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writes:I would like some opinions on why someone (my ex bfs gf) would write on peoples wall on facebook saying "omg, your friends with 'kayla'? Your so much better then that." She wrote on 3 of MY friends wall (anyone can ask anyone to be friends. That person can choose to accept their invitation, or decline it). I have not talked to my ex since Feb. Well, the first time she wrote that i let it go, but when 2 more showed up on 2 of my other friends walls with the same saying, i gave her alittle phone call. I told her that she needs to stop talking about me, and making immature comments like that. She keeps telling me the same lines over and over that im crazy, but im the one who has 700 friends, to her 50. All she has done for the past 2 yrs is say that EVERYONE thinks im crazy. (her famous jealousy line) She told me that 2 of my good guy friends think im crazy. (i hang out with them) So i called them and asked them, and they said they NEVER said anything of the sort, and that they dont even talk to her, that shes the one that writes on their walls.(one of them deleted that comment of hers) My cousin has a class with her, and she told me that my cousin talks sh*t about me. My cousin said that wasnt true, and that she would never talk bad about her relatives. Today she drove past my house, (my mom saw her) and she flat out denied it! Then she said that when my ex is home, him and her drive past my house. I asked her why....and she said that he just likes to take different routes! The only person who is crazy here is HER! She hasnt grown up one bit, since she was 14. (she is now 17) All she keeps saying to me is, "Nobody likes you'..."your crazy", etc. I have SO much hatred for her because all she does is lie and cause trouble. I told her that she has been so jealous of me from day one...and she just laughs, and says "ya, you and your big nose." My ex cheated on her with me for 2 yrs. (we only did it 2 times though) and she doesnt even believe me. Right after it happened(for the last time), her and i had a nice long talk. She totally believed me at the time, because she remembered everything that coincided with what i said. When i told her again, she just laughed saying that im crazy, and its all in my dreams.(her bf convinced her we never had s*x) but weeks later 3 of my guy friends came up to me asking me if it was true (i never told anyone, except my mom) so i asked them where they heard it from, and they said that my ex told his whole car group! Now one of my very good guy friends wont even talk to me anymore because he cant believe i would stoop that low. He told me im better then that, and i told him, "ya, I realize that now." My ex found out, and confronted me too on it. (he wanted my ex to find out sooo bad) I wont even get into my whole story with my ex, but if my bro ever came face to face with him..he told me he would most likely go to jail,(he wouldnt be able to control himself) I have not gone online to chat anymore.(since Feb) All i do is talk to my friends on facebook. Everytime that imbecile comes back into my life, its hell, because all she does is LIE, and cause so much drama!I have SO much anger, and hatred for her that i think if i had the chance..i would take just one good swing at her.....but i cant since shes a minor and im not. I asked her why she has to bring my name up.. and she'll say that THEY do it first. Which is so far from the truth. I told her that the only reason him and her are now getting along is because im not in the picture anymore...she said that actually they arent doing well, because they cant see each other ALL the time. (Hes 3 hrs away) But he can come home any weekend, and she can go down there every weekend, so thats just a lame excuse! (They dont get along even when they do see each other) This girl is soo insecure, that she clings to every bf shes ever had. Since she was 13, shes never gone without NOT having a bf. She acts like shes married to them. When my ex invited me to come down for the weekend(Jan) she must have called/texted him at least 50 times, and he only took 2 of her phones calls. I actually thought it was funny! Why cant she just leave me be? Everythings been so peaceful for the past 4 mos, and now this!! Why would he be driving past my house with his gf in the car...and why would she even tell me that?? I wouldnt like it if MY bf would drive past his ex's house with me in the car. I would think he still had a thing for her!!I really just needed to vent. What do you make of all this mess?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): You are the smart one and she is a child and needs to grow up as you said. You hit all the right points. I have been in a situation very similar though it was a bit more love involed then friends.
Its hard but you just have to try to ignore it and let it go you dot have to forgive her but move your life on. Leave her behind in her child mind while you move on. Also try not to let it affect you cause thats just what she wants. Its hard I understand but it is the best for you. Good Luck
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reader, Helen Help! :)  +, writes (27 May 2007):
 Hi huni
Seems to me that your right she is the crazy one shes the one that seems jealous and insecure its jus childish acts like you said. Just dont let her see that her childish remarks bother you and you shouldnt let them jus ignore her seems all she does is talk s**t anyway jus dont talk to her ever again if she rights things about u jus shrug it off you no there not true shes just doing it becuase she knows that it annoys you and seems like she is tryin to make you believe that your friends and family are talkin about u slaggin u off when there probably not its jus another mind game of hers. So my advice is do to her what you do to any child acting up ignore it and it will stop good luck :) x
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