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Well for years n years ive sat back watched my mates and their relationships and learnt alot im the one they always come to for help even the boys so I think that im preddy gd at this n I just want to be able to help other people like I help my friends.
I am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend of two years and 2 months and I often use my experiences that ive had with my boyfriend as help for other people who have had problems that ive experienced in the past with my bf.
Anyways I hope I can do alot of gd on here and if anyone has anything they would like to ask me feel free to email me.
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Got my first proper date with an older guy on Friday... don't know what to wear or how to behave!
Q. i have my first proper date on friday night,and i am reali nevous i dont have a clue what to wear as i usually dress quite casually, and i dont wanna come on to slaggy either.i am very nervous aswell becuz hes a older than me and im not quite sure ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hey Huni
Hope hes not a great deal older than you if he is bad bad idea but if its just a yr or two then make sure you are comfortable with the cloths you put on if he likes you for who u are it doesnt matter what you wear but of course youll want... (read in full...)
How do I tell him, I want to kiss him at my b'day party?
Q. There's a guy I like who I think likes me back. My birthday is coming up and some of our mutual friends are having a party for me and someone else. Now, my guy and I aren't dating but I really want him to know that I like him and I'd really like to ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hey Huni
Urm well youll just have to try a bit of the flirty stuff i would if i was u ide go up chatting to him see if he seems like he wants to have a conversation with me then if he seems like he does i guess id ask him if hed like a drink n thn ... (read in full...)
My bf doesn't feel the same way as I do - should I just give it time or leave?
Q. hey everybody, I'm new to this whole thing, but i thought i'd give it a try.what should i do if i'm in love with my boyfriend, but he doesn't seem to feel as intense about me as i do about him? should i forget it, or wait it out? because i do want...
A. 5 June 2007: Hey Huni well it all depends how long you have been with him. If the relationship is new jus give him some time lads take a bit longer to fall in love sometimes especially if hes a really ladish boy, if its been yrs though then he probably does love ... (read in full...)
He likes kinky stuff--I'm not into that! What should I do?
Q. Hello I am dating a 25 year old man. Sometimes we have great sex but more than the great sex its bad. He will get aroused at first but when we ingage in intercorse he loses it and sometimes he looks akward and laughs. He does masterbate a lot and ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hey well 1st just let him know u feel a bit uncomfortable doin this but with sex ya have to give and take jus experiment handcuffs r rather dominating just handcuff and blind fold him and have your wicked way with him see how you feel about tht ... (read in full...)
I'm not into online dating, so how can I get back into the dating scene?
Q. Hi, I've been single for a year and a half now. I'm interested in getting back into the dating scene and I'm not sure how to go about this. I work hard and socialise with my friends (most of them guys). I have tried the online thing and its really ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hey Huni Any mates that can set you up if you have a lot of male friends I'm sure they'll have a mate they could set you up with? Also go to pubs and clubs see if you get chated up while being stood at bar or get danced with on the dance floor. ... (read in full...)
Anyone who doesn't grovel at my feet is not worth my time. How do I get over my ego??
Q. I find it joyful to see someone beg down to me and ask for mercy so that I can then decide as to what I should do with that person. Basically I can only relate with someone who can surrender to my ego. If they don't, I just ignore them or can't ...
A. 4 June 2007: Hey well at least u realise this thats a start this might sound preddy harsh but i think u need it. GET OVER YOURSELF what makes u so much better than every1 else why should thy grovel at ur feet to be ur friend who made u gods gift. You should just ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my ex bf, but now want to see him again! What should I do?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years 2 and a half months ago. Two weeks later I met a new man and I stayed with him for 6 weeks then left him two weeks ago. I left him as I since I felt that he was not entirely committed to the relationship and ...
A. 3 June 2007: Hi ya I think what i would do is send him a text or email apologising for how ide behaved and then just say that youd really like to say sorry in person and would love to see him again ask if hed maybe like to meet up for JUST a drink see how that... (read in full...)
Followup: "Someone posted pictures of my bf " We found out his ex did it and the police won't do anything. Any advice?
Q. A follow up to my original question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/someone-has-posted-a-picture-of-my-boyfriend.html as for how they got the pictures, I found out his ex-girlfriend posted them up as a joke without his consent or knowledge. ...
