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22 June 2010: Why is it when we're in a happy relationship we still question, is there any one better out there for us? We get the feeling that we're settling. Which is all well and good but what if we throw away what we had and end up with nothing. Is this the ...
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My virgin boyfriend is holding back on sex!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months now, and of course we have been fooling round for a while but its always foreplay. You see, we're both virgins and I'm willing to go a little further with the intimacy but he holds back. The ...
A. 3 December 2009: Maybe he's not ready yet but is too ashamed to say so?
3 months isnt really a long time, you need to be careful not to pressure him into something he doesnt want to do, try talking to him about it in a balanced and understanding manner? x... (read in full...)
Should I go against her advice and buy her a Christmas gift?
Q. Ive been "seeing" this girl for a couple weeks now, we hang out a lot, sleep over, bring each other food to work etc.., basically we get along very well and she has told me she likes me, but she is in the middle of a divorce and told me she dosent ...
A. 3 December 2009: Perhaps if you want to get her sometihng, get her something really small like a box of chocolates... that way your showing you care and not totally going against her wishes. Explain to her you know she said she didnt want anything but you are such ... (read in full...)
I'm worried his ex still likes him, how do I know he doesn't want her back too?
Q. I need help :( I'm insecure. And my esteem was starting to build up nicely with my new bf and then i found out he was still in contact with his ex, and they are close friends. Now I am back to where I started. I want to talk to him about it but...
A. 3 December 2009: Oh dear, I know exaclty how you feel. Deep down I'm sure you know that he's with you because he wants to be and if he wanted to be with her he would be... but its still hard to get your head round. You must be constantly worrying about them ... (read in full...)
Is a relaxed state of mind optimum for having a vaginal orgasm?
Q. I've been told that having a relaxed state of mind is optimum for having a vaginal orgasm however i struggle to focus on anything other than cumming and how long its taking me, if he's enjoying it, if he's getting bored... Does anyone have any tips...
A. 19 October 2009: Why would i want to squeeze it out of my vagina? x:S... (read in full...)
Is a relaxed state of mind optimum for having a vaginal orgasm?
Q. I've been told that having a relaxed state of mind is optimum for having a vaginal orgasm however i struggle to focus on anything other than cumming and how long its taking me, if he's enjoying it, if he's getting bored... Does anyone have any tips...
A. 19 October 2009: Im sorry, this wasnt the question. I was merely enquiring about ways to be more relaxed during intercourse...... (read in full...)
Is she faking it?
Q. is this even possible because ive read alot of places that its not yet my gf seems to have 3+ orgasm just of vaginal sex? is she faking it? ...
A. 19 October 2009: I've faked way more than 3 orgasms at once so it is possible she faked it. However there is no real way of knowing. Chances are if she really did come you would feel her vagina pulse against you...... (read in full...)
How can I experience female ejaculation during sex?
Q. so i've always wondered, what is the best most effective way to have a squirting experience while having sex? i would love a detailed step by step or as close as i can get to it......
A. 19 October 2009: I cant say i've done it myself but ive had conversations with men who have made girls do it and the general concensus from them is that when they feel their girl is about to come they stop wait a few seconds then go again. They repeat this a few ... (read in full...)
Should I convert to Christianity for him?
Q. Hi dear cupid. I need help again. I broke up with my boyfriend for one week but now we get back together again.(we're long distantance) We broke up, because of his family. And I told him if he stop listen to his family and move on with me (just me ...
A. 19 October 2009: Hunnie, I'll admit i am quite feminist so this answer could be somewhat biased but i personally dont feel any man is worth changing anything about yourself for... If he loved you then this sort of problem shouldnt get in the way. I realise this is ... (read in full...)
Do you think its important to know about your partner's past sex life?
Q. Hey, Im 18 years old. I have been sleeping with my bf for almost a year now. The first time We did it (which was dumb on MY behalf), and everytime after that, we did it unprotected. He's a lot older then me..31. And has a 4 year old daughter. We ...
A. 19 October 2009: You should defninately ask him! Its very important! Also you should be asking yourself why your having unprotected sex? Do you want to get pregnant? 'Cos if not then i suggest you visit you GP about contraception of some sort. Also you will probably ... (read in full...)
I was really bitchy when I broke up with him and now know I made a mistake
Q. Hey guys..sooo there's this guy (guy 1)...I've dated him before but only as a rebound. This was about this time last year..i broke up with him in the bitchiest way possible cuz I got the other guy (guy 2) back..that year I realized that guy 2 was a ...
A. 28 June 2009: mm well you could explain to guy one your feelings, from what you've said he doesnt seem to mad at you but he may not trust you if you got together because of how you hurt him before, thats if you did hurt him... i'd go for it i mean you have ... (read in full...)
I still to this day don't believe him but I love him too much to leave him
Q. My partner went on holiday last year with his mates and I was a few months pregnant (we didn't know when he booked It). We'd only been with each other a few months before I got pregnant. When he got back I could tell straight away that somethin...
A. 28 June 2009: Maybe you need to confront him again about it, other wise it's just going to build up inside you and your going to start resenting him. You have no real proof so i wouldn't leave him because of it just incase he is telling the truth, maybe talk to ... (read in full...)
