I don't want to think I'm damaged but how do I get over a bad relationship?
Q. I left a very abusive relationship a couple of months ago, and in class I've met a wonderful law student who is helping me with all the legal issues involving my ex. He has been very kind and supportive and always encourages me to keep pursuing ...
A. 24 September 2013: You are a normal human being who has been through hell and back with another man. Dont ever knock yourself and say you are damaged. You have had a traumatic experience and that is what has happened to you. You are a great human being, but you need ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know what guys really want?
Q. Just a quick question, male and female answers welcome! It's just that there are sooo many do's/don't with dating/relationships and they all seem to contradict each other!! Mainly, I always maintain my independence with guys to 'give them space' but ...
A. 24 September 2013: I am a guy and i know what i want in a committed monogamous relationship with a woman and only one woman. My lovely girlfriend of four years wants the same and we are on the same page on this. But really when it all boils down to is what you want in ... (read in full...)
I worry that men think I'm only good for sex
Q. Even though I have had relationships in the past, lately I think sometimes that I am only good for sex and I guess it's because of the guys I meet. I am attractive and whenever I talk to them they just see my body and not my personality so I...
A. 24 September 2013: There can be various reasons why men keep hitting on you for what you call only sex. I can only say from my own experience that i believe that the way you dress and your demeanor could be a contributing factor.Various movies such as sex in the ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing another side to my boyfriend after moving in together. Should I stay in this relationship?
Q. Hello, so I have been dating this guy since January and we really hit it off well, never fight, never argue, and always have a good time. We always say things like we'll spend the rest of our lives together as well, so I am extremely invested in ...
A. 24 September 2013: I believe you have not been in this relationship long enough to understand the complexities of moving in together. I have been dating my girlfriend going on four years and we never moved in together until we had been dating for two years and made ... (read in full...)
How can we become closer while not being physically together ?
Q. My boyfriend and I were dating for a year before I moved to another city a month ago. I have never been in a long distance relationship before but he has. He and his ex use to watch tv / movies on skype multiple times a week when they were dating, ...
A. 24 September 2013: I hate to admit this but when my girlfriend was in England getting her Doctorate at Oxford we texted more than we skyped and boy i never thought that it would bring us closer or keep us together. But it did. There was stuff i would never tell her to ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating or just really busy?
Q. Hello ok I had met this guy who is younger than I am, he is 31, I am 40. He seems like a nice guy and we would talk on the phone pretty much every day. He also kept bugging me about when I would take the Greyhound to meet him. I kept putting it off ...
A. 24 September 2013: Relationships are about giving and taking and sharing. Tell this potential to get on the bus himself and meet you half-way somewhere where you two can get together and get to know each other better. Ask him if he is seeing anybody? There is no law ... (read in full...)
What's the deal with ALWAYS making dates and then not going through with them?
Q. Okay, so about 2 weeks ago I'm in the grocery store and this girl is checking me out. It occurs to me to hit on her, but I ultimately don't. On my walk home, the same girl pulls up beside me and starts chatting me up. She tells me I'm perfect, cute ...
A. 24 September 2013: There is no big deal here my friend she is just being her good old self. And your lucky that you experienced this before getting into a relationship with her. So she almost molests you and promises the big date. Ya right, if you believe that i have ... (read in full...)
I feel like my wife settled with me and its really bothering me!
Q. Ok here is my story. I met my wife 14 years ago. She was 19 and i was 28. I met her through a friend. She had a daughter and i had 2 daughters from previous relstionships. The first time I met her I asked her what she thought of me and she said I ...
A. 24 September 2013: My friend i firmly believed that you settled for her and actually it is now starting really bother you. After what you have done for her and her lack of appreciation it tells me she does not deserve all the extras that you are giving her in the ... (read in full...)
Everything seemed to change once we got engaged
Q. I have just gonna engaged in May.. I have known him since 2007. We have been good friends since then. I have never noticed his presence in my life. I always end up with different guys and run to him crying confiding to him my breakup stories. He has ...
A. 24 September 2013: I know very few men that could stomach listening to women tell them about their unsatisfied relationships with men. I know i had a problem when i briefly dated a woman where we were not intimate and no sex of any kind happened. We dated on and off ... (read in full...)
I found out husband is taking viagra. Is he lying to me about the reason?
Q. my husband is way. I found he took some Viagra with him. I asked him why did he need it? He said he need it when he feel like to have a sex and he will do it by himself with out any partner? I don't believe him.To you, it is a case? And do you think ...
A. 24 September 2013: You should know your husband better than anybody else.Does he take it before having sex with you? I bet he doesn't say diddly squat. There could be two other reasons. 1) He is really into on line porn and just beats his own monkey to death 2) He ... (read in full...)
But why won't the next man suffer for my last relationship?
