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Im from Ireland and Im 37 I am married to a fab guy for 17 years and have six children. I am currently studying to be a life coach. I hope the comments i give are of some help.
I love giving advice and have been a bit of an agony aunt for my friends for years.
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I am in a long distance relationship but my girlfriend seems to have changed. How can I get her to open up and talk?
Q. Dealing with a long distance relationship that has a become a lot less affectionate and expressive is very hard for me. After a few months of amazing happiness my girlfriend has changed. She is very busy with work, grade school on weekends and tons ...
A. 8 March 2007: I really feel for you and can understand why you are feeling depressed. You are not getting anywhere with this issue. I sthink she is trying to tell you something, maybe this relationship has run its course. Long distance relationships are very ... (read in full...)
How can I feel better about myself? I feel as if I'm not good enough for my fiancee.
Q. i feel like im not good enough for my fiancee. he treats me like a princess and worships the ground i walk on. everything he does he puts me first im the main thing in his life. my past relationships were very abusive so i became used to abuse so a ...
A. 8 March 2007: God how lucky are you? This guy adores you and treats you so well. You have issues from your previous relationships which has knocked your confidence. You are good enough for your fiancee and be thankful he wants to make you happy. You really ... (read in full...)
How can I control my jealousy? His daughter, I feel is bang out of order here.
Q. Im a 27 yr old women whos been going out with a 39 yr old man for almost two years now. We are deeply in love and pretty much happy. I am a very jealous person, and I need some advice on the reasonability of my jealousy. He has a 16 yr old daughter ...
A. 8 March 2007: This is very hard for you to deal with especially as others are bringing it to your attention. I would say your boyfriend doesnt see what you are getting annoyed about and probably doesnt have a problem with it. You said you are very jealous. Do ... (read in full...)
Can you tell me what the law says about a 15 year old female dating a 17 year old male?
Q. I need to settle an 'argument'!! Can you tell me what the law says about a 15 year old female dating a 17 year old male? Not asking about sexual side, just, does the law say that just dating is illegal for the ages mentioned?...
A. 8 March 2007: It is perfectly legal for 15yr old to date a 17yr old. The problem arises when sex is involved and one is underage. There is absolutely no lawing banning two individuals from dating.
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I feel isolated and lonely with no friends but it's okay for him to go and on the razzle!
Q. Good Day, I am 20yrs old and I have been with my boyfriend for just about a year now, our relationship was so healthy for about the first 10mths, now recently the sex life and affection, etc. has just seemed to fade. In the beginning when h...
A. 8 March 2007: I think he is being a tad unfair to you. I also think that this realationship is suffering. Im not sure if there is much to salvage. If he wanted to be with you he would. There seem to be some difficulties surrounding going out. You are quite ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with her any more but don't know how to tell her. Please help.
Q. iv been with my gilrfriend for three and a half years now but iv fallen out of love with her she is always wanting to know where i am what im doing and who im with i told her about it before and she changed for a week then went back to her old way i ...
A. 8 March 2007: You are doing yourself no favours by dragging this out. You need to sit her down and tell her its over and you want to move on. Dont put it off you have made your decision. Telling someone its over is very hard to do but you need to do it now. ... (read in full...)
When a girl says she loves me but ignores her feelings for me because she is engaged - what does she mean?
Q. One for the ladies - your opinions please! When a girl says she loves me but ignores her feelings for me because she is engaged - what does she mean? I know she loves me and she knows i love her but she will not admit it to herself and has said to ...
A. 8 March 2007: I think you are wasting your time with this one. She is engaged and obviously wants to stay that way. She may have feelings for you but she is ignoring them. Engaged or not if she wanted to be with you she would. She is not playing fair with you ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get closer to him?
Q. well most of you know about the boy thats on sniff and sleeps around that in falling in love with, its git worswe we used to ring eachother all the time and talk sometimes it go and meet him but we didnt do anything , so he got bored moved on to ...
