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writes:how to make someone love you who does not have the same feelings with you. who tell you that she care a lot a lot as a friend but does not have other feelings. she also knows how much i love her. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): theres no way to "make"a women love you a womens heart is hers and hers alone to decide if you love her as much as you say you would respect her decition and just be a good friend to her im in love with a friend of mine and i know she doesnt feel the same so i know.first and foremost DONT pester her about it all women need thier space maybe in time she will love you too but if not jus be happy for whoever lucky guy she is with.
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reader, allenrobin +, writes (2 April 2008):
 The true answer to your question is a question in itself!
Do you really love her or do you love her because you can't have her?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 When a woman meets a man ,the first thing she will see if you
are the friends category or the potential mates category.
If you are placed in the friends category , it will be an
uphill task to get into the other category.
Here is a good article .
How Women Choose The Men They Date.
http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_100/118_dating_advice.html
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reader, meggiej  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Is she has actually said that she doesnt like you, then i am sorry she wont. if u keep on asking her then she may not like you even as a frend.
If she has given some hints but not actually said it then u can make more hints too, that u like her. Try flirting, that is always an exciting way to see what happens next.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): You cannot make someone love you. They have to fall in love with you themself. Thats the glory of love...
If she has already told you how she feels, take her word on that. I really like Guillaume's take on this too as its so true about Scarlet O'Hara. You can spend your life loving a person that will never feel the same way about you - so why do it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): If she has already said that she only likes you as a friend then you're just going to have to accept that. You cannot 'make' someone love you. Accept what she's said to you, move on and leave the poor girl alone - you're coming across as a creepy stalker.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (2 April 2008):
 the brilliant thing about love is that you cant make someone love you. its the most genuine beautiful emotion ever for that reason. you can make someone mad at you / hate you / feel hurt by you but it is impossible to make someone fall in love with you. it makes it all the more magical if someone does love you. but it hurts like hell if its unrequited.
she cant help her feelings anymore than you can help yours. you jus have to try your hardest to keep busy and move on. stay away from her for a while and fill all of your free time up with other things so you're not just sitting around thinking about her.
take care
brooke
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reader, citris +, writes (2 April 2008):
 you cannot MAKE someone love you. It's not a forced emotion. unfortunately we really can't help who we end up falling in love with, that's why its' called 'falling' in love. it's not purposefull, we don't 'make' it happen. It just does.
Falling in love with someone who does not return those same feelings is sadly a honest part of life, and it teaches us alot of things. Take this and learn from it.
Would you rather 'make' someone fall in love with you and work your entire life to try to keep them in love with you? On the contrary, you want to fall in love with someone who will equally and as easily fall in love with you, so in this way you have a mutual love that you can maintain throughout your lives together.
I hope that makes sense. I know it's probably not the advice that you wanted to hear, however it sounds like you have already made your feelings clear to this lady and she does not reciprocate them and most likely won't ever do so. It's possible that while you are so in love with her you may be overlooking someone else wonderful who is falling in love with you that you could have a potentially beautiful relationship with.
best of luck to you, please keep us updated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Honey, if she knows you love her and want her to be with her, and she still doesn't give being with you a chance, then it's gonna be pretty hard to make her love you..
It's always hard to make someone love you, because 9/10 there's nothing you can do to make someone feel so strongly. Love isn't like any other emmotion, it's strong and directional, and can lead you anywhere.
Some things just aren't meant to be, and I'm sorry to say this, but it might be best if you try to move on for a little while. If, after some time (maybe a month or 2), you really feel that she's the one, she's the girl who holds the key to your heart, then tell her. Flatter her. Act like they do in the movies, really - buy her sweet little things, get yourself some new clothes so that you look different, tell her jokes. Making her laugh is always going to get you places!
But honey, please don't count on this working. As I say, it's very hard to make a girl love you. Good luck :]
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