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writes:i'm in love with this guy. we're in love with eachother. i'm 16, he's 25, almost 26. we're like, almost 10 years age difference. we wanta get married n 2 years, right after i finish highschool, i wanta take a year off after that anyway, and move with him 2 his place. it's a long distance relationship. we're both mature about this, and i'm not telling anyone, only the people that don't really know my family or don't care. so, is this a bad thing? do plan these things and think it'll work? should i stay with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): I have been in a similar situation before. When I was 15, I dated a 25 year old too. He was my boyfriend for a year and I thought I was completely in love with him. But the age difference is really big. We didn't think alike. He was ready to settle down and have a family and I was just 16. We planned on moving in as soon as I turned 18, but as the time passes I realized he was too old and I had too much to live to move in with someone. Anyways I think you are too young to think about getting married, wait. Take the relationship slowly, nothing too serious. Then if, years later (after you lived a bit more), you still feel the love then go ahead and marry him. But for now don't do something you will regret later down the line.
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reader, bday121 +, writes (30 May 2008):
 Ok, slow down! Why do you feel the need to get married so soon? Why not just move in with him and live together for a while after you turn 18? Live with him and see where it goes. Work, go to school, and save up some money. If you still love him after that, THEN would be the time to get married. There's no need to rush into marriage when you could just live with him instead.
When people get married at 18 it usually doesn't work out. 18 is a very young age and you still have a lot of growing up to do. People change, make new friends, and meet new people as they get older. When people get married young they tend to have many regrets about not experiencing more things - more sex partners, more education, more *living* in general. Don't deny yourself these precious, experimental years! Just because you're in love with this guy now that doesn't mean you'll be in love with him forever. Try to slow down and live for the moment. You have all your life ahead of you to be married, try to party it up while you're young!
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reader, mbiling  +, writes (30 May 2008):
age doesnt matter in love, look at celine dion and her husband. Why do you feel embaressed, tell your family. because it sounds pretty serious to you. but personally I would wait on the marriage, you should know what you want too. if he can't than maybe this relationship is not the right one for you.
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (30 May 2008):
 do not move in with him.it seems like his too old for you i mean he might be secretly cheating on you..i seriously think that you should just take it slow
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (30 May 2008):
 Well, I really do not think a 16 and 25 year old would have much in common. The age gap is pretty big at that age so Im not sure it will work in the long run. The odds are against you anyways.
Why havent you told your family? What would they say? I think there is something wrong if you cant talk to your family about someone who seems so important to you!
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