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*acchris
writes:another big problem with me is that almost those that are attracted to me are seems to be straight guys, i like sexy straight guys so much but i don't like female guys and i don't wish to move with them infact i hate their way of behaving as am a muscle guy and looks straight and no body knows that am gay except myself and my god.am 22yrs and i don't want to be gay as i believe that one day it might disgrace me definitely, i want to be staight!if there is anything i could do to stop thinking about guys i'm ready to do that even though i never like girls i will start practicing to like them or else i stay on my onw than to become gay as it might destroy my life and that of my family plz help
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): I'm sorry you feel this way. The truth is, you can change your sexual orientation, but it takes time and patience. Don't jump into a relationship with a girl, just start out being friends...someone you really enjoy spending time with. See what happens. Love can ignite, and you might be happier than you've ever been.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): You can not just turn off liking guys, is what your attracted to. I think that you could try to make a relationship with a girl but you have to put your all into the relationship for it to work. Maybe you can see a therapist about it.You can put your self out there and see what a relationship witha girl can come to.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (13 March 2009):
 you might not be living in a place where you can freely express yourself. have you ever thought of travelling to other countries?
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reader, dddddddd  +, writes (13 March 2009):
If you never want have a relationship with another guy then I would suggest you stay single rather than try and like girls. Entering into a relationship with a girl would be unfair and difficult for both you and her.
Unfortunately wanting to be straight doesn't do a much! You know you are gay, so you just have to work with that. I know it does put you in a tight spot as you want to act on your desires yet are worried of being disgraced.
Liking more masculine guys is perfectly fine. There will be masculine straight acting gay guys out there just like you!
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reader, loving arms +, writes (12 March 2009):
I am sorry to hear you feel this way. Mate you cannot change who you are. So really it is a case of really answering this, do you believe you have to right to happiness?
You are concerned abut the impact you're sexuality will have on your family. You obviously care about there feelings. Surely yours count too.
As for not liking girlie men, each to his own. There are no rules about who we are attracted to. We are all individuals, we have only one life and we all deserve to have happiness.
Good luck and happiness is wished for you.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (12 March 2009):
 You cannot force yourself to be straight you are who you are, why try and force yourself to pretned to be someone else why punish yourself, accept yourself for who you are dont pretend to be something your not it will only hurt more in the future.
Being gay is nothing to be ashamed of my brother is gay and came out when he was 18 and my family and love him for who he is not his sexuality.
Embrace and love who you are people who matter and love you will except you for who you are.
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reader, RA123  +, writes (12 March 2009):
 Be honest with yourself man.....I have seen many many people do the same thing you're doing and just be completely miserable whether they thought they were or not. After they finally came out you have no idea how much they changed as a person. They actually started to act like THEMSELVES. Think about it.
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reader, hibiscus  +, writes (12 March 2009):
Hi! I am sorry that you feel this way. There is nothing wrong with liking what who you like, but pretending to like someone can be a detriment. Think of it this way....person a is not attracted to person b. person for what ever reason besides both psychical and emotional attraction decides to pursue person b. They date, get married and 15 years later, person devastates person b by telling them the truth in that they never really were attracted to them and want to end the relationship. Think about how you would feel if you pretended to like someone and pursued a relationship. Think about how you would feel if someone did that to you....pretended because of their own limitations.There is nothing wrong with your sexual orientation. I understand that it might be devastating to you, but I think you should talk to someone you can confine in (I am not sure how liberal your country is with regards to sexual orientation) but if you can talk to a counsellor, you should seek one out.best wishes
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