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... Send *itris a private message | | | *itris's profile:At 29 I have been engaged, in and out of several different relationships and situations over the years. I live in the Pacific Northwest, spent 6 years working in nursing and love working with and helping others. Recently have been described as being very altruistic, open, honest, caring and intelligent.
I have very few things that really get to me. I refuse to tolerate abuse, cheating and hard drug use.
I do currently have a LT live in boyfriend.
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I began to date this great guy, but he recently lost someone, what should I do?
Q. Very recently began dating/seeing this guy I met through a friend. He's fantastic, however I need help keeping my mind off of him and not contacting him and giving him some space right now. He very recently lost someone very close to him and is ...
A. 21 March 2008: I'm pretty sure the only thing going on is that he's depressed about his family member dying. I haven't seen him since before the funeral, he's kinda been holing himself up at home and not wanting to go anywhere, see anyone or do anything. I guess ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion. How do I bring up the subject in conversation?
Q. Hi, I'm 24 years old. At the age of 16 I had a teenage pregnancy which I decided to abort. It all went a bit complicated and they couldn't abort and I was asked back over the next few days but I miscarried as a result of the first botched ab...
A. 16 January 2008: when you are comfortable with the right person you'll be able to talk about it with them. It's still hard to broach the subject, but If you're in your twenties maybe a girlfriend has gone through something similar. it doesn't hurt to ask. or ask if ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid the dramatics?
Q. The last time I fell for a "friend" it was a fabulous relationship, but the ending was horrid and even though we both would have liked to have stayed friends in the long term it just couldn't work. Now It's the same thing all over again-different ...
A. 16 January 2008: tomorrow night he is coming over for dinner and we are going to have "the talk" i'm a bit nervous, however it needs to be done and some things said and I know he's more chicken than I am so this is it. thanks!
wish me luck!... (read in full...)
The old school relationship advice books from middle age havet helped me at all, and now I really like this guy and don't want to mess it up so need some fresh, good advice on how to best proceed with him!
Q. Over the past few months of getting over my ex, I've dated a bit and took a few outside old school tips in dealing with those people I dated and it didn't go well at all. Mainly the advice/tips were to not be calling immediately and wait "3 days" or ...
A. 25 December 2007: His response is basically that things aren't that weird he had fun and that's about it. I like that he's casual about everything but not so casual...if that makes sense. I also am thrilled he's not making like most guys I date and making promises he ... (read in full...)
I fantasise about men but the thought of doing it for real it repulses me...am I gay??
Q. I fantasise about being with men all the time, more than women. I also fantasise about being a woman satisfying men but when it comes to doing it for real the thought repulses me. Is this normal, am i gay?...
A. 8 December 2007: Fantasies are called that for a reason. Because they are not taking place in reality. Most people have fantasies that they never act on, or even wish to happen. It's perfectly normal. Also I would like to say that it has been scientifically studied ... (read in full...)
I can''t be around him because he doesn't respect me....should I just ignore him or tell him??
Q. Last night I talked to my ex that I was in the process of reuniting with and dating again and I had said that I looked at his myspace and was pretty offended that he had all these pretty new girls as his top friends when I knew he barely knew ...
A. 4 December 2007: This sounds all too familiar. If I were you, I would wait for him to call you and when he does lay it out for him. Tell him flat out that you are not interested in getting back together, not interested in being his friend and that you cannot see him ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to trust him again because I don't want to get hurt again...
Q. I met up with my ex last night (we broke up 2 months ago). He said he still loved me and missed me and couldn't get over me and we ended up making out. He said we should try dating again. I agreed to it last night, but then freaked out this morning ...
A. 4 December 2007: Good for you!!! Listening to your gut instinct is the best possible course of action you can ever take when it comes to these things! ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to trust him again because I don't want to get hurt again...
Q. I met up with my ex last night (we broke up 2 months ago). He said he still loved me and missed me and couldn't get over me and we ended up making out. He said we should try dating again. I agreed to it last night, but then freaked out this morning ...
A. 4 December 2007: First, take a deep breath and try to calm down a bit. It seems like you're really worked up about this and I hope that you can breathe and think rationally.
Second you need to ask yourself a few questions, all of which it sounds like you already ... (read in full...)
Can a guy tell when a girl orgasms?
