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Im from Ireland and Im 37 I am married to a fab guy for 17 years and have six children. I am currently studying to be a life coach. I hope the comments i give are of some help.
I love giving advice and have been a bit of an agony aunt for my friends for years.
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We broke up for a week and now he's with someone else and I don't know what to do...?
Q. Me and my Ex boyfriend have been dating on and off...at first we were goin out then we broke up...during the break up we went out and did things a couple would do but never claimed ourselves as one...i have been ignoring him because i feel that hes ...
A. 10 March 2007: I think he has been very unfair to you. He has a new girlfriend yet he is sending you this sort of text. He is keeping you hanging on. Being hurt like this is very hard and also seeing him with someone else must be unbearable for you. I know that ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is almost non existent, he says he's "going through something", I can't handle it much longer...
Q. I am 21 and my boyfriend is 32, we have been together for almost 2 yrs., lately our sexual activities have been few and far between. He says its because he is "going through something", I guess like a midlife crisis. But, its been like this for ...
A. 10 March 2007: Going through something isnt much of an answer. If he has some problem he has to let you in. Eight months is a long time to put up with this. Try and very sensitive when you talk to him as if he is worrying about something it may take him a while ... (read in full...)
We met online but she is 22 years older than me (40) do you think this relationship could work?
Q. Hi Im 18 and recently went on a few dates with a 40 year old women, after meating her online, i think it went really well, but do you think we will get a lot o trouble becuase of the 22year age gap? And is anyone else in a similar situation. ...
A. 10 March 2007: Im not in this situation but there was a 17year gap between my friends mum and dad.(she was older) If she makes you happy and you enjoy her company I would go for it. Life is too short to be bothered what other people think of you. Everyone has ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's possible for someone to learn to find someone attractive?
Q. Do you think its possible for someone to learn to find someone attractive? I work with this guy who I really like personality wise but im just not physically attracted to him. The other day he told me he fancies me like crazy but I didnt know what ...
A. 10 March 2007: Its only natural to want to be physically attracted to this guy. As to learning how to do this i dont think it is possible. But it is possible to see past his looks and like him for who he is not what he looks like. But what about sex does the ... (read in full...)
Everyone in the family hates me and I'm being bullied!
Q. My parents are arguing and fighting and now I am being bullied by my brother. He keeps bullying me and then my dad takes his side becoz he thinks he would live with him and I won't! My mother is an emotional sucker as well and she has no sympathy...
A. 10 March 2007: God you poor thing. My heart really goes out to you.No one deserves to live like that. I think its time for you to leave. Do you have any friends you could go and stay with? They really dont deserve to have you in their lives and by you staying ... (read in full...)
I get unnerved and disturbed by the fact that someone finds me sexually attractive.
Q. I get unnerved and disturbed by the fact that someone finds me sexually attractive. I start to form bad judgement about the person concerned. I am a single guy 25 yrs old. Please advice. ...
A. 10 March 2007: Did you always feel like this? It is normal for people to find each other attractive but if that is posing a problem for you then you must have some issues with your body? or your past? You need to address these issues before it makes you miserable ... (read in full...)
Am I doing something wrong or will we never have a trusting relationship and should i just let her go?
Q. I met my gf on a dating site 15 months ago. She was initially unresponsive, saying later it was due to the distance between us, but after persistance, she eventually emailed me back and we started talking. Ide seen her picture and read her profile, ...
A. 10 March 2007: This girl has one hell of a past and thats exactly what it is the past. She seems pretty screwed up and is making your life miserable. You have become jealous and angry with her which isnt healthy. Will you ever be able to trust her? I doubt it. ... (read in full...)
I can't understand my girlfriend just now... any advice?
Q. i'm the guy who wrote regarding my girlfriend wanting to stop seeing me for a week even though see still loves and cares for me. she said she doesn't feel good arond me at the moment that it doesn't feel right that shes not happy.i don't understand ...
A. 10 March 2007: This doesnt make any sence at all i think she is playing games with you, blowing hot and cold. I think you should call her bluff tell her you think its a great idea that you could also do with the space to maybe you could say why dont we say two ... (read in full...)