A. 3 June 2007: PAY BACK!! Do it to her see how she likes it :)... (read in full...)
Her parents are strict when it comes to their daughter dating! So what should I do-I like her!
Q. I have been flirting with this girl from school and gave her signs I am interested in her (and vice versa), but her parents are strict when it comes to boyfriends because she is an only child. What do I do? Oh, and by the way both of her parents are ...
A. 3 June 2007: Hey 1st let things develop with the girl theres no point in worryin about her parents if ur not with her that long its when things get mmore serious that you meet ther parents. Well all you have to do is show them that you respect them listen t... (read in full...)
Why is it that I can't have an orgasm?
Q. hi im a 19 female ive never done this before but i was just wanting some advice.i was wondering why is it that i can never have an actual orgasm. my friend said that shes only had one and shes 20 and she was kinda wonderin too why she cant have ...
A. 1 June 2007: Hi ya
Did u no tht around 80% of women can not have an orgasm thru just penatration (just the penis going in and out) im one of them so your not alone i have to other stimulation as well like being rubbed wile having sex. If your just curious weat... (read in full...)
I think I had an orgasm! My hands and teeth were tingling!! Am I right?
Q. i think i had an orgasm on saturday night but am not 100% sure. If it was then wow! nd if not then an orgasm must be even more wow! we were having sex for a good 45 mins to an hour. Alot of it is a blur to me. After i was really out of breath. ...
A. 31 May 2007: Hey Huni Definatly sounds like one if u were kinda tingly afterwards thats also another sign of orgasm it jus builds up until u feel like u explode its the best feeling ever hope u enjoy many many more :) ... (read in full...)
Now that he finally likes me back..I'm not sure if I like him anymore! any advice?
Q. i love this guy more than life, i even did a spell to keep him when i lost him to my best friend. i no right pathetic! but it seems to have worked now this guy really likes me and is asking me back out. But now im not sure if i still love him! ...
A. 27 May 2007: Hey huni
All you can do is be honest with your self and try to sort out your feelings if you do still like him then try it out if it doesnt work then it doesnt ull move on but i suppose its worth a shot and be careful with the magic make sure ur p... (read in full...)
He's mean to me and he calls me names! I like him though-does he like me?
Q. i dont know how to get this relli nice guy?? theres this guy i realli like but i dunt no if hes interested in me....sometimes i catch him looking at me but i cant reli tell if he does or not??....he can be really mean to me and callz mi names b...
A. 27 May 2007: Hi huni
If hes mean to you and calls you names often and doesnt mean it then he probably likes you to its what you do at your age thats classed as flirting lol jus notice how much attention he pays to u if its alot then im preddy sure he likes u ju... (read in full...)
Can a friendship turn into a relationship?
Q. attraction does it mean that it could be a friendship and it could turn in to a relaationship. i have alot of attraction for a police officer....
A. 27 May 2007: Hi ya I suppose if hes attracted to you to it could turn into a relationship but youve not really been specific enough i mean have you been friends with him long? because frm previous experience dont try and start something with a close friends ... (read in full...)
Problems with this girl! Why can't she just leave me alone?
Q. I would like some opinions on why someone (my ex bfs gf) would write on peoples wall on facebook saying "omg, your friends with 'kayla'? Your so much better then that." She wrote on 3 of MY friends wall (anyone can ask anyone to be friends. That ...
A. 27 May 2007: Hi huni
Seems to me that your right she is the crazy one shes the one that seems jealous and insecure its jus childish acts like you said. Just dont let her see that her childish remarks bother you and you shouldnt let them jus ignore her seems all ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I tried drugs while in Amsterdam?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship now for 6 months. we have a healthy relationship. there's just one problem. i'm 23 now and back when i was 19 i went backpacking around the world for 6 months. 2 months were in europe which included...
A. 22 May 2007: Hey Huni
I wouldnt it was so long ago jus leave it in the past were it belongs if its jus goin to cause arguments and if she ever find out jus say exactly what ive jus said to you lol :)... (read in full...)
I lashed out at him because he wasn't giving me enough attention.
Q. If you have lashed out on the guy that you have recently dated, sent unending emails and smses because they are not giving you attention. Then they dump you and now you feel stupid, childish and regret, what could be the next step a person take. ...
