Do I risk our friendship, by telling him that I, a gay person, have falled for him ?
Q. Hi everyone. Im 21, a gay guy and i think im falling in love with my straight friend who's 19. I have known him for about 2 years, i met him through another friend, we got on straight away, we were allways chatting and texting each other....
A. 10 June 2009: Well if you have to stay away from him for your sanity you may as well just come right out and ask him. Worst case scenario - you're wrong, he feels uncomfortable and you never see each other again. That is bad but it is getting to the point where ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid impure sexual relationships?
Q. I have a strong faith in Jesus Christ..but it just is getting harder and harder to stay away from sexual-like relationships that are impure. what to do??...
A. 10 June 2009: Try and think about other things. It can sort of burden your mind as sometimes thinking about it a lot makes you think about it even more.
You are, just remember, human! You will desire sex and as you get older you may even desire it more than you... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend not cum every time yet can keep an erection?
Q. Why does my boyfriend not come every time but keep an erection? ...
A. 10 June 2009: It could merely be that you have sex everyday and physically his body doesn't need to cum that often. I am not saying you need to reduce the sex, as I am sure he enjoys it, just that I wouldn't take it personally that he doesn't cum. He has an ... (read in full...)
He always finishes the job (oral sex), am I not doing it well?
Q. I have been dating my "boyfriend" for about 9 months and we've had a physical relationship for about 6 or less. He obviously wants oral and I have willingly given it. We were firsts for each other and I feel like I am doing the worst possible blow ...
A. 10 June 2009: Don't take it too personally. Some guys don't cum easily from oral sex. It doesn't necessarily mean he isn't enjoying it. Keep at it and you're soon enough work out the way he likes it best, and as others have said you can always ask him. If h... (read in full...)
I think I want to give up my virginity..but not 100% certain
Q. Typical question Me and my bf have been dating for about 3 months and I think Im in love. I really want to take our relationship to the next level (sex) but Idk if it's the right thing. He's not a virgin but I am and i did make a promise to my...
A. 10 June 2009: Easy! If you're not sure then chances are you're not completely ready. Wait a while, think it over, and maybe a bit down the track you will be sure you're ready.
You could regret it if you think you're not ready. No harm in making sure you're s... (read in full...)
Would you stay?
Q. I have been married for over 18 years and together with my wife for 25. We have 2 great kids ages from 13 and 15. Here's a brief history first: We both know and admit that we weren't "head over heels" in love when we first married. We had know...
A. 10 June 2009: You've got some good responses, which I agree with, but I also see the other side of the coin.
To me the problem isn't you, it is the both of you. Neither of you are in love with each other.
Women aren't the only ones who need to feel loved, m... (read in full...)
Is it okay not to have Foreskin at all?
Q. Hello, I'm 17 and I'm sort of having an identity crisis, cause my penis does not have any foreskin. Is this normal?...
A. 10 June 2009: Some guys have a foreskin (uncircumcised) and some don't (circumcised). Either way you're normal.... (read in full...)
Help! My boyfriend never wants to have sex with me, I've tried EVERYTHING!!!
Q. Ok, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, and Im having a really big problem. We never have sex and when we do, its not very good. When we got together, we had amazing sex all the time. Neither of us were virgins but neither of us was THAT ...
A. 8 June 2009: It is a sad reality but sometimes when a couple move in together the sex dries up when one partner goes like your boyfriend has. The truth of it could be that he has a low sex drive or libido and just isn't into sex very much. The only way you can ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend not cum every time yet can keep an erection?
Q. Why does my boyfriend not come every time but keep an erection? ...
A. 8 June 2009: Probably because he just doesn't. Every guy is different. Some guys don't cum at the drop of a hat, and at times don't cum at all. Doesn't necessarily mean anything.
It could be just the way he is or there could be quite innocent reasons like he ... (read in full...)
I am seeing a therapist, but the issue is not resolved.
Q. Please give me some perspective! I am a 41 year old recently married male. In my younger days, I led a very very wild life. I have had sex with hundreds of women, been with escorts, done threesomes, dated strippers, etc etc. I always was safe ...
A. 8 June 2009: Maybe you need a bit more wild and crazy with your wife? You haven't mentioned how the sexual relationship with your wife is. For you is it about sex with different people or just the variety of different sex? If it is the latter perhaps your wife ... (read in full...)
My brother needs guidance but I'd rather spend time with my girlfriend, any ideas?
Q. My mom wants me to spend time with my brother (he's 12) because he uses our sisters (they'll 6 and 9) as punching bags. Hes like this since my dad died 4 years ago and needs an older male influence (im 16) to "guide" him. I rather spend time with my ...