Not bleeding when having sex...
Q. I have had sex 7 times before, and i did not bleed. But 6 months since the last time i had sex, my current boyfriend fingers me. He has done it before in the past, but recently since he has used 2 fingers and goes deep, i have bled. It now stings ...
A. 28 June 2009: you may have cystitis, though i doubt it. You can get it from numerous things, one of which is too much sex, it bruises the bladder and causes it to inflame and it then becomes painful when you need to wee and you need to wee more often... if you ... (read in full...)
Drinking turned my boyfriend into a "handsy" sex feind. Is this how he really feels toward me?
Q. To start this off i am a very insecure person. when someone flatters me or compliments me its really hard to take it in because i just dont beleive its possible for me. Yesterday night I was hanging out with my boyfriend of two years and a half and ...
A. 23 June 2009: I think he must have just felt a bit turned on after the drinks, a lot of boy, and girls do! Its just how it effects people, it makes them more confident and just because he's saying these things it doesnt mean he loves you any less and because he ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my yoga instructor out?
Q. Hello, Last week I took a yoga class at the library. The instructor was quite pretty. I want to ask her out, but I'm not sure if it's appropriate. The reason I say that is because I mentioned to her I was going to send off an article about he...
A. 23 June 2009: Hmm the way i see it, sorry if im wrong but your asking for opinions right? Shes dealing with you in a student teacher manner and although you are both adult would she really want to jeporidse this relationship, i mean could her job be on the line ... (read in full...)
I need tips on how to flirt!
Q. Hey :) Okay so there is this boy who I really like, and I think I may be in love with him :S He is probably my best guy friend, but the problem is he thinks I am immature and "stupid" - I know he still is extremely fond of me, but how do I prove hi...
A. 23 June 2009: I agree with doesntmatter, flirting come naturaly, i guess the only way to learn is by watching other people, understanding what makes a boy tick and being friendly and nice. It sort of just happens...
Also just to mention if he's your best guy... (read in full...)
Should I text him like my friend says?
Q. I went on a school trip last week and got to know this guy who i hadn't ever really talked to, who also went. by the end of the trip we were always together, we pretty much fell for each other. anyways we got back yesterday (sunday) and today at ...
A. 23 June 2009: I'd just leave it, if your there all the time he wont want you! Give him space... you dont know him well so you dont know what else is going on in his life...
Also please dont take this the wrong way but he doesnt seem very keen on you in that sen... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend to bits so why do I keep thinking about other guys?
Q. Let me start by saying that I love my boyfriend more than anything in the world and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I have been in a relationship with him for a year now and this is the only relationship I've ever been in. My problem ...
A. 23 June 2009: Hun, i wouldnt, its nice to feel wanted, and the fact YOU dont want a relationship with them is enough, its just nice to be desired, its like teasing boys so to speak, showing them things they cant have...
Its fun and nice and i wouldnt worry abou... (read in full...)
Do you think he could have only said no because his friends were there?????
Q. There's this guy I like but don't talk to!!! I know weird!! Anyways this weekend at the fair my bffl asked him if he liked alison (name changed) he said alison who? My friend told him and he said umm i dont know her..... Then she refreshed his ...
A. 23 June 2009: Firstly, if you dont know him how do you know you like him?
Thats like saying i like curry but never having tasted it... without first hand experience you have no idea. Just because you saw him do something nice or you've heard nice things abou... (read in full...)
Romantic ideas for my boyfriend? please
Q. Im a bit stuck, i've been with my boyfriend for 4 months now and he does cute nice romantic things for me all the time... He sends me lovely texts, rings me till i fall asleep every night, buys me little presents randomly, you know that sort of ...
A. 22 June 2009: thanks for your ideas!
they're great :)
Atm i've made him 27 little cards all starting with "I love you because..."
Ive paper clipped them together and necxt time he comes round, just before he leave im going to sneak them into his bag so when ... (read in full...)
I'm a guy and I can't have an orgasm!
Q. I find that i cant come to orgasm or cuming when me and my GF either have oral or when she masturbates me. I just cant do it. Its frustrating, like i can make her come in like 1 min, but me it never happens. Any help?...
A. 21 June 2009: Maybe your putting too much pressure on it, instead of thinking i need to stay hard i need to cum when shes doing things to you, just enjoy it...
if theres things she can improvce on point them out to her as she is doing it...... (read in full...)
I'm a guy and I can't have an orgasm!
Q. I find that i cant come to orgasm or cuming when me and my GF either have oral or when she masturbates me. I just cant do it. Its frustrating, like i can make her come in like 1 min, but me it never happens. Any help?...
A. 21 June 2009: Well firstly do you masturbate personally?
If yes then what feels good when you do it, you need to direct her, point her to what she needs to do to make you happy.
If no then maybe try it yourself and find out or maybe get her to experime... (read in full...)
She's 12 and I have feelings for her
Q. ok so, i went to my friends birthday party yesterday and his sister had a couple of friends round ... there was this girl who just seemed to make something click in my brain and she was pretty funny for her age ... but the only problem (or is it a ...