A. 22 May 2007: Hey I guess it was just a little too much a little too quick for him. Men like there space and everytime there away from you they dnt like it if your constantly texting them. Sounds like hes panickd and felt rushed he probabaly did care about u alot ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mum about my boyfriend as my teacher advised?
Q. the other day my p.e teacher caught me kissin my boyfriend...(it was after school had finished) my boyfriend is a bit older than me...she said that i have to tell my mum about him or shes going to... but she doesnt know how my mum will react...what ...
A. 22 May 2007: Hey Huni Is this your first bf? and how do YOU think shes goin to react? see the circumsttances are different for everyone with my 1st bf i jus come out and told my mum and she didnt mind at all i was 16 tho and now well he sleeps at my house n ... (read in full...)
I feel threatened when someone tries to control me emotionally.
Q. I feel threatened when someone tries to control me emotionally, as i feel my identity is under some kind of threat and those who control me would try to abuse me to meet their own selfish needs. How do I face this abusive behavior by people? ...
A. 22 May 2007: Hey Huni Well so u should feel threatend i see you are aged between 22-25 which is good cuz this means you can stop this yourself, Its all about confidence if you dont want to do things then you say NO! this is your life your living and if you dont... (read in full...)
I just broke up with my Bf, How can I get over this, I feel so ill!?
Q. hey ive just split up with my long term boyfriend and i am missing him so much. He has other pictures of girls on his msn picture and hes now blocked me. But i need ot get over him all i can think about is how much im gunna miss him. Miss his hu...
A. 22 May 2007: Hey Huni Well ive nearly split up with my bf these last few weeks turned out we havnt tho were trying really hard to sort things n i was gettin the same thorts in my head as u n thinkin how much ide miss him. break ups are very hard but ya no what ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has said he wants a girlfriend but does not know that I know...
Q. My boyfriend has said he wants a girlfriend (he does not know I know). He told this to a girl that was interested in him. He says he is gay, but dated girls in high school. He has been in a fraternity for a couple of months, so I am led to ...
A. 6 May 2007: hey the best thing to do is jus ask him dont go mad or shout jus sit d own with him and jus say look ive heard something about you and i dont no if its true or not but if it is then we need to talk bout this. then tell him what youve heard and have ... (read in full...)
Let down by my hair!
Q. I am not pleased with the way i look, especially my hair, and it gives me a low sense of self-esteem. I feel that i cannot achieve good things in life because my hair are not so good. Any advice on how do i overcome this ? ...
A. 6 May 2007: This is a simple solution huni just go to the hairdresses look on the internet or thru magazines and see if you can find a hairstyle or hair colour that ude love to have and then perhaps take a pic to the hairdresses with u and tell them tht this is ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have deeper trust developed before getting intimate ? Or are my expectations unrealistic?
Q. Ok, i have been approached by quite some girls in my life since i was young. I am 26 right now and my problem has been that i haven't really found a girl who treats me the way i would like her to. Most of them end up trying to dominate me or force ...
A. 6 May 2007: no i dont think ur expectations are unrealistic at all if shes the right one then shell wait untill your ready and feel comfortable these days everyone rushs into sex because they think its necercerry no1 jus dates any more or enjoys just the ... (read in full...)
Told my best friend I liked this guy... and two days later she starts dating him!
Q. i told my best friend the guy i liked then two days later she went out with him; the guy also happens to be my best guy friend. now im really mad at my friend whose going out with him. do i have a right to be mad at her? and should i tell my friend ...
A. 6 May 2007: hey huni did they like each other before you told your best girl mate that u liked your best guy mate? If they did i no its a bit hurtful and ur best girl mate because she new u liked him should of just said to you look i no u like (whateva his name ... (read in full...)
I was warned that losing one's virginity, in the case of a female, can be very painful.
Q. I was warned that losing one's virginity, in the case of a female, can be very painful. I wasn't prepared for how intense the pain would be!! It was awful, even my boyfriend was surprised (he is more experienced than me, but bygones are bygones) ...
A. 5 May 2007: Hey huni losing your virginity is quite an experience and different for every1 the 1st time i had sex it barely hurt at all and it didnt last very long and i thought ha that wasnt so bad and thn the 2nd time i did it well it was loads worst than the ... (read in full...)
