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Im from Ireland and Im 37 I am married to a fab guy for 17 years and have six children. I am currently studying to be a life coach. I hope the comments i give are of some help.
I love giving advice and have been a bit of an agony aunt for my friends for years.
Would love to hear your comments on some of the advice i have given.
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Please help me, I need to get in shape for the summer!
Q. dear cupid i am fat and can not lose weight, i have lost a bit and when ever i sit down my stomach is full of flabs and ive been dieting for nearly 3 years and still haven't lost anything, excercising sit-ups u name it i tried them, but i stil...
A. 10 March 2007: if you hardly ever eat and you have been vomiting i think you should go and talk to your gp. He will be able to give you the right advice you need. You said you have this problem for over a year so i think its time to get this sorted once and for ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a guy but he has MOOBS!
Q. Hello I'm in love with this bloke but he has MOOBS! (That's man boobs for those of you who don't know) I don't want to sound shallow but we all know that looks play an important role in attraction. I don't care about race, colour, nationality, rel...
A. 9 March 2007: God what a dilemma i know exactly how you are feeling i used to date this guy who had really smelly feet and it used to drive me insane. I eventually had to ask him to get some advice from his doctor as i couldnt stand it. If we went out together ... (read in full...)
How can i let a friend whose just admitted their feelings towards me down gently without hurting them or ruining our friendship?
Q. how can i let a friend whose just admitted their feelings towards me down gently without hurting them or ruining our friendship?...
A. 9 March 2007: You have to be very sensitive to his feelings as he knows you so well and you have such a good friendship he will feel very upset when you tell him. You have to be honest with him and tell him how much you value him as a friend and that he is a big ... (read in full...)
His friend is a coke addict who gets into trouble. Is it wrong for me to not want him to hang out with him?
Q. Is it wrong for me to NOT want my boyfriend to go hang out with coke addict friend for a night? My boyfriend has done coke before, but hasn't for awhile. I'm afraid if he goes and hangs out with him, he'll do it and his friend has a habit of getting ...
A. 9 March 2007: You are so right to be worried about this but unfortunately you cannot do anything to stop him. Try and talk to him and see if you can get through to him tell him how worried you are about him and its because you care about him. If he doesnt ... (read in full...)
I slept with him in order to make him like me, now it's even worse than before!
Q. hiya im 16 and female .. i really liked this boy and he didnt really like me so i thought i would sleep with him in order to make him like me...a day after he didnt talk to me.... we havent spoken for weeks..we spoke more before we had sex...what ...
A. 9 March 2007: God my heart goes out to you. This guy was a real jerk to you. Why would you sleep with someone who you know doesnt like you. Alot of guys pretend to like someone to get them to sleep with them and reject them afterwards. He didnt even pretend ... (read in full...)
Why would she do this, I can't make sense of it all... can you?
Q. Hey all any advice on this would be great! (Sorry for it being so long) My fiance and have been engaged for almost 2 years now. We had planned to get married 7-7-07, she liked the idea of the 3 7s . Everything between us I thought was going g...
A. 9 March 2007: wow that is some email. God you must be in shock as i feel this just came out of the blue. I am finding it hard to understand exactly what she wants. From what i can see she is very unhappy but you are not to blame for this. I think that she ... (read in full...)
Why would she do this, I can't make sense of it all... can you?
Q. Hey all any advice on this would be great! (Sorry for it being so long) My fiance and have been engaged for almost 2 years now. We had planned to get married 7-7-07, she liked the idea of the 3 7s . Everything between us I thought was going g...
A. 9 March 2007: wow that is some email. God you must be in shock as i feel this just came out of the blue. I am finding it hard to understand exactly what she wants. From what i can see she is very unhappy but you are not to blame for this. I think that she ... (read in full...)
Please help me, I need to get in shape for the summer!
Q. dear cupid i am fat and can not lose weight, i have lost a bit and when ever i sit down my stomach is full of flabs and ive been dieting for nearly 3 years and still haven't lost anything, excercising sit-ups u name it i tried them, but i stil...
