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Im here to help people if i can. My friends always come to me to confide with me and ask for advice because im a good listener. Im non-judgemental and believe that everyone needs help sometimes. The reason i registered with this site is because i had a problem that i needed help with (even the helpers need help sometimes!!) i had an immediate response from my problem so im here to return the favour!
A little bit about me.....
* im 19 years old
* i live by myself
* im training to be a nurse and midwife
* im a big movie fan!
* ive been told im quite funny (hmmmm...lol!!)
* i love to help people
* the most important thing in my life are my family and friends
if anyone needs help then email me and i will respond asap! be brave and message me....i wont judge you and i will give you an honest answer and my honest opinion!
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I think this is wrong but I'm not sure...
Q. Hi my boyfriend is 16 im turning 13 in december is this wrong? I think it is but im not sure....
A. 31 August 2007: well i can understand why people will be worried becuase guys of that age are usually only interested in sex and people may be worried that he will try to pressurise you into this! if you have found a guy that is happy to wait and treats you well ... (read in full...)
I'm 11 and me and my girlfriend keep breaking up. Should we be together? Help please.
Q. me and my girlfreind keep breaking up and getting back together over and over should we be together i am eleven...
A. 30 August 2007: oh hunny, your 11 years old, you shouldnt be worrying about things like this! you should be out with your mates enjoying being a kid!! this relationship doesnt sound as though its working so i would suggest ending it and enjoying your youth! worry ... (read in full...)
He loses his erection when it comes to condoms. Help!
Q. My boyfriend never has any problems getting an erection during foreplay. He can whenever and wherever. But when it comes to sex he goes limp. He says its due to nerves. Ive tried helping him right before but when he goes to put the condom on it ...
A. 30 August 2007: your boyfriend is obviously anxious about having sex so what i think is the best idea is to leave off it for a while! dont try to initiate sex, he is prob feelin really pressurised as he wants to please you and the more the pressure gets to him the ... (read in full...)
Two weeks ago I lost my dad to a massive heart attack. He was still young and I don't know what to do. There's such an empty silence in my life and in our house.
Q. Two weeks ago I lost my dad to a massive heart attack. He was still young and I don't know what to do. There's such an empty silence in my life and in our house. He was always here because he was retired due to ill health. I miss him so much. I come ...
A. 30 August 2007: i am so sorry to hear about your loss honey!! losing anyone is such a struggle but you seem as though you were close to you dad so this is going to be hell!! you are grieving, remember it is ok to cry!! the pain is still so fresh in your life and i ... (read in full...)
We never seem to be alone to try to have sex together.
Q. I really want to have sex with my boyfriend and he says he wants to as well but we never have a place to do it because there are people always in my house and his so we can never be alone and also I wouldn't know what would start us off, would it be ...
A. 30 August 2007: you are under the age of 16 so it is against the law for your boyfriend to have sex with you at this age! he could get in a lot of trouble!!! you are struggling to find a place to have sex and seeing as you are too young i would say dont do it!! ... (read in full...)
I've got no confidence... any advice?
Q. okay this is gonna sound lame to some of you, but i have no confidence...okay lemme explain, ive had borderline anorexia twice and ahve been thru depression, not a good combination i know. now to add to that ive been screwed around a few times and ...
A. 30 August 2007: first things first, your problem is not lame and nobody here thinks you are lame!! have you had any professional support such as counselling for your depression and eating problems? i think this would be the most beneficial action for you to take.... (read in full...)
I want a friend to tell my teacher I love him
Q. Hiya, i have a real bad problem. For about 8 months now ive really really fancied my teacher, and its beyond a crush, i kind of love him. Hes all im thinking about to be honest. Lately its getting so bad, that when i start college, im gonig to go ...
A. 30 August 2007: ok sweetheart now this is not what you want to hear but you cannot take this feeling for your teacher any further! you cant help who you fall in love with and its such a shame that you have fallen for someone that you cant have! it would be wrong ... (read in full...)
I am 14 and fancy my 48 year old married uncle
Q. Hi, I am 14 and i fancy my uncle who is 48 and has a wife and two children. everytime i see him i have to wait before i go out otherwise it makes me nervous and i dont know what to do! please help me. thank you Carla ...
A. 30 August 2007: ok hun, you are at an age where you are starting to become interested in guys and your hormones are beginning to run wild!! however, this interest in your uncle is obviously not appropriate. Are you close with your uncle? if he is a really nice guy ... (read in full...)
