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writes:I've been dating a guy I really like for a couple months. I genuinely feel that he really likes me and cares for me. He treats me right when we are together and I feel very close to him. Always after a date, the next day he will text me a lot. He will initiate and make lots of conversation. Then one of us will end the conversation that night. He will text me sometimes every few days when we don't see each other between dates (I work six days a week and he works nights when I am off. Also, we live about an hour from each other, and it's not always easy to find time to get together). However, when I initiate text to say hi (which I barely ever do, but I'm trying to do more often now because I just want to show interest), he takes forever to reply.. Like over 4 hours or days. Am i overanalyzing this? Is he just merely busy? Does he just not like texting or not feel like talking? If any of those reasons were the case, it wouldn't bother me that he takes forever to respond as I am not much of a texter myself, but I wonder if this has to do with his interest level. Any guys out there and if so, can you shed some light? Would you wait days to text a girl back even if you really liked her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the answers. I have realized hy his actions now that there is really nothing to worry about and he has made it very clear that he likes me, and I don't feel like I need to worry about the texting time..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2014): Sometimes we have to ask why? If it's because they don't like to then there's your answer. Sometimes people are very tired.
I know for myself when I have all those little things to do around my apartment and the minute I get started my texts all come in at the same time. I can't just answer them right away so I finish what I am doing and then I apologize for the late reply. Communication is the hardest thing for some people but in relationships it is very important. Texting has become a way of life for some people, it's a way to leave a short message on your way home or to say a simple hello how are you? Just always remember be honest about how you're feeling and chill out a little and keep busy.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 May 2014):
 I would not measure his interest based JUST on texting.
some folks don't like texting. My hubby hates it. I use it rarely for keeping in touch.. more for "running late be there in 15 minutes" or "I'm here.. .booth in the back" sort of stuff.....
if he asks to see you and he's positive about those things then I'd just assume he's not much of a texter.
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reader, YoungButNotNaive  +, writes (19 May 2014):
 No, a guy won't wait DAYS to text a girl back if he really likes her. Of course there are the rare exceptions, such as a family emergency, or having to study for an important exam. However, more often than not, when a guy doesn't text a girl back (or vise versa), it means they aren't all that interested.
No matter how "busy" someone is, they will make time for someone they are truly interested in. You're busy yet you make time for him. If he felt the same about you, he'd do the same for you. End of story.
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reader, cattycakes  +, writes (19 May 2014):
Texting, what a nightmare. I would go by how he treats you in real life, not his texting record. After seeing you he starts his usual routine, gets on with his life and is not a slave to the telephone. Good on him. Women communicate in a different way, but don't judge him by what we would do. Wait and he will text you. Keep cool, live your life and don't get too strung out waiting. A gap between texts means nothing, he is just busy. My son is always leaving his phone to go flag, leaving it at other people's houses or mislaying it at home. The reason is, it doesn't rule his life. Very annoying when I want to get hold of him. Obviously, if a bloke doesn't call or text AT ALL, good riddance. But don't jump the gun. Plus don't be the one always left waiting. Call, why don't people just speak to each other!? I just had a thought....my husband does not respond to my texts! Very often. It means nothing.Why not set a rule. Tell you boyfriend that you hate texting and refuse to do it. Arrange your next meeting when you see him and call to confirm shortly before the date. Sorted!
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reader, Ameee +, writes (19 May 2014):
Hello, Im going through something very similar myself !Very frustrating isn't it?But deep down who are we kidding ? The bare bones of this is if a guy likes a girl THAT much HE will make every excuse possible to get in touch and contact her and want to see her. Trouble is trying to get ourselves to see this, when the truth hurts.I am not sure why we all play games when it comes to texting, but we do, why can't we be honest - because noone likes rejection and noone likes hurting others - truth hurts.I would suggest not contacting him anymore and save yourself some dignity here, just get on with living your life and keep busy if you can I know your thoughts will be of him all day as you are kept wondering but we cant make anyone text us or talk to us. He may get in touch when he is ready, but then again he may not. Prepare yourself for whatever outcome and be kind to yourself.
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