A. 8 March 2007: It is very hard when you are attracted to someone and you dont know how they feel about you. This guy seems very messed up and I would advise you to steer clear of him. When you are on drugs your head and moods are all over the place so if you did ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and had sex with a lad in the school toilets, now I think I'm pregnant and don't know what to do?
Q. Hey, Ive just done something wrong.. I just had sex with a lad in my class.. We were in science lesson at school and I noticed he was masturbating and I told him that I could see him and he told me to ask for the loo and meet him outside in 5 mins.. ...
A. 8 March 2007: God poor you this is such an unfortunate thing to happen to you. You need to talk to someone about this who will give you options. Could you talk to your parents or a relative you could confide in. Dont keep this to yourself. You dont need to ... (read in full...)
Why do you think he's ignoring me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I really like this boy in my year but i don't know if he likes me or not. Whenever i am on msn i talk to him but he doesn't reply. I have'nt done anything wrong, well at least i don't think i have. Why do you thik he's ignoring me? than...
A. 8 March 2007: If he is not replying to you then unfortunately I would say he is not interested and you are wasting your time. I would say he knows how you feel about him and if he wanted to get to know you he would reply. Sometimes when we fancy someone it is ... (read in full...)
How can I stop looking at too much porn?
Q. Help, i look at porn and i am just 13. i need to stop because it is slowly eating away at me. I know god hates it. Any advice plz....
A. 8 March 2007: This is very healthy at your age to watch porn and be curious about sex. But it is worrying you and is obviously becoming a problem. Alot of people become addicted to porn and then there is a problem. Dont let it take over your life. You have ... (read in full...)
What should I do here... stick with the boyfriend and ditch the lover?
Q. Trapped between 2 men Hello there I ve been with my bf for 5 years, last 3 of them we are living together. Last couple years i ve started feeling very unhappy, although its not really my partner's fault. I still love him very much, but its a differ...
A. 8 March 2007: Ditch them both. Neither are doing you any favours. Your boss is using you and probably has no intention of settling down with you. He will tell you anything to satisfy his needs. Your boyfriends has told you he doesnt want kids etc. so get out ... (read in full...)
He has a 13 year old daughter and I feel so jealous, I want him all to myself and don't want her near me!
Q. Children as a big turn-off! My lover has got a 13 years old daughter from a previous marriage. I find it xtremely difficult to get used to the idea she is number 1 in his life. I feel very jealous and dont want anything to do with her. I am asking h...
A. 8 March 2007: Yes you are not doing yourself any favours by staying in this relationship. Children are for life so there is no chance of this man choosing you over his daughter. You are not happy and if you cant accept that you have to share him with his ... (read in full...)
He treats her like a piece of meat...how do I stand up to him???
Q. To anyone, I am 15 to and 5,9 and 180 pounds brown hair hazel eyes and glasses.I go to church about 4 times a week.I belive in proper manners and to be polite to every one around you.In this day and age not many girls like a guy like me I dont dri...
A. 8 March 2007: I dont think that you should get involved with this guy as you will come out worse. She will realise eventually what he is really like. It is hard to see someone else being treated in this way but really it is not up to you to interfere. This ... (read in full...)
His ex says she is pregnant but she is a compulsive lier!
Q. My boyfriend's ex girlfriend keeps calling us, stating shes pregnant with his baby, and wants him to go sign some papers to grant her full custody of the baby. This girl is supposly only 2 months pregnant, if she is pregnant at all.. She is a compul...
A. 8 March 2007: I agree with what you told him. You would not sign any papers until the baby is born and he is sure that the baby is his. I feel she is using emotional blackmail and probably isnt very happy with the two of you being together. You should tell him ... (read in full...)
It's killing me not knowing how he feels.
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years recently told me he needed space. He just turned 25 and I am 21 close to 22. He has a roommate that wont allow me in the house when he is home which makes it difficult to spend time with him sometimes. Its been about a ...
