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My boyfriend barely lasts for 10 seconds during sex!!

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Question - (15 June 2012) 4 Answers - (Newest, 16 June 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, *rownskinn06 writes:

Me and my boyfriend had been having sex for 5 months now but we jus start dating back in march, hes sex is good and but he only lasts for maybe 10 seconds, what does that mean???? He always says sorry because he cums so fast, but i always say its ok its ok dont be, but im really worried hes the first guy i ever had sex with that didnt last long, dont get me wrong i love this guy soooooooo much n wanna be with forever, but sometimes i jus wish the sex would last longer, i do get that feeling where i wanna go n have sex with somebody else, but trust me i wont do that hes my everything, i jus had feelings about it....... wwhat should ah girl ???????? evthatcuz i got too much hes my everything

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A male reader, Hugh.J United Kingdom +, writes (16 June 2012):

Hugh.J agony auntI was about to say something similar to "Moo's Mum".

I suggest that he takes care of himself before sex starts, either privately or with you, then get him to bring you off a couple of times first via extended foreplay.

At his age, he should easily be erect again and ready to pleasure you, but having already ejaculated it will take him longer.

Also, your having had an orgasm or two will have made you less caring about his short duration.

Tell us how you get on.....

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A female reader, Moo's Mum New Zealand +, writes (16 June 2012):

Moo's Mum agony auntHe should cum first during foreplay and then keep going to get aroused again for sex. He wont be so sensitive then and will last longer.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (15 June 2012):

DoubleM agony auntIt probably means that he is offering you little, if any, foreplay and is focused more on his own satisfaction. In other words, he apparently knows little about pleasing a woman. It wold take a book to explain what he doesn't know, but in a nutshell, he should make his first priority pleasing you - whatever that takes - including oral satisfaction if appropriate. More foreplay, cunnilingus, whatever - then it will not matter so much that his climax is quick during intercourse - if you have already experienced one or more orgasms.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2012):

you can work on this by taking a little bit more control....

During intercourse, when you know he is getting really worked up and close, have him pull out and slow down a bit...get worked up again and repeat...delay that ejaculation. If you perform oral, do the same. He's basically performing like a jack rabbit and hasn't learned to make it last...and that's pretty typical of guys when they are young, not to worry. Talk to him about pleasing you as well, and that will also slow down that rush in taking care of only himself.

Also, sometimes it's nice to go at it like savages and make it a powerful quicky! But other times it is nice to have the pleasure last for a long time.

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