I think this is wrong but I'm not sure...
Q. Hi my boyfriend is 16 im turning 13 in december is this wrong? I think it is but im not sure....
A. 30 August 2007: Hey hun! the fact that you have to ask us if this is wrong and you say that you think it is wrong makes me wonder whether you are feeling comfortable in this relationship.
Your still very young so try not to concentrate too much on relation... (read in full...)
I fancy my mates guy. She doesn't want him anymore so should i go there?
Q. Theres this boy I fancy.But hes going out with my mate. Though she recently told me, she wants to dump him.If she dumps him should I make a move? HHEELLPP!!...
A. 30 August 2007: you are very young hunny and to be honest, you may like this guy but the chances that the relationship would work are quite slim and you dont want to risk losing a friend over a guy! friends are very important and will stick by you all the time, but ... (read in full...)
I lied to him in the past, now he doesnt treat me well!
Q. hello out there..my ? is this..we have been 2gether 2 yrs I love him, but i have lied in the past (not anymore) he says we are done. He knows the lies, for awhile i used drugs, i was caught by him, they were to take away the pain of him reje...
A. 26 August 2007: i think you need to take control of your life on your own and try to establish some foundations for yourself and your child! i dont think he is going to support you in this so you need to be strong and do it yourself! if you have had drug use and ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and am wondering if i am a lesbian, I flirt with girls all the time, Is this normal?
Q. Hey , Please help me because I think Im a Lesbain. I like Boys and All but Recently Ive had Feelings for Girls!! Im 13 and had loads of boyfriends but I have feelings for other girls. Please help me because Im flirting with them all the time...
A. 26 August 2007: I think that everyone goes through a period where they are attracted to the same sex...im going through that right now and im 18 years old!! puberty does crazy things to our minds and all the hormones give us changing emotions! it is absolutely ... (read in full...)
I love my guy but i want to cheat on him with an older man.
Q. I love my man but i love to cheat with an older greyer greeneyed man. He is well endowed and my guy isnt. Why am i attracted to older men? Im in my 30's He is in his mid forties-fifties ....
A. 26 August 2007: Are you experiencing any other difficulties in your relationship with your guy? they way i see it is, if you are in love with him then you wouldnt cheat on him with anyone. It sounds like you are not being fulfilled in your relationship and this... (read in full...)
I have a bf, but I have very strong feelings for my female friend. I don't want to detroy relationships or hurt anyone! What do I do?
Q. Ok, im 18 and at uni. Ive had a boyfriend for 6 months who is really great but im not sure if I wanna be with him cos I think ive developed feelings for a friend. I met a girl at uni in September and we got along so well. When we had to move she ...
A. 26 August 2007: hey, thanx to all for your great advice!! im no longer with my boyfriend--he got weird (probably because he could sense that i had other things on my mind) but im ok with that, we are still friends so thats great!! i know my feelings for my friend ... (read in full...)
Im falling for my best friend, but feel I'm too young for these feeling, what should I do ?
Q. I'm Falling For My Bestfriend and i know she has fellings for me....Last friday we had a pillow fight (like normal) she was dead hyper and so was i she kept pushing me on top of her...I felt strange and she keeps telling me she loves me...I think im ...
A. 27 July 2007: Your not too young to have these feelings sweetheart! you fancy your friend--it doesnt matter if it was a boy or girl people of your age are starting to get crushes! your entering into puberty when your hormones start to take control of your body ... (read in full...)
Is he still a virgin if he has only ever had sex with a man?
Q. Well this is not a question about me but it is about a lot of others OK if a gay man has been gay his whole life and never had sex with a woman but a man , technically wouldn't he still be a virgin?...
A. 25 July 2007: no he would not be considered a virgin! a virgin is someone who has not had penetrative sex! this doesnt matter if its with a man or a woman!... (read in full...)
We are both 16, and we want a baby.
Q. Me (16 in 5 days) and my boyfriend (16) really want to have sex and have a baby, we have had safe sex and now want the real thing, but we are both are in the middle of some A levels. we have our own flat together so it is not like any of our parents ...
A. 25 July 2007: youve got to think what your life would be like if you had a baby now! so...you would go through 9 months of pregnancy-that means sickness, blood tests, regular apps. with the midwife, swelling-----how do you think you would be able to study while ... (read in full...)
I blocked contact with her for 4 months; now I want to be friends again and she's not interested, what can I do?