If she thought they were just friends keeping in touch she would have understood that it wasn't appropriate to call him all the time and she wouldn't have gotten so upset.
Q. My BF finally told his old girlfriend to stop calling him because it was upsetting me. She was very upset and starting saying that he would have never tolerated that from her (not being able to call an old girlfriend) and i must be controlling and ...
A. 5 May 2007: Hey Huni how long have they been split up? and how long have you been with him? maybe she is just finding it hard to let go but your his priority now so im glad hes told her to stop calling if its upsetting you that shows he wants you. I totally ... (read in full...)
Want to have a break and experience other things... but then get back together. Anyone else feel this way?
Q. Me and my partner have been together for 5 years. Recently things haven't been great between us and I asked him for a break. I have been seeing someone else casually (not behind his back, we have both agreed to take this break) but it's not ...
A. 5 May 2007: Hey huni i was very interested whilst readin your question becuase i feel exactly the same way about my bf at the moment i have been with him just over two year and im only 18 nearly 19 i keep suggestin a break and when i tell my friends about it ... (read in full...)
She gets mad at me because she thinks I dont listen to her on the phone.
Q. I am in a 5 month relationship with a beautiful woman inside and out. She is all i have ever wanted, but she gets mad at me because she thinks i dont listen to her on the phone. I have told her many times that the phone is the problem, sometimes the ...
A. 3 May 2007: Hey... heres an idea get her to have ago on your phone swap fones go in different rooms and prove to her that your not lying this will make her feel better. And well if your not ready to tell her everything bout u then jus explain that u need some ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my boyfriend to be more affectionate with me?
Q. I really am being to think its me. I am with someone who bends over backwards to make sure I'm comfortable but isn't very passionate when it comes to being affectionate. When I ask him to be, he reacts in disbelief and says I get all this attention ...
A. 3 May 2007: mayb he jus doesnt no how to give anymore tell him what ude like to b done to you jus liddle things like holdin your hand while your watchin a movie or cuddlin up n havin a kiss every night b4 u go to sleep if he loves u he wont mind doin these ... (read in full...)
I have been dating my 36 year old boss for 2 months now, I am only 20. Do you think this is a good idea?
Q. I have been dating my 36 year old boss for 2 months now, I am only 20. We keep things very seperate from our business and personal relationships. I just don't know if what I am doing is right. Do you think this is a bad idea? ...
A. 3 May 2007: Hey u just have to ask your self how much u like your job if things dnt work out ude prob wanna leave it. if you could see your self bein with this person for a long time and your really in love then go for it all every1 wants in this world is to be ... (read in full...)
I seem to lack confidence when it comes to anything to do with attraction/sexual attraction or talking to women I seem to have the "hots" for.
Q. Ok, ill start with the good stuff :) Well, im a 19 year old lad, 5'7 tall, Part white and part asian (If that makes sense) and most people say im a good looking lad. Personality wise, im a cheery and fun type of guy, always up for a laugh. I get o...
A. 3 May 2007: Hi ya huni rrr bless ya dont worry your not alone infact many of us often make fools of our selves while tryin to impress sum1 thy like ive done it alot my self n i mean alot lol we panic try so hard to impress tht what actually comes out of our ... (read in full...)
Is his ex trying to come between us?
Q. I trust my boyfriend with my life. I just don't understand why when his ex that cheated on him with one of his best friends calls or texts him he answers or texts her back... should I hold this over him or be worried??? She has also been to the ...
A. 1 May 2007: I dont really like sayin this but i think that she is i recently liked a lad who had a gf and god i would of gone n e where to see him. if you are that botherd about his text messages tht he gets from her ask him if you can read them if hes not ... (read in full...)
I had a party a few days ago and ended up sharing my bed with my mates girlfriend
Q. Hi I need help!! I had a party a few days ago and ended up sharing my bed with my mates girlfriend we had a bit of fun. But didn't go all the way and now I feel guilty cos it's my mates girlfriend and its really awkward between me and her what shall ...
A. 1 May 2007: well at end of day its her thats been unfaithful to her bf not you yeah hes your mate but shes shouldnt of done that in the first place its more her fault than yours. if shes gunna keep it under her hat then i wouldnt worry about it jus leave it be ... (read in full...)