A. 8 June 2009: I am sure you can spend time with your gf and with your brother. I am sure your Mum would appreciate it and so would your Dad if he were still around. Also, if not for your brother and Mum then do it for your sisters as I am sure it isn't very nice ... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend. How do I stop the madness?
Q. His name is Gary and he is my favorite person and best friend. We were stationed together for a year and we were pretty much inseparable for a while there. We did everything together, and we went through a lot together. At first he was just a friend ...
A. 8 June 2009: Does he know you are gay? If he doesn't he could be thinking all the things you are like is he straight? So for starters should say that you are gay and see what he says.
If he does already know you're gay then you might just have to tell him how ... (read in full...)
Need advice - Is my husband gay? Desperate for answers.
Q. I am posting this personal information in hopes of getting different perspectives on my current situation. I am a 39 year old married woman. I have been married to my husband for almost a year, with him for 3 years. I found out 6 months into...
A. 25 May 2009: Wearing womens clothing doesn't automatically mean he is gay. Yes he could be gay but something else to consider is that maybe he is transgender and wishes he was a woman. That is less common but it happens and if that is the case he has probably ... (read in full...)
Help! I really want to go but I don't know how to tell my mum, and what their reaction will be...
Q. Ok.. well I really need help, I'm gay, my parents know and all they're not happy but they cope with it... Anyway I met some boy online and he asked me on a date, I really want to go but I don't know how to tell my mum, and what their reaction will ...
A. 25 May 2009: If you wait until you're older you won't need to tell your parents and it won't be so awkward and potentially stressful. Also, it probably is a tad risky for someone of your age to go on a date with someone you've met online.... (read in full...)
Gay relationship woes
Q. I'm a bisexual man and have been in a relationship with a man for the last seven years, living together for the best part of 6 years. I love him deeply but we have an erratic relationshp and have parted twice because we wanted different things out ...
A. 25 May 2009: No you should tell him he is being unreasonable. Sex is important in any relationship and yours is no exception. You need to stress to him that there is a massive problem. He is trying to deflect. Don't let him. If doesn't know what the problem is ... (read in full...)
I'm a straight girl that's in love with a gay guy... is he confused?
Q. I have a really close friend who says he's gay, but at times I feel like he might just be confused. I'm falling deep for this him like if he were my lover. He's always flirting with me, but not like he does with anyone else. He's always telling me ...
A. 20 May 2009: It sounds like he does love you, however not in a disiring or sexual way. As much as you love each other it would probably never work out very well as you would both crave a sexual bond you'd never be able to have.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has low sex drive--bad diet? circumcision?
Q. My boyfriend has been circumsized from birth. He seems to have a very low sex drive and doesn't feel up to it much. It frustrates me because i want to feel wanted and have good hard sex. I'm very passionate but i hate having to ask him for it all ...
A. 20 May 2009: Well it won't be the circumcision.
It could just be the way he is but if his diet is really bad then improving it could make a difference.
Most people underestimate the effect that their diet has on their bodies, including their sex drive.... (read in full...)
I want to explore his bum like he explores mines but he's not keen!
Q. Hi I am 24 and have been in a relationship for 9 months with a 30 year old man and it has been great. Our sex during this time has mainly involved me being anally receptive, which I have enjoyed a lot. I have recently asked him if we could switch ...
A. 20 May 2009: It sounds like he isn't very willing to compromise. Control could very well be a big part of it, as he probably likes to be the one in charge.
Saying it wasn't good with some other partners isn't a very good response from him, as like you say it h... (read in full...)
My daughter has given me permission to sleep with her friend and I'm torn over what I should do!
Q. I'm a single Dad with a 17 year old daughter. She has a friend that's 18. She's been coming around for about 5 or 6 yrs. I have a big house. She's had a room here for about 4 yrs and is here more than anywhere else.(No father around and Mom don't ...
A. 20 May 2009: I have to concur -- it sounds like you are the only stable adult/parent figure in her life. It could be a bit damaging for her if the relationship became sexual.... (read in full...)
Sex life gone bad.....
Q. me and my girlfriend have been together for 2.5 years. we are very happy and are moving in together next month. However our sex life annoys me. when we first got together I used to get oral sex from her but wasnt allowed to cum in her mouth, we ha...
A. 20 May 2009: A lot of people go above and beyond what they would normally do to impress. Now that you are in a committed relationship she feels the deal is done and she doesn't need to do those things any more.
Personally I think it is a bit heavy handed t... (read in full...)
