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writes:Why does he keep doing this? how do I tell him i want to forget him? ? There's this guy I use to work with. I liked him a lot and I use to stare at him a lot of times at work and each time I looked at him he'd be looking at me too. So I got the impression that he was into me too.I gave him my number he rang me straight away. We got talking getting to know each other. He even rang me a few times when he went on holiday abroad.I thought we were getting somewhere cos I told him how I felt about him and he told me how he felt and wanted to take things slow.But he stopped ringing me and hardly answered my calls and would not turn up or call to cancel whenever we make plans for a date. So I deleted his number and moved on. But 3weeks later he rang me saying sorry and he was stressed with family problems and work. I gave him another chance made plans for another date he again he didn't ring or show.I use to really like this guy.. I would fantasise about him a lot. But I don't think about him like that anymore. Today he texted me asking me out on a date.He does this all the time. Like every weeks he'd text me asking me out again.What is wrong with him? How do I tell him I don't want to play his game anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): His actions say disinterested and you are not worth putting effort and time into to start anything. His actions show unreliable and eratic to unstable.
Ignore him. Don't respond to texts. He'll get the message quick.
Move on and pay attention to those who pay you proper attention and friendship.
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reader, Honest Answer  +, writes (19 February 2012):
 Silence is sometimes louder that words.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): He is a loser. And If you get the opportunity tell him a guy asked you out and you have plans with this "new guy".. and a sorry. FORGET HIM .
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2012): He sounds like a player looking for a good time. When a guy is into you, he makes time for you. period. No ifs, ands, and certainly no other butts. I think you should let him go and stop giving him a chance to play games with your head. He knows how you feel. He told you how he feels. He should be pursuing you instead of making you go crazy over him. He seems like the type of guy that likes the chase plus telling a guy how you feel about him first, if you did, is risky because he probably just said all of that (his feelings) to not make you feel bad, to get himself off the hook, and to keep you in the reins as a possible future f*ck buddy. I don't know him or what he's like but He sounds like a d*ck. If I were you, I wouldn't say a thing, let your actions do the talking. When he texts/calls you, do not, I repeat do NOT respond. If you see him, keep going on about your business as if he's a random stranger from nowhere. Don't play any games while doing this, meaning, don't decide tht you will respond to his calls one day and then next week, you won't respond. Quit him cold turkey and then go out and get all dolled up with ur friend(s) for a night out on the town (drinks, movies, dinner maybe). Enjoy ur singlehood while you can because relationships can be a mess. Lol. BUT, if you are really looking for love, the best way to get over one guy is to get under a new one j/k ,lol but seriously, JUST date, date, date. That is all. Good day.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 February 2012):
 Let him go. My guess is, he has a GF or he is really not interested. He just liked to attention and to have a girl to call every now and then.
If he REALLY wanted to go out with you, he would have set up a date and taken you out a LONG time ago.
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (18 February 2012):
Hey,
With some guys, they are scared of rejection. Because you are soo nice to them they feel they don't deserve you so they back away suddenly when they fear that things might not work out and make ridiculous excuses. The fact he called you back shows he might be feeling this way. Some guys will butter up a number of potential dates and pick 'n choose between them aka players. Either way neither situation is fair on you, if I wanted to be with someone and had family problems I would tell them and they would be the ones to help me get though it. Anyway at the end of the day you've got your own feelings to take care of. If you don't want this guy in your life, be assertive and tell him no thanks. If he won't take no for an answer (being nice to you or not) tell him you consider anymore contact harrasment. Hope it works out for you.
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