A. 9 March 2007: Tablets are a really bad idea and wont do anything for you. There is no easy way to lose weight and no magic way of doing it. You need to be very practical in your approach alot of diets out there today do more harm than good. Losing weight too ... (read in full...)
His mates have put a bet on with him as to whether I'll have sex with him or not!
Q. Im 15, 16 in december. My boyfriend is nearly 17. We really like each other and i dont think i have ever felt like this with a guy before. We are very open with each other and are both virgins.I was thinking about losing my virginity to him once we ...
A. 9 March 2007: I dont think that your boyfriend was in on the bet but you cant be sure that he wouldnt tell them afterwards. I think he is very immature and has alot of growning up to do. Having sex before 16 is against the law so i would hold off for that reason ... (read in full...)
He's been sleeping on the couch now for a year, he says because of his accident but I don't know what to think...
Q. Help! My fiance and I have been living together for 8 1/2 years. We have 1 child together, I also have two other children as does he. Anyhow about a year and a half ago he was in a serious 4-wheeler accident and since then he no longer sleeps o...
A. 9 March 2007: Poor you, has his injuries cleared up or is he still suffering from the crash. Whatever the reason a year is a very long time for you not to share a bed. Maybe he needs some emotional help. Have you spoken to him about it? I think you have been ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish wanting to wait or is she trying to control my life?
Q. I am 21 and this is my 2nd real relationship the last one lasted 5 years before we sort of moved apart (they were a lot older then me). i was in love and we had a great time, we were committed but i always enjoyed freedom to spend with other friends ...
A. 9 March 2007: I dont think that you are being selfish at all. This woman is trying to take control of your life and if you have a baby with her you are playing right into her hands. You need to stand up to her and tell her that your friend has been in your life ... (read in full...)
I want more than just friendship with her, how can I tell her this?
Q. I think im in love with my best friend. We've been friends sice probably infants school and are now both in year 11 at school. I'm 16 shes 15. I first startd having feelings for her back in juniors but it was more of justr wanting to be with her all ...
A. 9 March 2007: I think that you should tell her how you feel and that you have been worried about telling her incase she doesnt feel the same. Tell her how long you have felt this way but you dont want to lose her as a friend if she doesnt feel the same. I have ... (read in full...)
We're much better off now but I still act as if we're living on a shoe string budget. How can I stop feeling like this?
Q. Hi. I'll try to make this breif :) My fiancee and I live together, and thus we share the finances. He recently got a new job and a promotion to Case Manager, which means he makes 14$ an hour. He works 30-40 hours overtime also, and so is bringing h...
A. 9 March 2007: Im so glad that life is improving and you have more money now. Its nice to have a little extra cash to splash around but i really dont think you need to change your ways. Its good practice to be thrifty and save money as you never know whats around ... (read in full...)
We're much better off now but I still act as if we're living on a shoe string budget. How can I stop feeling like this?
Q. Hi. I'll try to make this breif :) My fiancee and I live together, and thus we share the finances. He recently got a new job and a promotion to Case Manager, which means he makes 14$ an hour. He works 30-40 hours overtime also, and so is bringing h...
A. 9 March 2007: Im so glad that life is improving and you have more money now. Its nice to have a little extra cash to splash around but i really dont think you need to change your ways. Its good practice to be thrifty and save money as you never know whats around ... (read in full...)
She still wants to be friends but still wants to be single... how do I cope with this?
Q. my x girlfriend says she still has feelings for me but wants to be single i told her i couldnt be her friend ave invited her to mine on tue should i tell her that i want her back at the risk of her saying no she still wants to be single but she ...
A. 9 March 2007: Its hard i know but this girl has told you she wants to be Single. She has been honest with you and I think if you tell her you want to get back with her you will push her away. I think for the moment you should just be friends and be there for ... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me before, how do I know he won't do it again?
Q. ive been with my boyfreind two years we met while still at school, i love him with all my heart and want to be with him forever. he's cheated on me before how do i know he won't do it again?...