Can't cum quickly
Q. Hi I have the opposite problem to premature exjaculation, in that I take ages to cum. I can get close on a number of occasions, (have pre-cum), but I can last for ages. Most of the time this isnt a problem, but sometimes it is nice to have a ...
A. 20 May 2009: You could try cumming less often and see if that makes you cum sooner.... (read in full...)
Does liking anal masturbation make me gay?
Q. Does liking anal masturbation make me gay? does thinking of men when i touch myself make me gay? does asking these questions make me gay Help!...
A. 20 May 2009: Being sexually attracted to men (and not to women) is what makes someone gay.
It isn't something you can control though, and if you are only attracted to men that is just the way it is. If you think about men and not women then chances are you ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that no one will be able to satisfy me
Q. I have been living in the USA since I was nine and came from Northern Pakistan. I have been spoiled by many gfs especially one of them who wanted me to play all imaginable anal games with her which made me orgasm 10X better. I am well settled, self ...
A. 24 March 2009: I doubt you are ruined for the rest of your life. If you've found girls that satisfy you in the past why can't you do so again, and marry one of those girls?
Like under any other circumstances you get married when you know that you've found th... (read in full...)
What the hell is a married man doing in gay bars anyway?
Q. I am 23 and have just broken up with my boyfriend of 6-months (he's 34 years old). I broke up with him after finding out he was married with two children; I feel disgusted and sick and have self-loathing. We met in a gay bar that's popular loca...
A. 17 March 2009: Well he is obviously either bisexual or gay and was looking for a relationship with a man while still keeping the one he had with his wife.
There are actually more married men out there then you realise who seek out sex or sometimes relation... (read in full...)
He's younger and I worry this is an issue for him - do I ask him out anyway?
Q. I recently met someone on a course during the course we seemed to just click. I felt really attracted to this guy but at the time he had just started dating someone, so thought ah well he's taken so kind of backed off. 2 weeks later though they ...
A. 14 March 2009: Seven years really isn't that much. It sounds like the real issue isn't the age difference but whether he'd want to date you or not! Like any instance you can never really know for certain if you ask. Since you are hesitent though and value his frie... (read in full...)
We are very happy, except... he's not interested in me sexually!!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 5 years. I am 36 and he is 29. We are best friends, soul mates, partners and co-conspirators at times. We both love each other madly and would rather spend time with each other than anyone else on earth. We ...
A. 14 March 2009: You tell him and make him listen just how bad he is making you feel - and then hope that it serves as a wake up call to sort out whatever the problem is. Only he can probably tell you what the problem is. Maybe he doesn't even know himself but... (read in full...)
How am I going to know if the guy is gay or not?
Q. thanks everybody who have contributed in answering my questions. again even though i can not change the nature of bein a gay and a mascline guy, how do i know that those mascline guys that are bein attracted to me are gay or not? how do i a...
A. 14 March 2009: You might be better dropping hints and leaving it to them to make the first move. Is there any where you can go to meet gay guys? Even though it is considered bad in your country there could be somewhere gay guys meet. Maybe search the internet and ... (read in full...)
My ex is gay and he is going through a difficult time. Should I help him?
Q. Hi Need some advice I found out (because i was being nosey and looking where I shouldn't have been) that my ex the father of my child is gay. He has been seeing someone for 2 yrs and I didn't know! Our child spends time with them both and constan...
A. 14 March 2009: It is possible that he hasn't told you because he is worried you'd react badly. If that is the case it could be a load off his mind to find out that you know and you have no problem with it. Just make sure you make it very clear that you're fine ... (read in full...)
Under-developed?
Q. This is a little weird... I'm a 13 year old girl and well I look younger. You see I haven't really started puberty. My period has not come, I'm almost completely flat chested and the only changes I've had are hair down there and growing a little ...
A. 13 March 2009: As you probably know - everyone develops at a different rate and of course it will happen. It may even happen all of a sudden or quicker than you expected. Do remember you are only 13 and that many people are never in relationships until they are ... (read in full...)
I like to touch myself...is this bad?
Q. Okay so we are gonna say that I am young like middle school young and well....I get really turned on by lots of things..im bi and even occasionally my best friend turns me on but she like a sister so never.Anyhoo I like to touch myself is this ...
A. 13 March 2009: Not bad at all - perfectly normal and natural for someone of your age.... (read in full...)
Sex or sweetness?
Q. I am in love with two amazing girls and I cna t figure out which one to pick and I am hurting all of them including myself. Girl A I dated for 8 years and everything was amazing except the sex. She is caring, loving, and would do anything for me a...
A. 13 March 2009: Besides chemistry and sex are there other things you like about Girl B? It seems you like her so much mainly because of the sex you lacked so much with Girl A - who other than sex was perfect. From what you have said it sounds like whichever w... (read in full...)