A. 21 June 2009: I wouldnt even think about going there, shes only young, she could easily get hurt... and unless you can swear you'll never hurt her then is it really wise?
Also in terms of commitment, she is obviously going to have much more time on her hands than... (read in full...)
How can I make a player change?
Q. I met a guy off the enternet,i know he is a player! i have really fallen for this guy. Everone tells me you cant change a player, i want to know how and if he could everchange? What can i do to not be a player anymore andonly want me? Thanks...
A. 21 June 2009: I guess the change would have to come from inside him, i've tried every trick in the book previously to change players who i've fallen for, and trust me it just doesnt work, one day maybe he'll grow up? and until then i suggest you build some sort ... (read in full...)
If we've been FWB for so long, does it mean something more?
Q. How long do you guys think it's normal to have the same 'friend with benefits'? Surely if it goes on too long it must mean something more? ...
A. 21 June 2009: Your welcome lovey :)
take care :)
x... (read in full...)
He got his ex pregnant! Everytime we argue I'm scared he goes to her!
Q. My partner of 4 years cheated on me with his now ex, unfortunately she got pregnant by him. Anyway today I had to go to the doctors as i'm not well and i asked him if he could pick me up from there. We arranged it and all was fine. I came out of the ...
A. 18 June 2009: Im sure he isnt at her house, i think the real problem here is how he treats you, he doesnt seem to care about your needs. He should worry about you if your ill not make you walk, i mean it would be understandable if he had been hung up at work or ... (read in full...)
If we've been FWB for so long, does it mean something more?
Q. How long do you guys think it's normal to have the same 'friend with benefits'? Surely if it goes on too long it must mean something more? ...
A. 18 June 2009: Im sorry hunny i dont think it ever means something more.
As a girl i feel we get more emotionaly attatched during sex whereas to the boy its just no strings sex. i mean what more could they ask for, i guess if you want a relationship with a g... (read in full...)
I've only been seeing him for 2 months, is it too soon to be in love?
Q. How can you tell your in love? I'm pretty sure I am but iv only been seeing someone for about 2 months!! Do i tell him??...
A. 18 June 2009: I think this one is your call, people fall in and out of love all the time, it normaly happens early on and you know its for real if it lasts...
If you decide to tell him be prepared, pick your moment carefully and dont be too set back if he does... (read in full...)
I'm mind boggled about girls!
Q. 1) if a girl meets you for a first time and creates a talk with u.and at the end you said bye to each other does it mean she is interested in you.from then henceforth you became friends and starts behaving friendly to each other. 2) when i laugh or...
A. 16 June 2009: My first and most important point is that Girls aren't from mars. We breath the same air as boys and have similar experiences to them.
We will happily talk to people, we can be quite polite at times and therefor dont mind initiating in conv... (read in full...)
He's off having fun, and I'm stuck at home, pregnant with his baby!
Q. Me and my partner are expecting a baby that is due in 2 months, we’re both 21. Basically the problem is that he is still going out a lot (5-6 times a week) playing sports and going out, and I have no life! Iv had to move into his parents house 10...
A. 16 June 2009: Im not sure there's much you can do...
Maybe try sitting down with him and explaining how you feel opposed to arguing, tell him your not expecting him to fully give his life up but maybe just understand you better and possibly set some time a side... (read in full...)
Condom allergies!
Q. well, me and my boyfriend haven't been going out long, but we've both decided that we want to have sex, but there's one slight problem. My boyfrind is allergic to condoms! what can i do to prevent me from getting pregnant ?! HELP A.S.A.P !! [MO...
A. 16 June 2009: Im glad i could help chick :)
Just be careful please?
May i ask how old he is?
Em.... (read in full...)
Condom allergies!
Q. well, me and my boyfriend haven't been going out long, but we've both decided that we want to have sex, but there's one slight problem. My boyfrind is allergic to condoms! what can i do to prevent me from getting pregnant ?! HELP A.S.A.P !! [MO...
A. 16 June 2009: Not to preach down to you but personally i dont feel anoyone is mature enough to have sex at thirteen... but thats not going to help you as i assume your going to be rather set in your ways...
I'd suggest birth control methods such as the pill, di... (read in full...)
I miss my girlfriend when she is not around me
Q. hi guys, this is going to sound really pathettic. but i really miss my girlfriend. we are still together and i see her every weekend, but through the week i just miss her so bad. i feel down and just cant really be bothered with anything else. i ...
A. 16 June 2009: You obviously care about her a lot...
I mean I miss my boyfriend like 10 seconds after he walks out of the door and i dont sotp missing him till i hear him knock at the door again...
I wouldn't worry, its natural, or at least i hope so as i feel t... (read in full...)
Did I give his ego too much of a boost?
Q. Was this a bad move? I don't think so..but curious about what others think. Ok, so I went to a family wedding without my boyfriend. He had a prior engagement. Anyways, I thought of putting on some sexy lingerie for when I saw him the next day. He...
A. 16 June 2009: I dont think it would make him bigheaded at all,
Im sure he was just very suprised and happy at your initive to please him.
My advice would be to worry less and be spontaneous like this more often :)
Take care,
Em.... (read in full...)
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