My husband is making me have too many children!
Q. I need some advice. I am 8 months pregnant with my 5th child. my other children are 7, 5, 4 and 18 months old. My husband works extremely long hours and spends every second week working in another state. I was done having children after our t...
A. 6 June 2008: Your husband is showing no consideration for your feelings. I don't know if he just doesn't understand or if he just doesn't care, but either way it's unacceptable. It's your body and you can do whatever you want with it. If you want birth control, ... (read in full...)
Is this a medical issue or is it that my girlfriends have been satisfied quicker than I have?
Q. Dear DearCupid, I have what feels a serious problem, I'm in love with this girl, we have been for nearly 2 years(in a relationship). We began to have sex in October last year. I love her so much; but a problem that we seem to have is that I can sa...
A. 31 May 2008: I've heard of a problem before where men who masturbate frequently and...fiercely...have trouble climaxing from vaginal intercourse. It's like you're so used to your own very firm grip that nothing else can get you off. Perhaps that's your problem? ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I could be pregnant without having full intercourse?
Q. Hello. I am worried, and I know it is probably for no reason. I have never had sex. I am on the pill because I get really bad menstrual pains, but a few weeks ago I missed it for a week, and I have never been very good at taking it on time, because ...
A. 31 May 2008: There's no way you're pregnant. Full intercourse is needed for pregnancy. Period. Don't belive those urban myths you hear about so-and-so who got pregnant because some random sperm was on a toilet seat somewhere. That kind of stuff is impossible!
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He's 25 and I am 16... should I stay with him?
Q. i'm in love with this guy. we're in love with eachother. i'm 16, he's 25, almost 26. we're like, almost 10 years age difference. we wanta get married n 2 years, right after i finish highschool, i wanta take a year off after that anyway, and move ...
A. 30 May 2008: Ok, slow down! Why do you feel the need to get married so soon? Why not just move in with him and live together for a while after you turn 18? Live with him and see where it goes. Work, go to school, and save up some money. If you still love him ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong if I throw away my boyfriends' divorce papers?
Q. When cleaning house, I came upon my boyfriends divorce papers. Is it wrong if I throw the divorce papers away myself?...
A. 30 May 2008: They might be needed for something, anything. Don't throw away important documents like that! Maybe you can ask him to put them somewhere safe and out-of-sight? That way you won't keep coming across them. ... (read in full...)
Can I forgive after he cheated and got a girl pregnant?
Q. How do you forgive your husband after he has cheated. And made a baby with another women during your marriage....
A. 30 May 2008: Please take the advice of the other aunts, and leave him! You deserve better!... (read in full...)
I've chased men away before, now I'm interested in a new guy and need some advice!
Q. I really need some advice on my problem. Well, Im 24 and Ive got good job and lots of friends and Im pretty. But Im single. Now, when I meet boys I like, inside my head Im telling myself to play it cool, but my actions and words do exactly the o...
A. 29 May 2008: It sounds like you're coming across as desperate and clingy (no offense, that's just the image they probably see, it's not necessarily how you are). If you're acting easy/promiscuous that sends a bad message too, as men won't respect you or take you ... (read in full...)
He hasn't spoken to me since I brought home a new kitten! Was I wrong?
Q. So my relationship with my boyfriend has been dodgy for some time. We have been together 10 years. He's away a lot on business so our time together is really limited. To cut it as short as possible, I am an animal lover and would give any creatur...
A. 29 May 2008: I'm an animal lover too so I totally understand.
I think what the other aunts have said is pretty accurate. He's either jealous of the attention you give to your pets or he's acting out because of some other issue. I think you two should work on ... (read in full...)
Just found out that my bf has collected photos of women's breasts sent by email!
Q. I just discovered that my boyfriend has collected photos of womens breasts sent to him by email. He met these women online and made the requests personally. I also viewed some messages that he printed and kept, telling a few of the women that he had ...
