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writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months now and everything is going great. My only problem is I love kissing and my boyfriend really doesnt. When i ask him about it he doesnt come right out and say he doesnt like it he just says if its done to much its not as special and that he gets tired after doing it for too long. we hardly ever make out and besides a peck on the lips we rarly ever kiss. i would love to have him kiss me more but he says we kiss alot already. i just dont know what to do but i really miss kissing. what do you guys think i should do?
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reader, bday121 +, writes (8 September 2007):
 Well...couple things. One is...and this might sound mean...but do you have bad breath often? If you do, you should really try to freshen it for him. But your breath is probably fine, that was just an idea, so I'll get to my next point. I had a boyfriend who loved kissing me. I, however, didn't like kissing him at all (even at the very beginning of the relationship). During the 3 years we were together he was always trying to kiss me and I was always pushing him away. Now, though, I have a boyfriend that I absolutely cannot stop kissing for anything. I love it. I've figured out that it wasn't so much the kissing that I disliked with my ex, but that I disliked the guy himself. I had no physical attraction for him. (He was a good-looking guy, too. The connection just wasn't there for me.) I kinda figured that out during the relationship but I was in denial...I would tell myself that I just didn't like kissing. I don't mean to scare you, but it's possible that this guy doesn't enjoy kissing you because he doesn't have much of an attraction for you. I'm totally not saying that you're unattractive! I'm sure you're gorgeous, it's just that some people don't click. No chemistry, no connection. I only think that because it's kind of rare for a guy to not enjoy kissing his girlfriend, especially when she's so willing. I think you should talk to him about it. Maybe it *is* just that he doesn't enjoy kissing very much, but it could be something else, and you deserve to know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): Hey, well i am a lesbian and my gf didn't like kissing either. I think all you have to do is except his decision and try to make every day special for him, as you get more kisses =)Or ( it may sound sad) but me and my gf, made a chart for when she wanted to be kissed. Strange i no, but it works =)Sure i miss kissing but when she does kiss, you no for sure that she's gonna like itLouXXXX
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reader, rcn +, writes (8 September 2007):
 Girls generally like kissing and making out more than guys do. If it started out heavy then decreased it's because he's getting comfortable in the relationship. That's a good thing in a way. It means the trust is there, and other elements for having a successful relationship. The problem is that our comfort keeps us from pursuing what we did during the courting phase of the relationship. Let him know you may kiss a lot from his side, but from yours, your missing out a bit. Make a compromise with him. One evening on the weekend is his. He gets to choose what you guys do. It may be something you don't like, but he's interested in, and I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT SEX. Like maybe a movie. He may take you to one you're not interested in, but he is. The he returns the favor. Your evening, you get to kiss as long as you say, with no complaining from him. He just has to show up and pucker up.
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reader, lisa21  +, writes (8 September 2007):
are you two having sex? from the sound of it i dont think you are as you say you like to kiss and your boyfriend is getting bored of it, be careful he doesn't try rushing you into it if thats not what you want, i'm 21 and me and my boyfriend do have sex but both of us love kissing and cuddling more than anything, or another reason could be that maybe you are more of a touchy feely peron than he is, my ex used to be all over me, all the time and it really got on my nerves i felt so suffocated! just be careful. x x x
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (8 September 2007):
I had a girlfriend like that. Try as I might she never got over it. Fould a new girl who just love kissing me, so I married her and she bore and raised me a fine family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): Well you didn't specify if you guys have sex or not. If you guys have a NORMAL sex life but he just doesn't like kissing you too often then that could be something that you can fix. Maybe you could freshen your breath more often. Or you could change your technique and show him how sexy and good kissing really is. Or for now you could just accept his unkissing personality and just be happy that everything else is good.HOWEVER, if he doesn't kiss you AND you guys have NO sex life, (so basically he just doesn't like to be PHYSICALLY intimate you), then you have a BIGGER problem. This usually means that your bf might be gay. So if the ONLY problem is kissing and everything else is fine, that's ok and it's fixable. BUT if he doesn't kiss or touch or have sex with you BE CAREFUL. He probaly is GAY.
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