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writes:I'm a bisexual man and have been in a relationship with a man for the last seven years, living together for the best part of 6 years. I love him deeply but we have an erratic relationshp and have parted twice because we wanted different things out of life. we got back together late last year and vowed to never break up again and for a bit things were great but physically the reltionship has deteriated and though we still cuddle I feel that sex for him isn't that important for him or he's lost the lustful feeling for me? The physical side of our reltionship is very important for me and I still lust after him massively but get annoyed and angry that he seems not to be interested in me and unless I initiate things the physical side just wouldn't happen.I spend more time masturbating than actually getting it on with my boyfriend. I'm left feeling empty and though I would be devistated at us parting I just think to myself am I putting the inevitable off?I've tried talking to him but he doesn't think there's a problem and we just plod on as usual.Do you think I should just accept that the relationship is all but ended?
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reader, Dreamlover  +, writes (12 June 2009):
 Hey there, i have a similar question for you, please message me privately
With regards to this i can be honest now, i do that with my BF and when that happens sex becomes one sides, yes we all have emotions and hot times when we want to have sex but its the meaning behind it that makes it worthwhile.
I lost that with my BF a while ago and that should have been a tell tell sign to me that we had greater issues or rather that i had greater issues.
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reader, dddddddd  +, writes (25 May 2009):
No you should tell him he is being unreasonable. Sex is important in any relationship and yours is no exception. You need to stress to him that there is a massive problem. He is trying to deflect. Don't let him. If doesn't know what the problem is then he can get checked out medically by a doctor and talk to a therapist. Hopefully he can see beyond himself and see the pain he is causing and do those things.
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