A. 29 May 2008: Um, yeah. I agree he's probably seen a bit too much porn. You need to talk to your guy about this, because what he's doing is obviously making you upset. Your relationship cannot be healthy if he's not taking into consideration your emotional needs. ... (read in full...)
Do people who get engaged young have lasting relationships?
Q. Ok. i just got engaged to my bf of 3 years and many people have criticised this. so i want to ask you ppl do you think a relationship wer u fall in love in a young age and then get married wen they are older will last??? like we started goin...
A. 28 May 2008: Why do you feel the need to be "engaged"? Can't you two just be together, wait it out for a few years, and then get "engaged"? To most sane people, the word "engaged" means that you're literally planning a wedding. It means you're picking out a ... (read in full...)
Why is he so scared to finger me?
Q. my boyfriend is really scared to finger me! why is he so scraed we finally kissed about a weekago sence then weve mad out and everything but why is he so scared to finger me??...
A. 24 May 2008: He might be afraid because he doesn't know how to do it. He's afraid he'll do it all wrong and embarrass himself. Reassure him that it's ok if he's inexperienced, you'll guide him through it. On the other hand, though, you two seem to be pretty ... (read in full...)
I really need to figure out how to be more secure about myself-help!
Q. I really need to figure out how to be more secure about myself. My b/f is a pretty hot, intelligent, fun guy to be with and says he loves me, but sometimes when we go out, I get so uncomfortable when there are so many beautiful women around us and ...
A. 24 May 2008: I think your worrying is not entirely unfounded. A boyfriend with a wandering eye is not exactly a confidence boost. Have you talked to your bf about this? Tell him how you feel. Tell him it hurts you when he looks at other women and that you expect ... (read in full...)
I found very intimate letters from some girl he used to hang out with who he had claimed was just a friend!
Q. I was going through old boxes to pack up and move into our new house, when I came upon some letters that I had written to my husband 3 years ago when he was in jail. We just got married last year, 2007. Please do not judge him for the jail time, ...
A. 24 May 2008: Whoa! You definitely need to ask your husband about that stuff! If he's been unfaithful you derserve to know. Those letters are pretty clear, how could he possibly explain that away? Keep asking him about those letters until you get the truth! ... (read in full...)
How can I stop him being so stuck on me. I've never encouraged him at all
Q. Okay so... I need some advice..I have NEVER delt with someone like this before. I have a cousin, Dina. She's pregnant, (again) and she's a total leech. She's my family, but I have very little respect for her. Anyways recently she left her bo...
A. 24 May 2008: Ok, first thing: tell Dewayne you're definitely NOT interested. Be polite but firm and very clear. You should probably do this over the phone so if he does get angry he at least can't hurt you. It might be a good idea to have a friend around so they ... (read in full...)
Was she really meeting her father? Am I just being paranoid?
Q. Last week my girlfriend of about one year arranged to meet her father last night. She seemed very excited, its not often they get together despite living in the same city. She came by to see me after work, and went off to get a shower. The hot water ...
A. 24 May 2008: Her story is definitely strange and I don't blame you for being suspucious. Good job on voicing your opinions to her rather than bottling them up. I suggest you keep your eyes open and pay attention to the things your gf is doing - look for any ... (read in full...)
Confused!!! In an unhappy marriage and wanting someone else...
Q. I am confused and need advice...from someone that doesnt know me or my husband. We have been married for 8 months now and I feel very distant and out of love with him. When he touches me or kisses me I dont feel anything and it really scares me. I ...
A. 22 May 2008: I don't really like the other answers so far. First of all, your husband is jerk, he doesn't respect you, he's emotionally abusive, and he needs some freaking help with that stress management! I don't blame you for being interested in other men! ... (read in full...)
Does watching/playing 'Lolicon' turn you into a pedophile?
Q. I'm a 16-year-old male and have been thinking about lolicon. I played a few lolicon online games when I was 12 and found it to kind of turn me on. I by no means like the real stuff, I find the idea repulsive but it's different when it comes to this. ...