A. 8 March 2007: You are both very young. I really think he does like you but wants to other things without you. This is very understandable and you should start doing things without him. It gives you space from each other and gives you other things to talk about ... (read in full...)
Why does she come in and out of my life??
Q. hey ladies, Any help will do. Well here it goes I was with my ex girlfriend for about a year and a half when all of a sudden she broke up with me for no reason at all. She changed her number on me and just vanished from my life. After about 2 months...
A. 8 March 2007: She is treating you very badly. I doubt its anything to do with your size. She is using you until something better comes along and you are letting her away with it. You sound like a very kind person but you need to stop this now. You need to ... (read in full...)
I don't think he fancies me although I do think he loves me.
Q. I've been with my fella 3 years and he used to masterbate every night before we lived together...i make all the moves towards sex, dress up, touch him up, let him know how sexy i find him.... but only get a response when he has drink and drugs.... i ...
A. 8 March 2007: I feel he is stuck in a rut. You feel you are putting on a bit of weight and you are only a size 10. Thats a great size to be. Its you who is putting in all the effort and getting nothing in return. We all need to feel loved and made special. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I am mad at him??
Q. I don't know what to call him...okay well him and I were seeing each other for a while and then we decided to to take a break bc he needed to get his head straight.... He said he needed time and I was more than willing to give him that. Little d...
A. 8 March 2007: I think he is messing with your head and feelings. It sounds very complicated. If he wanted to be with you he would but I get the feeling he just wants to be friends. Let him see how strong you are as you seem to have come through the worst of it ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance? How do I get his true love back?
Q. Hey. I have a problem. I'm 18. May be you would find it naive because I'm too yang and stuff, but I really need help here. Me and my (now ex) boyfriend (he's 21 now) dated for 10 month, we loved each other a lot and from the begining, as longer ...
A. 8 March 2007: I understand how your feeling but you should really listen to what you are saying. You are going to wait around until his feelings change and he falls in love with you again. I think he is leading you on. You know in your heart what the answer ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to spend more time with me and the kids?
Q. I have been married to my husband for nearly 12 years and we have been together since I was 14. We have 3 young children. He plays darts on a grand scale and it seems to be the one thing we always fall out about. He puts it before me and the kids ...
A. 8 March 2007: You must get strong girl. He is spending money that you dont have to spend. He is being very selfish and is neglecting you and the kids. If you let him away with it he will keep doing it. Its up to you to put him straight. Would he be happy to ... (read in full...)
Mytwo year needs bottles to keep him asleep all night! What can I do?
Q. i have a 2yr old and he is still drinking bottle through the night he is drinking 6 bottles and its the only way i can get him to stay asleep alnight help...
A. 8 March 2007: By the age of two your child should be sleeping through the night. He should also be drinking from a cup. This is often easier said than done. You need to get him into a strict bedtime routine. I have raised six children have learned through ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my relatives I'm gay???
Q. Im 17 years old and up until now i have never really dated a girl. Since i was about 11 or 12 i had tryed things with girls but never thought i could do it myself. My bestfriend now moved to my school and he was gay... i talked to him about my...
A. 7 March 2007: I would advise you to leave it alone. What will you gain from telling them and if you feel that they will freak out then they probably will. You dont see them very often and it may cause an unwanted rift in the family. Im not saying by any means ... (read in full...)
How do I get my man to get a higher libido!?
Q. My boyfriend seems to have an usually low libido. When we do have sex it is always passionate, but we have it very infrequent, sometimes only once a month. When I ask him he'll say he doesn't want it to loose it's meaning or that he doesn't want ...
A. 7 March 2007: You are not ugly or unspecial but I can understand how you would feel this way. Often things just get into a routine and maybe he is afraid this will happen with your sex life. Maybe you should try and spice things up by trying having sex in other ... (read in full...)
Am I sacrificing far too much for him, without him even noticing or caring? Any Advice?