A. 9 March 2007: To be honest you dont know. Very few guys plan to cheat on their partners so if you have forgiven him for the past then leave it in the past and concentrate on the future.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how I feel or just ignore it and get over it?
Q. My best friend is like a brother to me and everyone says how cute we look together, but we've always treated it as a joke and kept on playing around. But lately iv'e been really getting attached to him and i have a huge crush on him. I really like ...
A. 9 March 2007: The reason you are starting to feel this way is your body and mind are changing. Before you saw him as just a friend and now as things are starting to change for you you are beginning to see him as a boy and not just a friend. Keep enjoying each ... (read in full...)
Why do people hurt partners, cheat, or just disappear?
Q. Why do people hurt partners, cheat, or just disappear?...
A. 9 March 2007: There are so many reasons why people cheat on their partners usually they fall for someone else. Why people disappear again would have many reasons each situation would usually be different. Sometimes love just falls apart and one person wants to ... (read in full...)
We've been living together 20 years but no sex, was tempted with a friend, would it be so wrong?
Q. I have been living with my partner for over 20 years. We were married for the first 6 years. We get on very well (but there is no sexual relationship - just do not fancy him in that way!) Was almost tempted some while ago with a new friend who I am...
A. 9 March 2007: I see no harm in this at all. This set up is very unusual and very rare. Why are you still in this relationship is he more like a brother or friend that you feel secure with. Whatever your reasons go for it with your friend and get some spice ... (read in full...)
I asked him out and he turned me down!!!! Now I don't know what to do re our relationship?
Q. Hey guys am in a bit of a slump right now... I meet this really really amazing guy a few mounths back and we got on really well but he was goin out with my best mate... they split up around 4 months ago and he kept coming on to me just aft...
A. 9 March 2007: God this guy is a real jerk. He was leading you on and what he did was really mean. Not going out with someone because they are in-experienced it a pathetic excuse. Forget him and concentrate on finding someone who will appreciate you for who you ... (read in full...)
Was he cheating and lying to me or am I just being paranoid?
Q. i may have found out my b/f lied through him giving me information. He is able to take a day off in the middle of the business week and work saturdays.. He told me today if he is going to do that, he needs to be pretty much dressed as if he is going ...
A. 9 March 2007: This is a very complicated set up. To be honest if this is all you have to go on I wouldnt say there is anything up. Maybe he didnt hear the phone. Why are you so suspicious of him? has he given you reason to doubt him? Whatever the reason you ... (read in full...)
When do you know you can trust them again?
Q. I have a partner who has been caught out by me lying. Several times I have snooped because i thought there was something going on. I am confident that he has never cheated on me, but he cant seem to let go of the girls before me. Now that he has ...
A. 9 March 2007: I dont think you will ever really trust him again. If you found he was lying to you that will always be at the back of your mind. You said he cant let go of girls before you what do you mean by this, is he texting, email? I think you have to ... (read in full...)
Any ideas for some raunchy texts to send to my bloke? Whenever I write something it just sounds stupid.
Q. I am seeing this bloke who is 10 years older than me and we have a fantastic love life, but he has started to ask me to send him raunchy txt's and say wot i want to do to him, i would love to but everytime i try and write sumtin it sounds stupid or ...
A. 9 March 2007: You sound like your very happy in this great relationship. I know exactly what your saying. I have been married 17 years and know my husband inside out but if he asked me to send him raunchy texts I would feel really stupid. I suppose you could ... (read in full...)
Do you think it was a wise move that I gave her my number?
Q. Dear All I'm currently in the first steps to (what I hope to be) my first relationship. I recently asked my lover for her number and she gave it to me. I text her previously and received no reply as she was unable to do so, which is understandabl...
A. 9 March 2007: You dont say why she cant text you back.. I think you need to pull back on this one. If she is not answering your messages then she is trying to tell you something. She knows how you feel about her so leave it to her to make the next move if she ... (read in full...)
She's hedging on our relationship and I want to win her back! Any suggestions?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for three and a half years now, and like any couple we have had our ups and downs. It is a long distance relationship, we are both from the same hometown, but go to different universities (4 hours apart). I visit her ...