A. 22 May 2008: What exactly is lolicon?... (read in full...)
My daughter's friend keeps showing up at my office for help, seems like she developed a crush for me! How should I handle this?
Q. Hey, I'm having a problem with one of my daughter's friends and I'm unsure of what to do about it... so any advice is much appreciated. I work at my kid's school as I.T. support staff and one of my 13-year-old daughter's friends keeps showing up...
A. 22 May 2008: I think you should ignore her as much as possible. It may be a bit rude but atleast she'll get the picture. Whenever the girl asks for your help, quickly help her then walk away. If it's something you've helped her with before, call her out on it. ... (read in full...)
I need immediate help.. please! I'm being blackmailed!
Q. I need immediate help, please. Before I explain my situation, I just want the people to know that I'm not really.. 'this' kind of a person. I don't know why I acted this way, and now I'm paying the price for my stupidity. I've always been independ...
A. 16 May 2008: What this creep doing is illegal. I know you're afraid of your parents, but take the advice all the other posters have said. You need to break off contact with the guy immediately. If you keep in contact with him the situation will only escalate. ... (read in full...)
I keep finding naked pictures of his ex, what should I do?
Q. Last year, I accidentally found my boyfriend's porn on his external hard drive. In that collection, I found naked pictures of his ex-girlfriend after he told me that he didn't have them anymore. I got very angry and deleted all of them. When I ...
A. 16 May 2008: If your guy is calling you fat he does NOT respect you. Please break it off and find someone better before he emotionally damages you further. You are beautiful exactly the way you are, and if your boyfriend can't see that, that's his problem! You ... (read in full...)
I keep finding naked pictures of his ex, what should I do?
Q. Last year, I accidentally found my boyfriend's porn on his external hard drive. In that collection, I found naked pictures of his ex-girlfriend after he told me that he didn't have them anymore. I got very angry and deleted all of them. When I ...
A. 15 May 2008: I would not put up with that! He's jacking off to thoughts of his ex-girlfriend, how does that make you feel? I'd be crushed, personally. Don't take that kind of crap! You had EVERY right to delete those pictures, don't let anyone else tell you ... (read in full...)
Straight guy turned on by gay porn!!!
Q. i'm a normal, straight, 20 year old guy. I've had a couple of girlfriends before, and have one currently. Recently i've been getting attracted to gay porn. It turns me on much more than the straight stuff, so i'm beginning to wonder if i'm turning ...
A. 15 May 2008: I'm majoring in gender/sexuality studies. One of the first things I learned is that sexuality is very fluid. Soceity litkes to pigeon hole people into either "straight" or "gay" or sometimes "bisexual", and they mean for these terms to refer to a ... (read in full...)
Is she gay? Does she have a crush on me or something?
Q. ok, I have this friend. Well really, a friend of a friend, But we always hang out. We're all girls. And this person doesn't always get on with me. She's really childish, irritating and insecure and sometimes she likes me sometimes she hates me for...
A. 15 May 2008: Yeah, I'd say this girl is definitely gay/bisexual. Does she know that you're bisexual ? If not, that could be why she keeps calling you gay..she's trying to get the truth out of you because she's into you. Or if she does know you're bi, maybe she's ... (read in full...)
I'm no stunner but I'm not the elephant man either - So how can I attract some female attention?
Q. How can I attract some female attention? I'm kind of shy and not good at flirting but I'm a nice guy and I'm not hideous but i'm 28 years old and I've only had sex twice, and that was 2 or 3 years ago. I was going out with a girl for two year...
A. 9 May 2008: Don't underestimate the power of personality! I'm sure you have a beautiful personality that you can use to your advantage. Looks are absolutely NOT as important as people make them out to be.
Also, a lot of girls love confidence. I personal... (read in full...)
When should I start taking the pill?
Q. hey, i just got the pill, but have not started taking it yet, it says you need to start on the first day of your period, i was just wandering.... if it starts at 5pm sunday night, would i take one that night?? or do i wait until the next day?? ...
