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writes:My boyfriend and I were dating for a year before I moved to another city a month ago. I have never been in a long distance relationship before but he has. He and his ex use to watch tv / movies on skype multiple times a week when they were dating, and still do now sometimes. He calls me everyday but I feel that we are not connecting anymore? He never asked me to go on Skype or want to watch shows with me online, what about that? Am I being paranoid, or he does not feel the same about me. How can we become closer while not being physically together ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2013): How about making some suggestions of what you want? Why leave it to him to read your mind?
So many issues between couples would be resolved, if they just calmly told each other. Don't convey your feelings in a nagging or whiny way. Be a woman and tell your man that you want to keep your relationship strong; because you love him and miss him. You need his help.
Tell him about your fear of growing apart; because of the distance. Come up with your own ideas on how you can share time together. Make it something original. It can include movies; but something that is special between you two.
Don't spend a lot of time comparing your present relationship with his past relationship. They're different. You're a different woman.
Don't create problems competing with her. Resolve the issues that matter in your relationship, and presently need attention.
If you focus on what "you" need (and not her); you're likely to get it. Just remember, you're the one that moved away.
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reader, GentleGiant  +, writes (24 September 2013):
I hate to admit this but when my girlfriend was in England getting her Doctorate at Oxford we texted more than we skyped and boy i never thought that it would bring us closer or keep us together. But it did. There was stuff i would never tell her to her face but was able to when i texted. I think the flood gates just broke open. It was a good experience. But she was only gone for about eight months. It certainly brought us closer without the sexual intimacy of being close. I thought sex texting was horrible but i have to admit this in front of my other aunts i enjoyed it and so did my girlfriend. I dont know how but it brought us closer together more so than ever before. What a beautiful and unique experience and feeling. You may want to try it in your relationship. We did this stuff when we had been dating exclusively for almost two and half years. I dont know your term of your relationship. You decide, you figure out if you want to do this between the two of you. Good-luck..
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reader, Lovehelp2000  +, writes (23 September 2013):
How comfortable are you in a long distance relationship with him?????
He could just be upset that he has ended up in a long distance relationship but as long as you two love each other thats all that matters
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