A. 9 March 2007: Any long distance relationship is hard as you dont get to see each other as much as you like. You seem to really love this girl but im not sure if she feels the same any more. I think that saying you can have sex when you see each other is unfair. ... (read in full...)
He has erectile issues and previous gf's have cheated on him. Now he thinks I will dump him..what should I do?
Q. I have been dating a man for about 6 months. We have probably had intercourse 5 or 6 times. Mostly we just fool around - he says he has erectile issues. He made an appointment to seek help but then cancelled and rescheduled it for months out. ...
A. 9 March 2007: This guy is extremely insecure and needs some help. I dont know what he is playing at. If he loves you he would want to make you happy and he knows that by going to get help he would do this. I think he is expecting you to leave but he is ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my heart or move on?
Q. Today i almost got killed when i was at work. the only thing that i could think of was my ex girlfriend. we broke up 5 weeks ago and ive been thinking about trying to get back together with her before this happened. and now i dont know if i should ...
A. 9 March 2007: Go for it if you have overcome the reason why you broke up in the first place. Try having a chat with her and see how she feels about getting back together. ... (read in full...)
Do you think that men and women can be just "good friends"?
Q. My male friend and I hit it off immediately when we met through friends a couple of years ago. Since then we have become really good friends. We're constantly laughing, we're one of the first people we tell everything to, we confide in each other ...
A. 9 March 2007: You are so lucky to have such a great friendship. Dont worry what others say you have proved them all wrong. Enjoy it and good luck
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Should i text him again although its been a month saying that i want to be mates with him or should i try and forget him?
Q. hi all im really stuck me and this guy a few months ago meet up and talked and seemed to get on well , we met up a few times and drank and chat and become mates , but after a few meets we ended up having sex and we still decided to stay mates ...
A. 9 March 2007: I dont think that texting him will do any good. He has moved on and met someone else. I think that you should do the same especially as you have such strong feeling for him. I know you miss him terribly but in time you will get over him.... (read in full...)
I cheated on my gf with another guy and I dont know how to tell her!!
Q. I think im addicted to anal sex, and even worse with men! Recently i was wastching some porn and they were having anal sex. I asked my gf if she wanted to try it, she eventually said yes. That night we tried it, lube and everything, all it made ...
A. 9 March 2007: How do you think she is going to react? Hurt furious the list goes on and on. I think you are in a real situation here not only have you cheated on your gf but you cheated with a guy. When you did this with your girlfriend you said she screamed ... (read in full...)
Only been together 4 months and I really dont feel special to him anymore!!
Q. i need some advice. my boyfriend and i have only been together for 4 months. after the first week it started going down hill. before he asked me out he would send me thousands of text messages everyday just telling me he is thinking about me.. and ...
A. 9 March 2007: I know that you really care for this guy but is he really worth it. It sounds to me that he is having much more fun with his band and friends and leaving you out suits him. To be honest Im sure its worth fighting for.You have tried talking to him ... (read in full...)
Why do I act ignorant of girls??
Q. I get signals from many women about their desire to get close with me, but i tend to act ignorant about it and don't give it any importance. I don't know why would i keep doing this, i mean i have this virginity thing in mind? ...
A. 9 March 2007: Well if you have the virginity thing in mind you need to start being a little bit nicer. Do you feel nervous around girls and put this front up as a barrier. Just relax and if you see a girl is interested in you and you feel the same go for it. ... (read in full...)
How do I get to know the guy I like better??
Q. I'm 15 and i don't have any experience with guys, except friendships. since i'm quiet, i don't really talk to people except when i have to. I also feel worthless and overweight. However, my family and friends say that i'm mature, responsi...
A. 9 March 2007: You sound like a great person. Getting to know guys at your age is so hard to do. And some guys just dont seem interested. You need a little more confidence so try talking to a boy that you dont fancy and try and strike up a friendship.You are ... (read in full...)
I orgasm very quickly. Is there a way to prolong this?