A. 10 September 2007: You should take the pill on the first day of your period. But also take into account what time you want to take your pill everyday, because it always has to be the same time. So, if you get your period at 5 pm on Sunday, and you plan to take you ... (read in full...)
How to say to a guy that has treated you well and cared for you that he is not the one?
Q. How to say a guy, that has treated you well, cared about you, was on your side to support you and who you know has feelings for you, that HE IS Simply Not THE Guy you're looking for?? and not to be painful for him? What's the best way? Please, any ...
A. 10 September 2007: I've done this exact same thing before. Trust me, honesty is the best way to go. Explain to this guy exactly what you posted above.
If you make up an excuse or don't tell the whole truth, this guy will wonder what he did wrong and probably... (read in full...)
Can anyone help with my period problems?
Q. Ok, so I got my first period 3 years ago about, I think, and well it hasn't been regular at all since, I know I have read that within the first couple years it won't always come every month and stuff, but like I just got it now, and this is the ...
A. 9 September 2007: I totally understand not wanting to discuss this with your mother. I'm the exact same way. I think this is something you should check into. It's probably not serious but still kind of odd. Are you underweight? Do you play a lot of sports or exe... (read in full...)
Should I leave my wife or work on through?
Q. Should I leave my wife or work on through? My wife and I have been married for 6 years and have a 5 1/2 year old daughter. For a couple of years things have been tough and we hadn't been getting on. She kissed and frolicked with other people ...
A. 9 September 2007: It's nice that you're thinking about your daughter, but think of yourself as well. You can't stay in a loveless marriage. It's not fair for you and it's definitely not fair for your wife. Plus, you're going to leave your wife eventually; I think we ... (read in full...)
A short guy
Q. Here is how i met my wife for the first time,it was on a rainy day when i was going to work.For some reason i slipped over and there she was to pick me up.Now i am 5'0 tall or not so tall.She leant over to pick me up i didnt notice straight away how ...
A. 9 September 2007: Very cute story! Congrats on finding such a great woman!... (read in full...)
I am 23 and have fallen for a 14 year old!
Q. i am a 23 year old male, and i have a 14 year old friend i have meet and known for a while, we get on really well, and her parents seem to trust me and her. but i think i maybe fallin in love with her, and i think she feels the same way, im not...
A. 9 September 2007: 9 years is a pretty huge age gap for how old this girl is. I don't understand how you could even like her, given how immature she must be compared to you. It's just a fact of life, 14 year old girls are silly and petty and immature. I've been there ... (read in full...)
He's never cheated on me but when he left his phone at my house there were texts on it from another girl!!!
Q. hi... I've been with my boyfriend for a while now. He tells me he has never cheated on any of his ex's, and I believe him. Recently I've been on holiday for 3 weeks, when I got back he told me he'd really missed me and been so bored while I was ...
A. 8 September 2007: All signs point to cheating. You should definitely confront him about this. Don't feel guilty for going through his texts; many gf's/bf's do that and I'm sure he'd do the same if you left your phone at his house.
If he did cheat, I say leave hi... (read in full...)
How do you attract the right kind of guy and stop them messing you around?
Q. hey everyone! So far i havent had very good experiences with guys,they either mess me about or dont seem to notice that i exist! Im going to university in 2 weeks so was wondering, does anyone have any advice on how to attract the right type of gu...
A. 8 September 2007: First thing to do is work on projecting an aura of "I'm not going to take your crap!" If people know they can't mess with you, they won't. Self-confidence and self-respect and good ways to attract decent men. Second thing is easier. If you m... (read in full...)
I really like kissing and my boyfriend doesnt
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months now and everything is going great. My only problem is I love kissing and my boyfriend really doesnt. When i ask him about it he doesnt come right out and say he doesnt like it he just says if its ...
A. 8 September 2007: Well...couple things. One is...and this might sound mean...but do you have bad breath often? If you do, you should really try to freshen it for him. But your breath is probably fine, that was just an idea, so I'll get to my next point. I had a b... (read in full...)