Q. I'm really in love with my boyfriend (Ex-boyfriend?) but we argue all the time. Right now, we've broken up, but when this happens before, we get back together within 48 hours. The problem is that he doesn't give me the choice. I mean, I chose to...
A. 7 March 2007: Get rid of him. You say he loves you and then you say he wants you to change. So what you are saying is he doesnt love you the way you are. You may not realise it now but giving up your friends is not a good idea. You are giving giving giving and ... (read in full...)
I invited her and her husband over for dinner. She seems jealous of me..what is going on with her?
Q. I have a co-worker that w/time she has become my friend. A few months ago I finally met her husband. Before my gf used to invite me to her house all the time, now that her husband is off when we are off she want to meet me elsewhere. I invited her ...
A. 7 March 2007: It seems like she has some issues with her husband. Maybe its him she doesnt trust. She may feel threatened by you and is afraid of what her husband may do. She seems a bit insecure and jealous. If it becomes an issue with you maybe you could try ... (read in full...)
My gf drinks too much and treats me badly! Should I stay or leave?
Q. My girlfriend drinks excessively and then treats me bad. In the year we have been dating she has thrown a plastic cup in my face, came to visit me and left for the whole day to party with her friends b/c she got pissed and then called me crying ...
A. 7 March 2007: You need to end this now. She is not the girl for you. If she hurt you once you could forgive her but she has done it over and over again. It seems she is very selfish and is using emotional blakmail to try and get you back. She doesnt deserve ... (read in full...)
I was wondering if she thinks I'm cute? She always smiles and flirts around me.
Q. I have know this girl for about two years and I was wandering if she thinks I am cute. She always smiles at me and flirts around but I dont know and I am also afriad I am to old for her she is 13 1/2 and I am 15 1/2...
A. 7 March 2007: It sounds like she does like you. You will never find out unless you take the bull by the horns and ask her out. What have you got to lose? Keep it casual maybe bowling or cinema. As far as the age goes I dont think its much of an issue but it ... (read in full...)
My ex is friends with my current boyfriend but told him he still liked me so he dumped me and I'm devestated!
Q. plz help..my head is wrecked!! i was with a guy 4 two years and was madly in love but then he became 2 possesive and i couldnt handle it so i finished wit him..we both moved on..5 months later we get close again i realise hes changed and fall 4 him ...
A. 7 March 2007: God what a mess. I think your ex wants it all for himself. He didnt really want you but he didnt want his friend to have you either. His friend sounds like a nice guy and probably didnt want to lose the friendship so he gave you up instead. It ... (read in full...)
I feel like I've lost him and I'm in tears...
Q. hey , I dont think My boyfriend likes me anymore.. At first we couldnt keep our hands of each other but he moved house and he lives next door to lots of girls around the same age as us. One of them the same age as me keeps syaing horrible things ...
A. 7 March 2007: This is awful for you. I know that you probably dont want to hear this but he is not for you. You sound like a very caring girl and I wouldnt waste any more time worrying about him, it is his loss. Let him see your not bothered even if you are. ... (read in full...)
He says his feelings towards me have changed but I would marry him in a heartbeat. Should I stick around and work on things or just go ahead and pull the plug now?
Q. I moved in with my boyfriend about 5 months ago. He used to tell me that he wanted to be with just me and knew he would marry me one day. Since we moved in we have been arguing a lot more and he recently told me that he did not think he could marry ...
A. 7 March 2007: Things often change when you move in with someone. You have to get used to seeing them all of the time and putting up with their habits. You havent been living together long so what is the hurry with marriage? If you are fighting alot of the ... (read in full...)
I know I want to be with her
Q. Hi. I know a lot of people ask these types of questions here, but every one of us has an experience that is just a tad different. For starters, I am a 24 year old male, married with a 5 year old little boy and a little girl on the way. I have been ...
A. 7 March 2007: There is no point in staying in a marriage if you are not happy. You said you want to be with her and have always loved her. You did not speak about your wife in the same way. I would hate to think my husband wanted to be with someone else but ... (read in full...)
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