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Do I have the dreaded "pencil dick"? What do you all think?

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Question - (29 October 2006) 14 Answers - (Newest, 26 April 2010)
A male , anonymous writes:

Is my penis too thin? My penis measures 4.5 inches around when I'm erect and I've heard 5 inches the average. I'm worried because I've read women care more about girth than they do length. Am I OK here or do I have the dreaded "pencil dick?"

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A male reader, DenverGuy United States +, writes (26 April 2010):

Don't worry, you are average. A recent study by a Brazilian urologist found the average erect circumference to be 4.7 inches. So you are totally average! Nothing to worry about.

I think it has to be pretty darn thin to qualify as "pencil dick." You at least have the average thickness going for you, whereas mine isn't thick, and still no woman has ever called it a "pencil dick." A few have commented about its size and some do prefer thicker, but with your average thickness I doubt anyone will complain.

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A male reader, gadfly_in_your_drink United States +, writes (24 November 2008):

I think 4.5 inches in circumference would not be a true pencil dick. I have always heard that a "pencil dick" is a penis of less than one inch in diameter. To calculate the circumference of a circle you multiply the diameter by 3.14 (pi), therefore a "pencil dick" would be one with a circumference less than 3.14 inches. Likewise, to calculate a diameter from a known circumference, you divide the circumference by 3.14. That would give you a diameter of 1.4 inches. The "average" penile circumference, I think, is just under 5 inches, around 4.8 or so. That would mean the "average" diameter would be around 1.52 inches, so you are slighly below average. Most "women" (maaning teenage boys and obese middle age gay men posing as women) on the internet say thay have to have a penis at least 8 inches long and 6 inches "wide" (meaning I guess the circumference) to feel "satisfied." That would make the "size queen" (with emphasis on the word "queen") desirable diameter around 2 inches (1.9). Neither you nor I, nor about 95 percent of the human male population, measure up, so make the best of what you have. That's what we all do.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008):

It's fine. Let me tell you a quick true story. My wife was pretty much a self-admitted "slut" before we met. She says she was looking for Mr. Right, but in a non-traditional way. Sex obviously meant alot to her. Well, the very first time we had sex, she knew her search had come to an end. We just fit perfectly. I can honestly say that the feeling was mutual. I don't have a porn-star dick. In fact, I'm very much what stats call "average". We have a VERY honest relationship, so I have heard more than I could ever want to know about her past lovers (because I asked). There were bigger dicks...even one she called "donkey boy" (he was no good, by the way). There were smaller ones than mine as well, and one of those she stayed with for a very long time because the sex was really good. Seven years later, I'm still laying the pipe, and she's still climbing the walls. This sounds cliche', but it REALLY isn't the size, it's finding the right "holster". And, don't get caught up in the size thing! After hearing about "donkey boy", I was real self-conscious, and even tried pumping...to no avail. I had to accept that what I had was what I had. Being a "stud" has more to do with your confidence than how hung you are. I realized that even though my wife had plenty of "experience" with a variety of cocks, I had the mojo required to make my woman soak the sheets. Focus on making her happy, and this "pencil dick" question will be history. Best to you my friend!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007):

Firstly, Noone answerd the man's qestion in full or even in a way pertaining to the qestion.

Secoundly,the man is saying he is 4.5 inches "around" meaning "circumference" which gives him a thickness of around 1 inch give or take a few cm.

Get out your tape measures and taliors tape measure the numbers youself then judge.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2007):

Dude i think you will have this feeling inside yourself when u have sex and thats either gnna be confidence or fear or a mixture of both, statistics are bs, yet i would prefer having a larger penis than a small one i think its how u use it and how you carry yourself, with confidence or as a wimp. the choice is yours, at the end of the day ITS ALL UP TO YOU, not your penis (cars dont drive themselves)

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A female reader, Lorraine31 +, writes (1 November 2006):

Lorraine31 agony auntYou are of average size believe me. its what you do with it that counts. Go and have fun and be safe!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006):

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penis_size

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006):

for this and all such other questions please head to the Lifestyle survey on penis size, featured on the Wikipedia web-site. No number of well meaning agony aunts can substitute for hard (sic!) research.

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A female reader, Jovial South Africa +, writes (30 October 2006):

Jovial agony auntSize doesnt matter at all, what matters is how u use it and self-confidence. Feeling low about yourself would be a total turn off.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006):

Learn how to properly use your fingers, nose, and tongue, and she'll not care if your Dick becomes a Jane.

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A female reader, Amethyst United States +, writes (29 October 2006):

Amethyst agony auntI know I'm just tagging along, but hey, the more assurance the better right?

If you find a girl who thinks size is everything in life, then she's more than likely going to hop into bed with any guy bigger than the next, so needless to say, she's not going to make much of a girlfriend.

So long as you know how to get her there, it shouldn't matter how big it is, should it? So no worries!

((IF you're NOT sure how to get her there, I suggest research. There's a lot of material on that sort of topic out there now.))

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A female reader, Lemonpixie United States +, writes (29 October 2006):

Lemonpixie agony auntSize isn't everything. 4.5 inches around is big.... like sugapuff said im sure they mean 5 inches in length not width...

Just learn how to work it... Some guys with big penis' are awful in bed because they have some delusion of grandeur that their big penis is enough... trust me its not that important

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006):

Let me put the record straight. It is not the size but what you do with it! Every woman wants something different.

Do you know that the female G spot is about 2cm inside vagina, so you have more than enough.

If you have plently of foreplay, touch your sexual partner in all sensitive parts, intercourse is the final ritual.

What gives me more sensation sexually is the thickness of the penis, how my partner moves and a hard erection.

A clitoral orgasm does not even require intercourse. There is so much you can do, explore the possibilities and enjoy.

Use what you have got, do not worry about what you cannot change.

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A female reader, sugapuff Ireland +, writes (29 October 2006):

sugapuff agony auntthat sounds fine im pretty sure 5 inchs is the average length not the girth!in fact ive never read what the average girth is!but 41/2 inchs would be quite thick so dont worry!

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