Q. My question is quite simple really: can a guy tell when a girl orgasms? Clearly male ejeculation makes it obvious but I was wondering about when females cum? Please reply x...
A. 3 December 2007: Seeing that every person is different, some women are easier to detect than others when they have had an orgasm. Some guys are unable to tell, others can. It all depends on the guy, the gal and the circumstances. Generally if invovled in intercourse ... (read in full...)
Any ideas for a pair of tattoos?
Q. hey guys, my boyfriend of many years and i are planning on getting wrist tattoos composed of two words, as in he gets one part i get the other (ie. true and love) and yes we are 100% sure of this, but need some suggestions or some ideas for a ...
A. 3 December 2007: That's something highly personal and while it's fun to get idea's from other people, it should be something that is more meaningful to both of you than just a simple suggested phrase. Sit down with each other and brainstorm about something that is a ... (read in full...)
What is he saying?
Q. Why is he saying what he's saying? I broke up with my fiance a month ago, and told him to leave me alone, but just today he added me as a friend on myspace. I looked at his page, and it said he didn't have a girlfriend anymore and that he was free ...
A. 3 December 2007: Jovial is right, this guy is trying to get your hackles up! He just wants to hurt you the way you hurt him when you broke it off. It's not uncommon or unnatural to want to hurt those who hurt you. However I have to say it sounds like a petty and ... (read in full...)
I know what I deserve and it's not to be "the other woman" or someone's "play thing..."
Q. Trying to keep this short, I was in a relationship with "Frank" for a while before it went down hill and he cheated, we split. We were the best of friends prior to dating and did our best to stay friends through everything. Over the past year we ...
A. 2 December 2007: Just an update in case anyone was interested. We spoke again for awhile the other night and made plans for Frank to call this weekend and we'd see each other. However I've not heard from him and no intention of pushing it and calling him. His mother ... (read in full...)
I know what I deserve and it's not to be "the other woman" or someone's "play thing..."
Q. Trying to keep this short, I was in a relationship with "Frank" for a while before it went down hill and he cheated, we split. We were the best of friends prior to dating and did our best to stay friends through everything. Over the past year we ...
A. 29 November 2007: Thanks to everyone who responded! Just to clarify a bit because it sounds like everyone thinks I "stole" him away from the girl he is with now whom he was with when him and I first met, this is not the case. We didn't become close until after he and ... (read in full...)
How can I get more respect from someone in a casual relationship?
Q. How can I get more respect from someone in a casual relationship? It's casual because we live some distance apart and lead quite separate lives, but when we're together it's fun. I have feelings for him but I know he's a commitment-phobe. Or so I ...
A. 28 November 2007: Great alternative would be a number of things. let him know you're seeing someone else and see how he reacts...play his game. Otherwise, let him know you're not interested in being "the other woman" and walk away. If he respects you, he'll do the ... (read in full...)
We're so close as friends and are scared to take it further in case it ruins what we already have...
Q. Hi, I asked a couple of months ago should I tell my best friend that I'm in love with her. We sat down and talked about it and we both feel the same way but both feel that it could break our over close bond. Anyone any got any advice on what to ...
A. 28 November 2007: Best thing I can say is to keep the lines of communication open. If it's right and you both truly do care for each other it will develop in time hopefully. If you can't wait for that, talk to her and let her know. Maybe if she's not ready to take ... (read in full...)
Because I have liked this guy for 6 years, I have rejected all other guys! Help me get over this guy and move on!
Q. I do not really know when to move on. There is this guy that i have know for 6 years now and still counting. I really like him so much. in fact, during graduation i told him that i love him but he said he cannot reciprocate my feeling. until now i ...
A. 28 November 2007: It's tough business loving someone who doesn't or won't love you back. It's tougher to stay friends with them and try to move on. Rejecting others won't get him to be with you. Don't waste your time and youth on someone who can't deliver! It may ... (read in full...)
Breakthrough Bleeding... What's Normal?
Q. I have been taking birth control for a few months now. I'm going on a big vacation with my fiance in a few days so I went ahead and took the next pack of birth control pills so I'd 'skip' a period. Never done this before but I did all the research ...
A. 28 November 2007: Breakthrough bleeding is not uncommen for women who are new to skipping periods. Whether it's pills, depo, or other means such as an IUD it's simply your body's normal response to changes. Depending on the pill you are taking, homone levels in that ... (read in full...)
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