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writes:I know this guy who is in his late 30s and who is a teacher - the problem I have is that he has been lying about having a wife and daughter when he doesn't. He claims that this is because he wants to protect himself from typical issues that could affect a single male teacher. Is this a legitimate reason for lying? I've never encountered this behaviour before. He also wears a wedding ring.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): well either he has a problem or he just isnt intrested...sorry
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): He may be trying to keep a distance between himself and potential, or suspicions,(think the Police song Dont Stand So Close To Me) or, maybe,he is gay and doesn't want to deal with the issues from ignorant co workers or parents.
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (14 August 2011):
 Why would he lie about beng married to someone who is aged 36-40? I'd be wary of him whether you are interested in him romantically or not, as ALL relationships are based on mutual trust.
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (14 August 2011):
As someone who works in a UK school. We have it drilled into us about acting professionally and for some of us being private about our lives outside of school or pretending to be married etc is our defense mechanism. I know someone whos male, works in an all girls school and won't enter some rooms without another member of staff present. If he wants to be like that, let him. You state your age is 36 - 40 are you attracted to this man or are you someone who doesn't work with young people wondering why this man does this?
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reader, Battista +, writes (14 August 2011):
Male teachers are inundated with attention (unwanted) from female pupils so I expect this has to do with his line of work and making himself appear to be "taken", so to speak. You only have to read Dear Cupid on an infrequent basis to see how many posts there are from young females with crushes on who are convinced that some or other male teacher is reciprocating their feelings.
Are interested in this guy romantically or is he a friend, or just an acquaintance? If you don't know him very well I don't see why this should be a problem if it doesn't really affect you.
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