Q. When most men that are approaching me seems to be using the same line the last one used to get me. I am a very successful young woman. A Christian, Community organizer, ambitious with awesome career since out of high school. My last relation...
A. 23 September 2013: You have gone through a lot, yes there are plenty of men out there that just want you bent over or on your back and will tell you anything to get what they want. But do not think that there are not women who do the same thing. I am not going t brag ... (read in full...)
We plan to wait for sex until marriage. He still tries it on me but get pouty if I don't let him.
Q. I'm 23yrs old while my boyfriend is 28yrs we've dating getting to 4yrs now and everything is moving fine we both love eachother so much and we've not have sex because we both agreed that sex should be when we get married but the last time i pay him ...
A. 23 September 2013: You are a lucky woman indeed who has a man who agrees to not bed you before you marry. But the breast thing can get you in trouble in the future. I know that is a trigger for me and for most men the breasts are the trigger to do other things. If you ... (read in full...)
What's a good way to bring up the topic of living together?
Q. How can I talk to my boyfriend about wanting to get a place together? We both currently live with our parents but spend a lot of time together. We have been together for almost 8 months an have known each other since childhood. I want us to get a ...
A. 23 September 2013: Knowing somebody since childhood is totally different than being close to them physically,sexually and sharing a bathroom together. Its a lot different when you just get together have a nice romantic evening and then he slips out in the morning to ... (read in full...)
How can someone just give up on someone you claim you have great love for
Q. My ex and I of 3 years broke up offically about 3 months ago. We were on and off for the last year of our relationship. I heard rumors of him dating someone new but I didn't know or really want to know because it was so devastating to think he could ...
A. 23 September 2013: My first question to you did you have a committed monogamous relationship with this man and did he agree to such? Did you even talk about your relationship? Communication is so important. You are not a mind reader and if you were you would be a ... (read in full...)
My body issues are holding me back from losing my virginity.
Q. Hi all, I'm in a bit of a difficult spot. I want to lose my virginity with my girlfriend but I also have intimacy issues (I am embarrassed about the way my chest looks) which is making this hard. She has mentioned making love before, but I so...
A. 23 September 2013: So you have issues with your body, if you like this woman and she is nice you owe it to her to show or tell about your body issues. Forget the excuses. Communicate,communicate and keep communicating with your girlfriend about your issues. You might ... (read in full...)
Why do guys pretend like they are looking for a great personality when it's really just physical attraction they are looking for? Why don't people just admit the shallow truth?
Q. From experience and observation, I know for a fact that a huge majority men do NOT give a crap about a woman's personality. They just instantly know whether they are going to put up with a woman's crap or not. If you find someone physical...
A. 23 September 2013: I personally reject your analysis of guys.I have been in a successful monogamous relationship for three years. When i was first introduced to her about almost four years ago, i admit i was attracted to her physical beauty but shagging wasn't in my ... (read in full...)
Can't stop cheating on my boyfriend -- why?
Q. I'm 25 and have been with my boyfriend for 9 years, but I can't stop cheating on him. Our relationship is really good and we love each other so much, he isn't romantic but he is such an affectionate guy. I've been looking on line to try and ...
A. 23 September 2013: I am not going to beat you up like the other agony aunts have i firmly believe that you need professional help and counselling. Do not bother trolling on google search trying to find out why you do what you do. But if you can reach within yourself ... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity but neither have a good place for it.
Q. I am about 17 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. I feel like i am ready to have sex with him but i haven't discussed it with him. I feel scared that if he says no that things will become uncomfortable between us and ...
A. 22 September 2013: I understand the way you feel and having sex for the first time can be exciting , satisfying and scary because there is so much pressure to perform. From a male prospective yes i was scared the first time but it took time for me to work into it.My ... (read in full...)
He hasn't called after a fight
Q. My boyfriend (5months) and I had a fight the other night. The exact details I can't even remember. Basically we were suppose to meet up on Thursday because we haven't seen each other for a few days so I was waiting to hear from him when he got home ...
A. 22 September 2013: Excuse me how old is your boyfriend? I acted like this when i was sixteen and dating my first girl. That was a common thing back then. Not that far back i am only a couple years older than your boyfriend. Let me tell you a couple things here. I have ... (read in full...)
I have social anxiety and don't feel good about asking a guy out in person.
Q. I have social anxiety. I really like this guy, and I want to ask him out. I always hear people saying that you should only ask people out in person, but I really struggle to talk to people who aren't my close friends. I've ALMOST asked him before ...
A. 21 September 2013: Dont you be anxious for a moment. Text the fine gentleman and say can i meet you somewhere and that you want to talk to him. If he says no but wants to know why you want to talk to him, just say i want to ask you out on a date. If he is decent he ... (read in full...)