I can't understand my girlfriend just now... any advice?
Q. i'm the guy who wrote regarding my girlfriend wanting to stop seeing me for a week even though see still loves and cares for me. she said she doesn't feel good arond me at the moment that it doesn't feel right that shes not happy.i don't understand ...
A. 10 March 2007: This doesnt make any sence at all i think she is playing games with you, blowing hot and cold. I think you should call her bluff tell her you think its a great idea that you could also do with the space to maybe you could say why dont we say two ... (read in full...)
I want to go to the doctor to see about an embarrassing problem, if I took my dad could I go into see the doctor alone?
Q. Hey, i know i have foreskin that doesnt retreact a lot, i have never seen my whole penis head exposed, and have really bad smegma recently, im really concerned and want to go to the docter and maybe result to getting circumsision to make it go away, ...
A. 10 March 2007: Yes you could go in and see the doctor on your own. Explain to your dad that you want to do it that way but he will be concerned as to what the problem is. You will have to tell him what is up with you and you never know he could have had the same ... (read in full...)
Why should he be the one having the good time!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago because he cheated on me but now i have to live with him because unfortunately i was very silly having ever got together with him because he is my flatmate in halls. He's now seeing other girls and the re...
A. 10 March 2007: Youre going to have to talk to him and tell him that if you have to live together there has to be some rules. You cant stop him having other relationships but it is so hurtful for you when you see him with other women. This is such an awful ... (read in full...)
Am I too small or is this normal?
Q. I need help My penis is 2 inches long when not hard and 6 inches when hard I am 16 and 5,7 and 222 pounds is it to small...
A. 10 March 2007: No this size is perfectly normal. Alot of women dont worry about size and if they do there not worth bothering with... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is trying to kill us... HELP!!!
Q. Ello My friend broke up with his girl friend and she said that we were to be sorry were both 15 and we thought it was funny then we was walking off the bus together and a car came and swerved and almost hit us so we ran the next night I sta...
A. 10 March 2007: When you called the police did you explain your fears? If not and she keeps this up you need to go back to the police. Tell your or your friends parents or anyone who will listen to you.... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is trying to kill us... HELP!!!
Q. Ello My friend broke up with his girl friend and she said that we were to be sorry were both 15 and we thought it was funny then we was walking off the bus together and a car came and swerved and almost hit us so we ran the next night I sta...
A. 10 March 2007: When you called the police did you explain your fears? If not and she keeps this up you need to go back to the police. Tell your or your friends parents or anyone who will listen to you.... (read in full...)
He keeps saying hurtful things to me, do you think he wants to break up and this is his way of doing it?
Q. When your boyfriend is progressively pointing out your faults and says mean hurtful things, after a 3 year relationship does it mean he is trying to break up but doesn't know how to do it....
A. 10 March 2007: Whatever the reason it is not right. I dont think he is looking to get out of the relationship as there are much easier ways of doing this. Some people get a thrill out of treating others in this way. When you are in a relationship you are meant ... (read in full...)
I am confused I might be gay. I'm 14 and it is really freaking me out!
Q. I'm 14, and i have never really felt gay or questioned my sexuality, but all of a sudden, one night i just started thinking i might be gay. I don't ever walk down the street and look 4 dudes, i always look 4 chicks. I have been real depressed ...
A. 10 March 2007: Poor you, you sound in such a mess. I dont think that you are gay. You dont suddenly think you are gay. If you were gay you would have feelings towards guys. I think you are getting yourself in a state over nothing. As for watching porn what ... (read in full...)
my boyfriend's sister is a bitch and keeps nosying in our business. How can I make her back off?
Q. my boyfriends sister is a bitch! she keeps getting in me and his business and i am sick of it! she says she wasnt gonna back off!!!!! what to i do?...