She keeps flirting with me but I don't know whether she's being serious or not.
Q. I have a friend who is a girl I work with, she is in a relationship but not a very good one. We have been friends for 6 years and she knows I am in love with her. I told her about 11 months ago how I felt and she said she was very flatterd and ...
A. 1 May 2007: ide say she has feelings for you it definatly sounds like shes flirtin i no trust me ive done all that but seen as tho shes in a relationship she probably doesnt wanna be unfaithful to the guy i no it can b very difficult to work with some1 u really ... (read in full...)
I hate the girl I am in love with or I am in love with the girl I hate.
Q. I hate the girl I am in love with. Or I am in love with the girl I hate. Not sure exactly how to state it. I have asked her out three times, seeing as she never says no, just that she needs more time and she expects me to be able to guess when she ...
A. 1 May 2007: this may seem a little blunt but my advice to you would be get out of there it seems to me she jus likes the fact that somebody really likes her n she nos she can get attention from you. she doesnt want to date you but she doesnt want u to stop ... (read in full...)
I seem to date guys for a week or so then get bored. Why does this keep happening?
Q. In the past month or so I have gotten in a routine of dating guys for only a week. This is my fourth boyfriend in the past two months. They weren't meant for me but I really like the guy I'm with now. The only problem is it's been a week and I ...
A. 1 May 2007: hi huni i see your only aged 16 - 17 im gunna give you some advice only bein 18 nearly 19 myself i have been with my bf just over 2 yrs im bord as hell but love him too much to leave ive jus cheated on him big time becuz i was bord n ive told my bf ... (read in full...)
He's blowing hot and cold with me and I don't know whether he's really interested or not?
Q. hi, there's this guy, that i work, that i've had feeling for, for sometime, about 4 years ago he tried to hit on me, but i declined as i was going out with his best friend, the problem is that i cant stop thinking about him, i broke up with my ex ...
A. 1 May 2007: Hey huni let me jus say this i have not been on here for a while because i have been dealin with a problem similar to yours. like u there was a guy at work things had been developin over a yr and only since the end of jan did things start to kik off ... (read in full...)
Me and Bf going through rough patch. I have no idea how to fix it.
Q. hi my names kerryann and me and my bf are going through a really rough patch and have been for about 2 months now . he told me that he had cheated on me once night and got this girl pregnant and then he told me that it was'nt true but since then ...
A. 11 April 2007: Hi ya huni i really do not mean to sound harsh n im not sayin split up with youre boyfriend that is your choice but if i were u i think i would have to if hes cheated then it seems like the trust will have gone and in my opion if theres no trust it ... (read in full...)
Missing my holiday guy, and it looks like I'll never see him again!
Q. Hi I'm 16yrs old, and every year I meet up with this guy on holiday. I have saw him for the past 5 years now, but I have just found out that I will never see him again as we are not going back. I never got to say bye or anything coz I didn't k...
A. 19 June 2006: Hey Huni,
I know its hard when you really like someone to get over them but im sure ull find a bf close to home and ull soon forget about this lad abroad and if not whos to say ull never see him again in a few years ull be 18 and u can travel alon... (read in full...)
We've had our ups and downs... But now she's slept with her sisters boyfriend..... TWICE!
Q. My girlfriend and I got together at an early age, we've been together nearly six years and have a child but we've always had a volotile relationship, i cheated on her in the past and slept with another girl in a drunken stuper, however for the last ...
A. 19 June 2006: Hey Huni,
I know its hard but this is what you put her through when you was unfaithful so now i guess you know how she felt. Try and let it go if it doesnt happen again for the sake of your child and make your realationship more exciting she ses ... (read in full...)
I want to be independent but can't seem to get a job. Help!!
Q. I am 17 years old and i don't understand what i am doing wrong! Every time I apply for a part time job, the place never gets back to me and people with less qualifications than me get the job. I have been trying to earn some extra money for abou...
A. 19 June 2006: Hey Huni
Im 17 to and it took me months n months to get a job when i left college finally a friend got me a job at her place so why dont u ask you friends see if theres anything goin.
Good Luck
Helen x... (read in full...)
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