He says he no longer loves me-- how can I change his mind?
Q. This will be long, so bare with me.... I am 32, my boyfriend 35. We have been together for almost 4 years and live together. I have two children, both with special needs, from a previous relationship; they are not home on weekends. Our relationsh...
A. 21 September 2013: I do not know what the laws are where you live but after living with someone for more than a year it is just like being married. If he wants you to get lost tell him to piss off and that you want this house sold and you want half the money. And ... (read in full...)
Burdened under high expectations.....
Q. I am 37 year old self made married man with wife and kid. I had a poor living and have been fulflling all responsibilities since years without any expectations and demands even from my wife. Result of this everyone including my wife and ...
A. 21 September 2013: You are burdened my friend and now you have had enough. Why did you allow yourself into this situation to begin with? Make some corrective changes today. You cant be everything to everybody and people who expect that need their heads examined. Dont ... (read in full...)
This guy seems to know too much about me -- could he be tracking my online activity?
Q. Hi. I was wondering if there is anyone on here who knows enough about computers to tell me something. How easy is it for a person to track your IP address? I ask because I suspect someone of doing it to me. He doesn't know me very well yet se...
A. 21 September 2013: Remember that there is a free tracking program that you can input a persons name and know their location where they live and they can find out a lot about you. You can now take a picture of yourself or your friend cut and paste it into google search ... (read in full...)
How can we shake things up in the bedroom without him getting offended?
Q. Me and my partner are engaged and we have a 3 month old daughter together. We are best friends and generally very happy but I'm just not getting as hot for him in the bedroom as I used too. It's taking me an hour to climax and he can't get me wet at ...
A. 21 September 2013: I can understand your situation, but i believe you shouldn't ever feel you have to be worried about offending your partner in the bedroom. I am human and i am male and yes i know i am not the best lover but like my other none sexual relationship ... (read in full...)
Can't stop thinking about the ex even though I'm with someone
Q. I have a boyfriend for 5 months now and things have been going okay. However I can't stop thinking about the last man I dated. We didn't even date for long but during that short time it was really really amazing. I felt like he had a lot of qualitie...
A. 21 September 2013: It is sad indeed when you have to start comparing present relationships to past ones. I have been there myself. Very painful indeed. My heart was torn into many different pieces. I finally ended my new relationship because i knew i could never live ... (read in full...)
What are possible reasons for a man to distance himself when another woman is NOT involved?
Q. I'd like to know some of the main reasons a man (35) would distance himself, after 3 years together, to the point of a break up if there isn't another woman involved. Let's say said man is distancing himself, drastically, but still telling hi...
A. 18 September 2013: Are you that sure that there isnt somebody else involved in the equation. It does not have to be another woman if you know what I am saying. After three years he is distancing himself. I believe he was probably giving signals well before the three ... (read in full...)
In a Long term relationship but tempted by others. How do I cope with my curiosity over this temptation?
Q. Dear aunts/uncles I have just started college in a different city and I moved from my rented apartment which I share with my bf of six years. I love him dearly and taking on my new course was a challenge, as I had to leave everthing I knew...
A. 18 September 2013: Sure you are tempted by others. But is this just an exercise in copious amount of sex which you might crave at the moment? If that is what you need and have to get your lust on that is okay but please let this man who has given his last six years of ... (read in full...)
Am I being too cold about males or should I be free and wild?
Q. I am currently 19 years old and i am single. i am very attractive as i often attract all kinds of men. i 'put myself on pause'as a result of hurt from the past. i am afraid to love and to trust my male companions. I still talk to males but wh...
A. 18 September 2013: You have the whole package and indeed you are a lucky woman. If you are constant 10 you are always going to have the attention of males. Our society is so fixated on youth, beauty and success. There are always going to be should say vultures ... (read in full...)
Two guys. Which date to cancel? Considering the circumstances?
Q. Hey, I seem to have gotten myself caught up in a very odd situation. So, let me start off by saying that I had my boyfriend for 4 months, then we broke up, except it wasn't a clean break up. We decided to stay friends, although I only agreed to that ...
A. 18 September 2013: Excuse me please...Why are you going back to a person and relationship in which he did something to break your trust and love you had? Things happen for a reason. Please give yourself a shake and rethink this past relationship.You dont need this man ... (read in full...)
How do I bring myself to ask him out?
Q. I can't get up the courage to ask this guy out somewhere. I guess I'm just scared of rejection. He's a super nice guy and I don't think he would embarrass me or anything, I just can't bring myself to do it. I have social anxiety which I think might ...
A. 18 September 2013: With all the social pressures upon the man to take the first step i fully understand your anxiety and frustration. Hey why dont you take some baby steps first. Call him up and say i am just finished visiting my girlfriend and i just wondered... (read in full...)