My husband flirts with other women, takes their numbers but says its innocent.
Q. I have discovered that my husband has been flirting with other women - but would like advice on whether he's going too far. I have been with him for 5 years, married for 2. Last night he came come late and drunk, about 3am. He fell asleep mid text...
A. 8 September 2007: He's definitely going too far. I don't doubt that he's already cheated on you. Sorry, but this man isn't trustworthy. If I were you I'd be furious. ... (read in full...)
When we were doing it I made a horrible 'windy' noise from my privates...
Q. Last night was so embarrassing!!! I stayed over my boyfriends (I've been with him a month) and when we were doing it I made a horrible 'windy' noise from my privates - I was so embarrassed and he stopped and didn't really know what to say!! I'm so ...
A. 7 September 2007: This is totally normal. Don't freak out! That happens when there is air in the vagina and it's being pushed out by the man's penis. Women have no control over this whatsoever and cannot feel it coming. I know it's as embarrassing as humanly ... (read in full...)
I just started a long distance relationship. How can I make this work?
Q. I've just started a long distance relationship and i'm already finding it really hard. He lives about 4 hours away on the train, and seeing as im still at school, I'm finding it dificult to find the money to go and see him. I really want it to work ...
A. 7 September 2007: I've been in a long distance relationship as well, and I know how difficult it can be. My ex boyfriend and I were together for 3 years this way in a lovely realtionship, so it *can* work. My biggest part of advice: telephone! Call each other all the ... (read in full...)
My bf lives far away from me--do you think we'll work out?
Q. I have a boyfriend and he lives far away from where we live do you think we will work out?...
A. 7 September 2007: How far, exactly? It would be helpful to know if he's like one hour away or a whole state away. I think I can offer some good advice on this. My first boyfriend lived 45 minutes (driving time) away from me. Neither one of us had a car or a licen... (read in full...)
How do you leave somebody you love??
Q. Is it possible to move forward and end a marriage you dont want to end but you have no choice to because the other person is just a taker? How do you leave someone you love? Especially without a support system. How do you throw in the towel when ...
A. 7 September 2007: The first thing I want to say is: Good for you for leaving a man who doesn't care about you the way you deserve to be cared about. Many women are too scared or too afraid of being without love to do something like that, so props to you! You're very ... (read in full...)
He's set a date to leave his wife. But i'm paranoid he wont! Help with advice please..
Q. How do i stop loving this guy? I have been seeing this guy for a while, he is beautiful amazing funny.... married and my boss. His marriage has been troubled for a while, they have both had affairs. We are fantastic together and i do know he ...
A. 7 September 2007: Even if this guy does leave his wife, why would want him? If he's cheating on his wife as it is, what makes you think he won't cheat on you too? He doesn't seem to be a very honest or trustworthy person. Sorry, but it's a harsh reality. ... (read in full...)
I keep crying because I have really really low self esteem and I just feel really ugly and rejected and basically a mess.
Q. I'm really confused right now. I started a job 3 months ago and met this guy called Dan through one of the people at work. We became friends and about a month ago he kissed me and told me he liked me. I was a bit unsure at first because he's a bit ...
A. 7 September 2007: This guy is a total jerk. He's not worth your time or tears. It's unfortunate but he was probably using you as a rebound.
Listen, girl, you don't need any man like that in your life. You're a million times better off without him. Just like the... (read in full...)
So I'm asking always should I tell her my feelings on internet or wait till she comes to me?
Q. Well I have this question, please help me with it. I met this girl at a party, we had spent a very nice time together as friends, nothing special, but the problem was that she lives in a another country, so we kept in touch by e-mails, sometimes ...
A. 7 September 2007: Hmmm if this girl is coming to visit you, and enjoys talking to you so much, I think it's safe to say that she's interested in you, too.
I think, maybe, you should wait until you see her. If you can gather up the courage, it would be much mor... (read in full...)
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