A
male
age
18-21,
angelication0x
writes:i'm a normal, straight, 20 year old guy. I've had a couple of girlfriends before, and have one currently. Recently i've been getting attracted to gay porn. It turns me on much more than the straight stuff, so i'm beginning to wonder if i'm turning gay. I love girls and their qualities, but guys seem to be an uncharted territory I wanna explore. I'm afraid that doing so may turn me gay for good, and thats something that I do not want. I even have a straight friend who is willing to experiment with me, but i'm still not sure where this will lead... Should I go for it? Please help!!
View related questions:
gay porn, porn Reply to this Question |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, BaayLoveThou  +, writes (19 July 2008):
well that doesn't make you gay. And it doesn't make you bisexual either..well, not Yet at least. I believe everyone had at least a little bit of bisexuality in them. But for now your just simply Bi-Curious. Nothing wrong with it and perfectly normal. And your straight friend want to experiment with you right? I say, Go for it. If you end up likeing it then you would most likely be a bisexual. If you simply hate it then, you hate it. Wich would mean that your straight.
A
male
reader, Merisier +, writes (30 May 2008):
Well I say go for it. It always good to experience a new thing. But it won't turne you gay all the way, otherwise I would of be. But no I still love pussy.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): Maybe you are bisexual and just never realised it.
...............................
A
female
reader, bday121 + ♥, writes (15 May 2008):
 I'm majoring in gender/sexuality studies. One of the first things I learned is that sexuality is very fluid. Soceity litkes to pigeon hole people into either "straight" or "gay" or sometimes "bisexual", and they mean for these terms to refer to a very permanent position. But these terms are very limiting. Just because you're desiring men now doesn't mean that you always will. Being "gay" now doesn't mean that you're "gay" for life. Just like I'm sure many lesbians and gay men have desired the opposite sex at one or more points in their lives. Almost everyone has urges for the same sex during their puberty years and in their 20's. It's totally normal. Having some fun with a guy won't "turn" you gay. If you are attracted to women now, why wouldn't you be later?
Anyway, I say go for it. Be safe, have fun!
...............................
A
female
reader, LIERIN +, writes (15 May 2008):
 Well .. it looks like you are BI ... you like both sides. Girls and boys ... maybe you are just affraid to admite it to yourself and others ... I agree w Peter Pan .. you should go out and have a lil experiment .. and you will see if you are or you are not ...
I am turned on by lesbian sex .. am I bisexual .. no, because I would never touch a woman ( I tried didnt do anything w me) ... so I knew its just the seight of two female bodies together (since we do have nice bodies). So maybe you just like to watch it .. but you really have no attention to do it yourself ... you should try and see
good luck
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): I agree PeterPan. You may be straight, bisexual, gay...You arent going to be turned into something you are not. If you are not gay then you will never be gay. But dont be afraid to try something and dont be afraid to back out of it if it feels awkward or not right. I dont know how to explain it but in the moment you will know.
Another thing, my good friend realized he was gay when he was 22 in his first relationship with a man. Before, he swore up and down he was straight, dated girls, the whole bit. There is only one way to find out....try it. But only if you want to and are comfortable in doing so.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): sounds to me like your not strait.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): I will take the position (something new), that under specific conditions, we all "can" have homosexual moments. Example: if our needs are not being met; followed with depression symptoms, then, as humans, we are susceptible to being made whole by acts we normally wouldn't accept or tolerate. This is just a thought.
...............................
A
male
reader, q1605 +, writes (14 May 2008):
 A person gets turned on by the things that turn them on. You can't help it and fighting will only prolong the ..(I will use the word inevitable only for lack of a better one)These are things hard wired in your head and the choice has been more or less been made for you already. I am straight but have gay friends and relatives. They didn't choose to be this way, they just are. I think if most had a choice they would choose to be straight. It would make life so much easier for them. But they just aren't and no amount of sex with women or therapy or or.or... But before you act on this be quite sure this is the way you want...no that this is who you are. If it is even being bi embrace it and be it. But if it's some fad which is how I see some younger people approach this I wouldn't go there. Women get that pass because it's sexy and pretty and graceful and they can go back home again (metaphorically)if they decide it's not what they are about. But guys will find it hard to live it down. Which is just a reality that gay or bi guys face. If I were gay I wouldn't care what anyone thought, but before I crossed that line I would have formed a pretty definite idea that this was a part of my sexuality. Because we aren't sexy and we aren't graceful and we aren't pretty. And it won't be the same experience that you see women have.
...............................
A
male
reader, PeterPan + ♥, writes (14 May 2008):
 OK, first off, having fantasies or watching gay porn won't turn you into a homosexual -- you either are or you aren't, plain and simple. What you could be though is bisexual, and that another "you are or your aren't" as well.
If you want to explore your sexuality, I'm not seeing any problems with it at all. If you've got a friend that's willing to experiment with you, all the better. As far as I see it if you're interested, then try it. We're on this Earth for a short time. I'm a big believer in gaining as much experience as you can get your hands on. Make the most of your time and live every second like it will never be given back to you... because it won't!
Good luck with your science experiment! Just remember to practice safe-sex, friend or not...
...............................
|
