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writes:I am 21 and my boyfriend is 32, we have been together for almost 2 yrs., lately our sexual activities have been few and far between. He says its because he is "going through something", I guess like a midlife crisis. But, its been like this for almost 8 months! I don't know if I can handle it much longer... Please, if anyone has some advice
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (11 March 2007):
 Is it only your sex life with him that's suffering or are other avenues in your relationship suffering too? Okay, let's look at the possibilities - It may be he's seeing someone else and is getting it from her so doesn't need or want it from you. It may also be that genuinely suffering from a lack of libido due to stress of some sort, maybe his work is getting him down or he has another problem worrying him. It could also be that he might feel embarrassed about something on the sex front, could be he has ED (Erectile Dysfunction) problems, maybe he finds it hard to get aroused, maybe he just doesn't fancy you any more sexually.
Whatever the reason, there IS a reason and you need to find out what it is. Speak to him about it when you think the time is right. Tell him how much you love him and how much you miss being able to show him physically. Ask him if anything is bothering him and if so to open up about it as you only want to help. Hopefully with a bit of tlc he'll be able to let you know once and for all what the problem is. Only THEN will you be able to rectify it.
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reader, Angel-Face +, writes (10 March 2007):
 i think you should sit him down and ask him whats going on in his head if he doesnt tell you anything take him to a terpist.hes abit young to have a mid-life crists
but he might have a problem in his head or sometings going on
hope it hlps
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reader, shania +, writes (10 March 2007):
 Its a bit premature for your boyfriend to have a mid life crisis as he's only 32,that sort of thing only happens when you reach 40 and onwards.You deserve to know what's going on in his head as you have been together for 2 years,so dont be fobbed off with half baked excuses.I think 8 months is far too long to put up with this kind of behaviour so i suggest you sit him down and ask him whats bothering him and see if you can work it out otherwise i can see this relationship going down the pan.Good luck.
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (10 March 2007):
 Going through something isnt much of an answer. If he has some problem he has to let you in. Eight months is a long time to put up with this. Try and very sensitive when you talk to him as if he is worrying about something it may take him a while to open up to you. But after nearly 2 years together you are owed some sort of explanation.
Best of luck
Aunty t
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