Q. hey, i blocked contact from a close friend about 4 months ago and just recently unblocked her a couple of weeks ago. she doesnt like me anymore and doesnt want to be friends. ive wrote her poems and such .but no luck. i realy like this person alot ...
A. 25 July 2007: yeh i know you are 18 but you havent had contact with her for 4 years so you were going through puberty at the time! i didnt mean you were going through puberty now! lol!! if youve tried all of that then i really dont know what else to suggest! ... (read in full...)
I started sleeping with a girl I really like while her boyfriend was away; he's coming back and she doesn't want to see me as often. What should I do?
Q. A few months ago, i became friendly with a local girl who moved over here. She was stunningly good looking and way out of my league, and i found out she had a boyfriend who'd gone to australia for a year. But as we became friends i found out she ...
A. 25 July 2007: well firstly i have to say that it was wrong of you to become involved with this girl when she was in a relationship with someone else--how would you feel if you were the boyfriend and you found out your girlfriend cheated on you while you were ... (read in full...)
I blocked contact with her for 4 months; now I want to be friends again and she's not interested, what can I do?
Q. hey, i blocked contact from a close friend about 4 months ago and just recently unblocked her a couple of weeks ago. she doesnt like me anymore and doesnt want to be friends. ive wrote her poems and such .but no luck. i realy like this person alot ...
A. 24 July 2007: ok hun! firstly you say you blocked contact with her becuase you were drunk and kept her blocked because you thought your feelings were going to affect your friendship! you made a big mistake here hunni! if one of my closest friends just blocked ... (read in full...)
I like one of my best friends who has a girlfriend now; I won't make a move while she's around, so should I just wait and hope?
Q. Hi, My problem is probably quite small and easily solved, but its at the forefront of my mind at the moment. I've recently discovered feelings for one of my best friends and he certainly gives off the impression that they are reciprocated, as...
A. 24 July 2007: first things first - you said that this problem is probably quite small-----its not small if its important to you and it involves your emotions and feelings! secondly - im really pleased to hear your not going to try anything while he has a girlfr... (read in full...)
We like each other, I think, but all we ever do is look at each other
Q. I am 16 . I have liked a guy who I only shared 1 class with for 2 years. We are both extremely shy but I got the feeling that he like me e.g. His friends would let him know when I entered a room or he would show off in front of me and things like ...
A. 24 July 2007: im sorry but i have to agree to a certain extent with "know it all". you plucked up the courage to ask this guy out and he turned you down. If his reasons were genuine about the exams then i would have thought he would have spoken to you after and ... (read in full...)
I want to kiss and do more with my male cousin.
Q. Hi. i am male and 14 years old. my male cousin is 17 yaers old and i fancy the pants off of him. he slept round my house looking after me one night and we both decided to get naked even though we could'nt see each others privates we knew it was ...
A. 24 July 2007: your very young and sex at your age is illegal so you shouldnt be doing it-its ok for you to think about sex but you really shouldnt act on it unil you are at least the age of consent, but really when you are ready to do it! in regards to your fee... (read in full...)
My ex who took my virginity wants to get together
Q. I really need peoples opinions on this, so please help if you can.....i went out for 4 months last year with this guy lets call him A. I was head over heels in love with him, even though we didnt have the greatest relationship, anyway i lost my ...
A. 24 July 2007: i think you are always destined to have some feelings for this guy-when you lose your virginity to somebody you feel very strongly for then you have shared a very scary and significant experience with them,you will never forget them! he may ... (read in full...)
Why are so many children having sex?
Q. Hi. This is a general question, rather than help really, and for all the young people to think about perhaps. Ok, here it is..... Why are so many very young people having sex under 16 years old? For a start the legal age for it is no...
A. 24 July 2007: i think that sex is such a big part of our culture these days and sex comes up all the time! on the telly, in magazines, between friends. Its such a big part of our lives that children think they should be doing it! there are so many pressures at s... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to give your virginity away as a birthday present?
Q. is it wrong to give your virginity to some1 you love for his birdthday? after 3 months ? or should i wait :S ...
A. 24 July 2007: lol hunni! your virginity isnt really the classic birthday present!! lol! get him a card and maybe some chocolate or something! dont just rush into losing your virginity! its something you may regret afterwards! your young--wait until the time is ... (read in full...)
My period is so heavy I sometimes can't even walk
Q. hi.. my period last for 10 days with severe bleeding, i can't even walking sometimes. is this normal? if not what's causing it?...