A. 10 March 2007: Did you have this out with her? I think you need to speak to your boyfriend and tell him to have a word with her. If this doesnt work then just keep avoiding her. Its a hard one... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend and my best mate but the mate wants to be MORE than friends, I don't want that, what do I do?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now. when we first started going out, things were great, but things have been going downhill for a while now. Im 22, hes 23, we dont live together or have kids (thank god), i honestly can't re...
A. 10 March 2007: I think your relationship has gone stale and you are both stuck in a rut. When we are in relationships for a long period of time you get so used to each other. But you seem to be making all the effort. Relationships need work to keep going strong ... (read in full...)
I just don't know if I can trust him enough to take him back again!
Q. I have been with my bf for 4 1/2 yrs and i just had a baby girl in august. I found out that he had been cheating on me for 2 almost and got a girl pregnant. Not once but twice she had one baby and is now due in april. I have never been in this ...
A. 10 March 2007: Congratulations on your new baby, this is such a lovely time and poor you have now to put up with this. How are you coping? I really am not sure if you should take him back. i know that you love him but this isnt just a case of him having a quick ... (read in full...)
How could he of wanted to sleep with another woman if he still wanted me back?
Q. I finished a relationship a while back because i felt it lost its spark etc,it lasted 4 years but my fella wouldn't take no for an answer,anyway we have got back together because i started to miss him and wanted to work out our differences. Anyway, ...
A. 10 March 2007: Yes you are right to feel this way he has hurt you by going with another woman. But in saying that you are the one that ended things. He says he felt rejected and lonely and i would believe this. I would say he still loved you when he was going ... (read in full...)
i really love my boyfriend and i dont want to upset him. why do i feel like this all of a sudden
Q. I am almost 21 and my boyfriend is 23. we've been together for almost a year and we love each other very much. recently ive been feeling confused. our sex life is usually great but a few days ago I didnt want to have sex with him cos i just didnt...
A. 10 March 2007: I know exactly how your feeling sometimes for no reason at all we go off sex or our partners although we really still love them. Why this happens i dont know but usally the partner feels its something they have done. You know that they have done ... (read in full...)
I know going on dates will help my confidence but I'm not ready for anything serious, should I go on this date?
Q. Hi, ive been split up from my husband for nearly 8 months and i am beginning to get my life on track. One of the things ive been doing since the break up is salsa dancing, and i really enjoy it. One of the guys there has asked me out dancing at ...
A. 10 March 2007: Its great to see you are getting on with your life. I would go out with this guy you say you really like him so just see what happens. If he starts to take things too fast then you can explain to him that you are not ready for a relationship. But ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my bf! Did I do the right thing?
Q. Okay, I almost don't want to write this, coz I really want to believe that I have done the right thing and not second-guess my decision. But I do need someone's advice.. I just broke up with my boyfriend. I was, well, am 4 yrs older than him(I'm ...
A. 10 March 2007: I think you were a bit hasty in you decision. This has all gone wrong for you. You are fighting over petty little things and you can easily put this right. I think you were a little bit unfair to your boyfriend about the text. If you still love ... (read in full...)
We broke up a year ago and now we're having sex frequently. Does he love me or is he leading me on?
Q. i broke up with my Boyfriend over a year ago, he was my first serious boyfriend and we were together for just over a year, two weeks after we broke up he started seeing somebody else, they were together up until new year and have recently broke up, ...
A. 10 March 2007: To be honest i think he is leading you on. He had a girlfriend and had you on the side. Honestly i think he just wants you for sex. He didnt wait around long after you broke up to start seeing someone else and during this time he was still seeing ... (read in full...)
I dreamed my bf was stroking another girl's hair! What does it mean?
Q. hi! i had a dream about my bf last night. (we have been together for 2 and a half months and are both 16). the dream was of him stroking this girl from my schools, hair. she is very popular and would never take any interest in my bf (no offence to ...
A. 10 March 2007: This is only a dream. When we have worries they sometimes come out in our dreams but you cant make anything of it. I wouldnt think too much of this and get on and enjoy your boyfriend... (read in full...)
I'm eating more to get a more curvier look! Is this like an eating disorder?
