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writes:I am almost 21 and my boyfriend is 23. we've been together for almost a year and we love each other very much.recently ive been feeling confused. our sex life is usually great but a few days ago I didnt want to have sex with him cos i just didnt feel like it. as he is a sensitive soul, he got really paranoid that i was going off him. it took a while to convince him otherwise and we sorted it out but the argument made me feel weird about everything. i dont have any real desire to see him at the moment, i just feel dead.he is my second boyfriend and this is the 2nd longest relationship i've had. my last relationship deteriorated because i "went off" the guy. I was 17 so i put it down to being young.i realise i'm still young but i really love my boyfriend and i dont want to upset him. why do i feel like this all of a sudden?help! please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): hi, i have played the field already and i know he's the one i'm supposed to be with cos i don't want o to be with anyone else.i gave it time. i'm very happy now, i know why i love him. i think it was a little case of that dreaded pmt.thank you all for your advice, it was very helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): Yeah I feel like that tooI'm thirteen right (don't think bad of me) and my boyfriend's going to turn 16 in April.we love eachother soooooooooooo much! he's the 'one'for me. We haven't had the real sex however we do play with each other in bed. we have had alot of jokes, arguments and ups and downs. Sometimes I think that I hate him but I think you should give a rest for a while. break up or just not see each other for about a month or two and see how both of you feel.If after the couple of months you start missing him, then it just means that you do love him but you're a bit bored! If you don't miss him, it means that you've loved him for too loong and need some one new.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2007): It sounds like you are bored already. Remember you are still so young and don't have to settle down so quickly. Why don't you play the court more before settling down with marriage and kids?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2007): Sounds as though you're feeling depressed, that can sometimes make you not want sex. Just give yourself a little time, are there any areas in your life causing you anxiety? Exams, work or money problems?
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (10 March 2007):
 I know exactly how your feeling sometimes for no reason at all we go off sex or our partners although we really still love them. Why this happens i dont know but usally the partner feels its something they have done. You know that they have done nothing to upset you but convincing them is a different story. And really you can understand where they are coming from you would feel the same in his shoes. Is there anything else on you mind that could be making you feel this way. I find that sometimes i for no reason just feel very down on myself and dead inside. If after a week or so you are still feeling like this maybe have some space from your boyfriend and see if you can get yourself back on track.
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aunty t
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