Q. I orgasm very quickly during sex. Is there any way to help this??...
A. 9 March 2007: Maybe you are getting too aroused before you have sex. Try to take things a little slower and maybe shorten the time you spend on foreplay.
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I have a tape recording of my husband having sex with the girl next door. Can I clear the noise up for clarity?
Q. I got a tape recording of my husband and the girl next door doing it, I show it him and he said he dose not no what it is there is a lot of white nosie in it I just want to know it there is anything I can do to clean it up there it a lot more on it ...
A. 9 March 2007: You can get it done through a specialist company but frankly i would be mortified giving that to anyone. Why do you want to do this you said you know its them doing it why torture yourself any more? What made you record it in the first place you ... (read in full...)
How do you break up with someone without hurting them ?
Q. How do you break up with someone, after being in love, without destroying them? They still feel it for you as strong as ever, and you still love and care about them, and don't want to hurt them...? TaMuch...
A. 9 March 2007: There is no easy way of breakig up with someone without hurting them. Its part of life and most of us will experience at some stage. The main thing you can do is to be sensitive and honest and tell her that you would like at some stage maybe not ... (read in full...)
I love my gf, but my ex who helped me through so much is back on the scene, what should I do ?
Q. My girlfriend and I had decided to move in together in September this year, when I move to go to university. We've been together for 7 months, and by September it will be Over a year. Both of us have had doubts but we came to the conclusion that ...
A. 9 March 2007: I would not under any circumstances let your girlfriend move in with you if you have any doubts at all. She would be giving everything up for this relationship and you knowing how you feel about this other girl should not let her go through with ... (read in full...)
Is he the right guy for me? He seems to show some interest, but not sure exactly.
Q. Hello - I wonder if somone can advise me: I have recently started some dance classes. At the beginning the thought of getting into a relationship with the teacher there did not cross my mind. However I am now getting distint vibes that he likes me...
A. 9 March 2007: He is sending you very confusing signals which I would be a bit concerned about. Twenty to thirty years older than you is a major gap. If you have not had much experience with relationships I would possibly try and avoid this one. You say he gets ... (read in full...)
Shes avoiding me and I dont know why, should I try and talk to her again !?
Q. Hi, There's this girl that I've liked for a while, but never had the guts to talk to her...until recently. She's a shy girl just like I thought, and I'm a pretty shy guy too =/ Nonetheless, I atleast got her name and got to know her a bit better...
A. 9 March 2007: I would try and talk to her and ask her if everything is ok. If she is shy maybe she is abit scared of getting to know you. Maybe by letting her know that you would like to hang out abit as friends would ease things a bit. If she doesnt want to ... (read in full...)
Should I take the plunge with my friend ? the Sexual tension is mounting, but would this ruin it ?
Q. A dear friend of mine have this unspoken thing for oneanother. I dont want to ruin our friendship but i have had a serious crush on her for a long time now and its apparent she does too. So much so our friendship is boarderline awkward as a result ...
A. 9 March 2007: You have said that things are awkard at the moment so your relationship is starting to suffer already. But if you really fancy her and she feels the same then you should take the plunge and go for it. You never know you may end up in a fantastic ... (read in full...)
He wants to break up with me to think things over, Does he not love me or does he want to date other girls ??
Q. Hey, I have a problem which has recently reli been getting me down. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and he is now saying that he is contemplating breaking up with me, because he needs time to think about things. But i knw im only young bu...
A. 9 March 2007: You cant force someone to love you he has to find that for himself. If he needs space then you should give it to him and let him work things out. I know this will be very hard for you to do as you love him so much but its the only fair thing to ... (read in full...)
I dont want to get rejected, can you tell by eye contact if she likes you!?
Q. i really like this girl. sometimes i feel like asking her out, but i'm not sure if she likes me. i dont wanna get rejected! i want to go somewhere with, she will bring her mate along. but dunno how to ask. we barely talk in school but talk fine on ...
A. 9 March 2007: You usually get vibes from someone if they like you eg flirting, body language and yes eye contact? does she smile at you alot? Being rejected is hard to deal with and does little for your confidence you you have to experience rejectiona at some ... (read in full...)
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