Q. hey! im not worried about this but just curious. im 16 and have had a boyfriend for the last month and a half. whenever we hug he always feels my hips and my curvy bits (not my boobs) and stuff. now recently i have heard from a lot of people that m...
A. 10 March 2007: No i dont think this is and eating disorder. You want to change your shape for your boyfriend and its only natural to want him to like you. But i really dont think this is the answer. It very easy when you start eating more to get out of the ... (read in full...)
Just broke up with him and I'm in so much pain...please healp me!
Q. please help me, i have jst broken up with my boyfriend and in lots of pain any advice?...
A. 10 March 2007: This is horrible and i know exactly what the pain is like. I remember when i broke up with my first real love the pain was unbearable. I cried all the time and looked at his pictures all the time. I used to go to places i knew he would be just to ... (read in full...)
Should I take our daughter and leave my angry man with the short fuse?
Q. Please help! I am a my wits end. My fiance of 8 1/2 years seems so different now. He always seems to be angry and has a short fuse whenever our daughter or I make mistakes but he doesn't seem to be like that with his daughters who visit on weekends...
A. 10 March 2007: I think if you are considering leaving then things must be pretty bad. This guy is upsetting you and your daughter and acting differently around his own. This suggests to me that he can control his behaviour as he does when his kids are there. ... (read in full...)
I feel I owe it to her to tell her why her Dad abandoned her. SHould I or shouldn't I?
Q. Hi, I'll try to make this as short and painless as possible :) When I was 13, my stepfather (James) kissed me. He later apologized and said he was drunk, so I believed him. A few months later, he tried to have sex with me. That scared me, I tol...
A. 10 March 2007: I can understand how bad you are feeling about this. None of this is your fault and yet you are the one suffering the brunt of it. Crystal is very confused about the relationship with her dad and probably cant understand him.
You have to deci... (read in full...)
We argue a lot and he doesnt seem to accept that my uni work is really important to me. What should I do?
Q. ok, i have a problem. Im totally in love with my boyfriend but i now live away from home (like an hour and a half drive). we were getting on really well but we keep arguing over nothing and he doesnt seem to accept that my uni work is really ...
A. 10 March 2007: Distance relationships can be very hard and i think that yours is suffering a bit. You need to talk with him and explain how important uni is to you. Maybe you should take a little time out and both get yourselves sorted out. If you are meant to ... (read in full...)
I don't care if he's the right guy, I want to have sex! Is this wrong?
Q. Hey the thing is, im 16 and ive been kissin n doin everyfink else wif this guy i know now for bout 6 months n wen wer together we get on really well but i know hes a player and when hes not with me he messes me about(not txtin bk n things) but im ...
A. 10 March 2007: You are showing very little respect for yourself and your body. When you have sex for the first time it should be with someone you really like. Why are you in such a hurry? Find someone who will respect you and be there for you afterwards and dont ... (read in full...)
We date for awhile and then he ignores me! Is he interested ot should I just end this?
Q. I need help , I meet a guy a 3 months ago in a club he was a friend of a friend we had sex that night he took my number and called the next day there was lots of text messages phone calls etc and we meet for drinks a few days later and went back to ...
A. 10 March 2007: I think this guy is more interested in a casual relationship than anything else. He already told you this so i doubt it will lead to anything more. You will probably end up getting hurt. But if your happy with this arrangement then go for it but ... (read in full...)
Please help me, I need to get in shape for the summer!
Q. dear cupid i am fat and can not lose weight, i have lost a bit and when ever i sit down my stomach is full of flabs and ive been dieting for nearly 3 years and still haven't lost anything, excercising sit-ups u name it i tried them, but i stil...
A. 10 March 2007: if you hardly ever eat and you have been vomiting i think you should go and talk to your gp. He will be able to give you the right advice you need. You said you have this problem for over a year so i think its time to get this sorted once and for ... (read in full...)
What should I do to help my husband learn how to not lie to me??
Q. What should I do to help my husband learn how to not lie to me!???? I have been married for almost 2 years now. I truely love my husband, although these days it is getting harder and harder for me to love him as a wife is to love her husband. I ...