I hate adult friend finder
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year and a half and last year he have me his email and pw so I could go and fix something for him, so while I was on his email i came across this adult friend finder thing and I went to his page ...
A. 13 March 2009: Sounds like your boyfriend is "looking" for another girlfriend, an affair or sex. You know this, you've already caught him out, and to make it worse he isn't even apologetic or regretful. From what you have said it seems he isn't going to stop "l... (read in full...)
My boyfriend checks out other women all the time, how can I get him to stop?
Q. my boyf is constantly pointing out the hotness of other women. at first when we met i laughed it off but it's really starting to hurt my feelings. i'm not an especially jealous person, i dont care about him saying some actress is hot or anything but ...
A. 13 March 2009: I don't think you're being silly. Him thinking they are attractive is fine, but saying it to you all the time I think would be hard for most people to bear. If he loves you he shouldn't have any trouble with looking and thinking but not saying. ... (read in full...)
More important? Your happines & life? Or your kids?
Q. I have been married for about 13 years now. I have two daughters which I love so much. I am an honest, hardworking husband and try to be the best father that I can. I hug my kids daily, tell them I love them, sit with them on the couch and watch ...
A. 13 March 2009: You are in such a tight spot. You shouldn't feel bad for looking at other women or wanting sex. You've been a real trooper to make it this far.
If you're not going to leave then you need to be healthy and strong for yourself and your children... (read in full...)
I feel cheated when my wife discovered anal sex from porn channel
Q. For the past couple of months, my wife and I have been having a lot of sex. I mean a lot! I'm taking five or six nights a week. I'm not complaining about it by any means. I'm happy that the spark is still there but I did wonder where she had got the ...
A. 13 March 2009: She was concerned about your reaction - I'd call that anxious or caring, but certainly not mean.... (read in full...)
Should I start practicing to like girls?
Q. another big problem with me is that almost those that are attracted to me are seems to be straight guys, i like sexy straight guys so much but i don't like female guys and i don't wish to move with them infact i hate their way of behaving as am a ...
A. 13 March 2009: If you never want have a relationship with another guy then I would suggest you stay single rather than try and like girls. Entering into a relationship with a girl would be unfair and difficult for both you and her.
Unfortunately wanting to be st... (read in full...)
Threesome with partner & friends?
Q. My partner Mark and I have been together for a few years now. About a year ago, we were approched by one of my friends for a threesome. After considering pros and cons, we decided not to gof or it for the sake of our relationship. Ho...
A. 9 March 2009: I wouldn't have a threesome with any of your or his friends. It is totally different to what you have already done because you know the people, you have some form of an emotional connection with them as friends, and you will see them again. I think ... (read in full...)
Why did he want sex when he was angry?
Q. Okay me and my bf,have lots of fun together.But i get worried about him when he goes on this temper thing.One time i was over at his house,and lets just say this wasn't one of his great days.He was angry,then he started saying babe please can you ...
A. 9 March 2009: Well sometimes when people are having a bad day or in a bad mood sex makes them feel better. There is nothing wrong with that. HOWEVER punching a wall is really bad. It is violent aggresive behaviour and isn't the way you should treat anyone, le... (read in full...)
Husband not interested in me but mailing photos of himself to a guy?
Q. For the past few weeks, me and my husband's sex life used to be very good, but now it's gone from red-hot to zero-passion. My husband doesn't seem to show any interest in sex with me any more - I even wore sexy lingerie one night to try and get h...
A. 9 March 2009: YES it is your business. You are his wife, he is your husband, he isn't having sex with you, and e-mailing photos of himself to someone else! It couldn't be any more your business! If he really won't discuss it then you might just have to be a bit... (read in full...)
He can't maintain an erection and it's killing both of us!
Q. I've been patient for far too long now... I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now. We don't live together and he's an hours bus journey away. I'm 23 and he's 24 and we've never successfully had sex :( when we went on our first ...
A. 9 March 2009: You need to tell him you understand his anxiety over the situation BUT he needs to go to the doctor as there is likely an easy solution. He is probably worried to go to the doctor out of either embrassment, or because he is concerned they w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks my sex drive is too high!
Q. I am a 21 year old girl and my boyfriend is 24. For the last few years I have masturbated almost daily and when I got into this relationship my sex drive has remained really high and my boyfriend comments on it a lot. He never complains in the ...
A. 9 March 2009: Yes it does sound like you have a high sex drive but it also sounds like your boyfriend has a low one. He might be feeling inadequate because he isn't a match for you.... (read in full...)
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