that is okay, but he doesn't have to let you know he still thinks of this exes on occasion. You should ask him to put these things away because they ... (read in full...)
My sex life is sooo boring-even a vibrator doesn't help! what can I do?
Q. our sex life is drying up, we have always been quite experimental with positions but we always do the same 5 or 6, am i just being too demanding? ive got a vibratior and we use that as an aid during sex but im still bored. please help!!!!!!!!!! x...
A. 2 March 2006: Maybe you are bored because there is not much chemistry there. Rather than looking for ways to spice up the sex you are having, look for ways to be more excited by your partner. Try doing some different things together that you have not ... (read in full...)
My best friend has become distant and cold with me...I don't know what to do!
Q. My best friend has recently changed towards me, shes become distant and cold with me. We used to speak all the time and tell each other everything but now we argue everyday and it will end with her shouting at me and saying that she hates me and ...
A. 2 March 2006: I realize that you care about this person very much and you want to help. But you also have to put yourself first. She is hurting you and that is not the kind of friendship you need in your life. It sounds like you need to spend some time apart ... (read in full...)
I don't know where I stand with her and if she might use me...
Q. I have been really good friends with this girl for near 6 months now and we became close and helped each other out. I then wrote her a love letter saying i wanted more because i cared for her so much, for just over 2 weeks after that she basically ...
A. 2 March 2006: This girl just wants to be friends with you. If she has a history of asking for "favors" then it is possible that she is using you. If she ever asks to borrow money or for other charitable things, then you might think twice about being friends ... (read in full...)
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