A. 9 March 2007: You say here that he treats you like his mother but frankly in some of the things you have said you are treating him like a child. I can understand why you are doing this you must be at your wits end. Smacking him on the cheek and making him sleep ... (read in full...)
He says he's going through a phase just now and wants a break, what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3years and have now been living together for 10months as I was always away in university. Recently he told me he thinks he wants a break.. but he was quite honest in telling me that he kinda just wants to ...
A. 9 March 2007: It cant help your situation living in such a small town with nothing to do for excitement that would drive anyone insane. I think you should let him go and find himself but the only danger here is that he may fall for someone else. I dont think ... (read in full...)
I really like him and want to know..what is going on in his head? Any tips?
Q. I really, really ,really like this guy. Weve talked a few times and he told my friend i was cute and that he would like to have a girlfriend like me. I really dont know what is going on in his head but i would like to know. So, i neeeeeeed some REAL ...
A. 9 March 2007: By saying that to your friend he was telling you that he likes you. You have to get it across to him that you like him too. Try being around places where he goes so that you can get a chance to talk to him. Maybe you could ask him out would you ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex but not sure if he wants it..what should I do?
Q. hey i am going to ask you a question my boyfriend and i have been going out for a couple of months and i am wanting to have sex with but i dont know if he wants to what should i do ...
A. 9 March 2007: Having sex under the age of sixteen is illegal but i know that this probably doesnt bother you. How old is your boyfriend? I know what its like to want to have sex with someone your hormones are racing all over the place. Talk to your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Never had a gf because I'm obsessed with the perfect woman and I lack confidence! Please help?
Q. hi, im a 17 year old male. I am an average build man, not fat, not thin, (13stone). Iv'e neva had a girlfriend because of the following reasons:- a) Im far too shy to approach a girl and speak to her. b) Im obsessed with the perfect woman,...
A. 9 March 2007: You dont need to change yourself you just need to gain some confidence. Is there such a thing as the perfect woman? I dont think so. All the girls in these magazines look totally different without there makeup or hair done. Its their job. ... (read in full...)
I'm a male virgin and I need to know...how to stop masturbating to porn!
Q. How can i stop masterbating, im a male virgin, i watch porn all the time because it makes me feel relaxed. but i really want to stop, its controlling my life, i keep gatting hard ons everywhere. how can i stop????? ...
A. 9 March 2007: You are the only one who can stop doing this. Throw out your mags and videos and find something else to help you relax. If you feel its controlling your life then its becoming a problem . Just as people get addicted to gambling alcohol etc its ... (read in full...)
She says she loves me but doesn't want to see me for a week! Any advice?
Q. My girlfriend says she loves and cares for me but our relationship doesn't feel good now she doesn't want to see me for a week. please help i don't know what to do....
A. 9 March 2007: Has she given you any reason why she doesnt want to see you. Maybe she just needs some time for herself. If she say she still loves you and cares for you then maybe things are not that bad. Every relationship has their ups and downs and maybe ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a guy but he has MOOBS!
Q. Hello I'm in love with this bloke but he has MOOBS! (That's man boobs for those of you who don't know) I don't want to sound shallow but we all know that looks play an important role in attraction. I don't care about race, colour, nationality, rel...
A. 9 March 2007: God what a dilemma i know exactly how you are feeling i used to date this guy who had really smelly feet and it used to drive me insane. I eventually had to ask him to get some advice from his doctor as i couldnt stand it. If we went out together ... (read in full...)
Please help me, I need to get in shape for the summer!
Q. dear cupid i am fat and can not lose weight, i have lost a bit and when ever i sit down my stomach is full of flabs and ive been dieting for nearly 3 years and still haven't lost anything, excercising sit-ups u name it i tried them, but i stil...
A. 9 March 2007: Tablets are a really bad idea and wont do anything for you. There is no easy way to lose weight and no magic way of doing it. You need to be very practical in your approach alot of diets out there today do more harm than good. Losing weight too ... (read in full...)
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