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writes:He asked me out and i said no for a whole year because i thought he wasnt serious. Then he got married but didnt stop, i thought my feelings would disappear but they havent. 4 months into his marriage we started dating and i have never been happier. I feel bad for the wife but lord knows i tried. we are even thinking of having a baby whom he doesnt have with the wife. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, kevin3007  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 you have no future with him girl he's married he has a wife you're making a big mistake lord will never forgive you as long as you know that what you're doing is something wrong you're destroying a family just ask your self a simple question do you want to have a husband who will cheat on you with an other girl? you should treat others just like the way you treat your self ....try to have a new life you look like a great girl cause you're feeling guilty about his wife there are so many guys who want to be with you guys you can date without feeling bad about your self guys that you can have a future with ...good luck
ps: GOD HELP THOSE WHO HELP THEM SELVES
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): STOP SEEING THIS LOOSER!he married some woman and 4 mo later he started dating you,and hes talking abou having a kid.I'll tell you how I see your future,LONELY AND STUCK RAISING A KID WITHTHE FATHER NOT AROUND!Get your head outta your a-- and see the light.you wont bee any different except you'll be stuck with a kid!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 March 2010):
You aren't anything to him, and you'll get very hurt. Stop seeing him.
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 Before any tragic thing happens, stop seeing this guy. The future with him is heartache, lost years and wasted effort. Believe me, a guy who is only married for a short 4 months who doesn't mind having an extramarital affair is not the type of guy who will make you happy, not the type who can give you peace of mind. Trust me dear.
Now only he's into you but who's to say he wont do this to you in the future. He is just enjoying you now because he almost lost the chance to enjoy and consume you before..he is only enjoying this moment while it lasts. Sorry to be blunt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): pain, despair, a kid, lack of money, alcohol... anger, threats, a few fights... some wild sex... him lying to you, gifts that don't make up for him being with his family when you want him with you...
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reader, Accountable +, writes (19 March 2010):
 Honestly I see a lot of unnecessary drama in your future. Why would you constantly turn him down for an entire year, only to start something with him when he becomes unavailable?? You are asking for trouble.
If he does not divorce his wife, stop all contact with him - you will never have a fulfilling future with him. You say you're planning to have a baby, but how is that going to work? You're just going to be left to handle the child on your own while he continues to live with his wife. Be realistic. You will always be second best, second priority, until he divorces his wife. To be frank, his wife deserves better than a cheating husband anyway...
Also you say you feel bad for his wife, and that you have "tried"? Can I ask, tried what, exactly?
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reader, Gasolina +, writes (19 March 2010):
 NO. NO. NO. Do not bring a child into this disfunctional picture. Why would you want to be with someone whose idea of marriage commitment is 4 months? Why would you have a child with someone with these values? Back away slowly. Don't make eye contact.
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