Should I date this older woman?
Q. Dear all, I am really torn about this and need some objective advice (besides I am too ashamed to ask any of my friends). I will start with a quick summary about myself: I am 30 years old and had only had one relationship in my whole life. I...
A. 17 September 2013: What is wrong with dating a older woman? Is it taboos in your social circles or are you going to take a ribbing from your family and friends. I guess by your description you want more of a horizontal mamba relationship. There is nothing wrong with ... (read in full...)
As soon as we returned from a lovely trip, his whole demeanor changed. Why the 180?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month now. We just got home from an amazing trip to the mountains (4 days). Everything wss petfect. No awkwardness, fights, nothing but hugging, kissing, hand holding, and love making the whole time. But as soon ...
A. 17 September 2013: I am curious to ask what was he like before the trip? If this man is married or bi or homosexual he may of been trying to bluff his way through. You been with men before, what did he seem like? Normal or a bit off in the horizontal mamba. Were just ... (read in full...)
Why can't I bring myself to be more flirty?
Q. Dear all, I am posting here because I am very confused and do not know where to turn to for some advice. After a relatively long dry spell (after a tough break-up), I have come to a point where I meet plenty of ladies. However, nothing ever ha...
A. 16 September 2013: Become more flirty is a skill which can be learned. Some can come by it naturally others have to work at it.Nothing is in possible. It took me a while to learn that skill but i learned it on line and on different dating sites.Once i got some con... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to find love and I'm nearly 35
Q. I'm 34 (not far off 35) and my experiences of relationships are very minimal I've been in one short term relationship over four years ago, and have been on one date since. I've been on a dating site for over five years, and I've had two messages...
A. 16 September 2013: I do not know how to respond but i firmly believe you have to boost your self confidence. Do not make public that you are a virgin or dwell on it. you can google search multiple sex topics and after studying some of the basic stuffs you could ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong in how I asked the question about her 'number'? I've had 6 sexual partners, she's had 65.
Q. I am not your typical guy but to date in my life i have had a total of six female sexual partners. All were long term relationships and each relationship was rewarding and satisfying. I started these when i was sixteen years old and continued ...
A. 15 September 2013: I wish to continue with her story. As it continued i found it harder and harder to stay composed. The amount of rape and abuse she endured just about made me snap. I am again a farmer and you would think i had a thick skin. You think i have heard ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong in how I asked the question about her 'number'? I've had 6 sexual partners, she's had 65.
Q. I am not your typical guy but to date in my life i have had a total of six female sexual partners. All were long term relationships and each relationship was rewarding and satisfying. I started these when i was sixteen years old and continued ...
A. 15 September 2013: I would like to thank every one for their helpful and kind comments. I really expected to be told to dump her and move on with my life. That is not the case in my life. I love this woman greatly more than any man can love. She came home from work ... (read in full...)
How can I forgive myself and regain his trust?
Q. This question is about sexual fantasies, alcohol, and a mistake that may have jeopardized my fiance's trust in me. My fiance' and I are getting married in June. We are both in professional school, 25 years old, and live 1 hour apart because we...
A. 14 September 2013: You are human and made a mistake no big deal. If you cant forgive yourself get some professional help. What happened didnt sound so bad. If your man cant trust you anymore then that is another story for another day. Move foward.... (read in full...)
How to tell a guy that you want a committed relationship?
Q. I went to a party with a friend, where I was able to meet this guy. We spoke a bit at the party but we didn't flirt. Throughout the entire night, I was attempting to set him up with my friend by trying to initiate in conversation and get them ...
A. 14 September 2013: If you want something do not be afraid to ask for it. Whether you are a virgin or not is really none of his business. Dont sell yourself short. With all the sexual help and aid when you Google search the topic, even a virgin could probably pull som... (read in full...)
Why is my ex's girlfriend telling me I'm evil and ugly?!
Q. It's been 3 yrs!! since my separation my ex a cheater!! I am in a good place emotionally and it seems that my ex's current girlfriend is on facebook under a fake account and messaging me calling me ugly and how my ex is happy and at peace. Funny ...
A. 14 September 2013: Well there has to be something that was really great about you other than finding out her cheating ways. Human nature is funny. There is seems to be some jealousy and hate in her statement. If you were as ugly as she says you are then she is the o... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my ex believe me when I say I've been celibate for the past 11 years?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am still kind of sort of fond of my ex boyfriend, it has been years since we have saw each other plans to see each other but when the time comes its always something that gets in the way. We had a conversation on the phone with eac...
A. 14 September 2013: You know as well as anybody else that trust is so easily broken but so hard to mend. It is also one of the biggest deal breakers in maintaining a successful relationship. There is another saying that actions speak louder than words. There is no po... (read in full...)
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