A. 24 July 2007: some people are prone to heavy painful periods---im one of them too! its horrible! you feel like death for the length of your period and you know that its just guna come around again! what i did was went to the GP and discussed with them about my ... (read in full...)
What should I do during sex?
Q. Hey I'm 16 and I have never had sex before because I don't know what to do, I'm scared that the guy I'm with may not like what I do... What should I do during sex? please help ...
A. 23 July 2007: hey hunni!
firstly make sure that you are going to do it when you feel ready and when you are with someone you really care about! dont just do it for the sake of it!
secondly, let the guy know that its your first time--he should take this in... (read in full...)
Recently I found out off a good friend that our 16-year-old son has become addicted to dieting...
Q. Recently I found out off a good friend that our 16-year-old son has become addicted to dieting - or rather, a particular type of diet. He's become very interested in the "bikini beach diet" that a well-known tabloid did (look up "bikini beach di...
A. 23 July 2007: this is a difficult one! normally in this situation i would suggest talking to him but youve already done that-infact i think you have done everything that could help! the only thing i can suggest is to keep trying to talk to him--he said its none ... (read in full...)
I'm the 'other man'; should I pull away and see if she leaves him for me?
Q. I am in a love triangle where im the other man. I know none of her friends or family and she has been in a relationship for about few years that has run most its course. Been seeing her 6 months on/off. I know she is not happy as she made choices to ...
A. 23 July 2007: first things first i have to say this and im sorry but i do not condone your behaviour--it is wrong to date someone who is in a relationship, i know you cant help who you fall for but i always say how would you feel if you were the partner and your ... (read in full...)
I'm pretty and a cheerful person so why do people never like me the way I like them?
Q. Why is it that whenever i like someone they never like me back in the same way? I mean, im 5ft 6, longish strawberry blonde hair with bright blue eyes, a laughable personality.. whats wrong with me? ...
A. 23 July 2007: There is absolutely nothing wrong with you sweetheart-and dont ever think there is! I assume when you say that nobody likes you the way you like them that you are referring to boys? dont worry hunni-your still very young! im only 18 and i didnt have ... (read in full...)
My best friend said he fancies me; we decided not to date but in truth, I love him
Q. there is a boy i really like and he is my best friend the other week he told me he fancyed me and wanted to go out with me so i suggested we both thought it through. we both came to a conclusion that it would be best not to but deep down i love him ...
A. 23 July 2007: oh hunni tell him how you really feel! you know he likes you too so there isnt that fear of being rejected. as polly said, some of the best relationships started as friendship first. Knowing that you both want to be more than friends will make it ... (read in full...)
I'm having strange symptoms, could I be pregnant?
Q. i am 21 and not on birth control, me and my partner have been togther for 6 years. anyway my last period was 30/05/07 and usually lasts 5 days, however i missed junes period and am now 3.5 weeks late. took a pregnancy test last week and was ...
A. 23 July 2007: hey hunni! im a student midwife so hopefully i can help!! have you been feeling sick at all? some of the symptoms you have mentioned are symptoms of pregnancy-i would suggest waiting another week and then taking another pregnancy test-you would be ... (read in full...)
Why don't I feel anything when I masturbate?
Q. how come i cant feel nothin wen i maturbate even when i play abit ...
A. 22 July 2007: Yeh hun as the other posts have said, the most sensitive part is the clitoris and this is the bit that you will get most pleasure from stimulating! when you feel in the mood-get yourself comfortable and really explore your body, spend a while doing ... (read in full...)
Why do i stop myself from having an orgasm?
Q. I never seem to let myself orgasm. Whenever i get close i make my partner stop. What can i do to stop this happening? xx...
A. 22 July 2007: you just need to go for it chick!! you will enjoy it!! dont be afraid! i suggest having your first one by yourself---you may feel more comfortable this way! get yourself in the mood and go for it--just persevere!! and if you cant do it then try ... (read in full...)
Is it safe for my boyfriend to ejaculate inside me while I am pregnant?
Q. Is it safe for my boyfriend to ejaculate inside me while I am pregnant?...
A. 22 July 2007: im a student midwife so i hope i can help here although the other posts have done a good job!! Yes it is safe for your boyfriend to ejaculate inside you but you must be aware that you could still catch an STI (im not saying he has one but just so ... (read in full...)
Is it just a crush or something more?
Q. Ok, this is my first time doing this, and i am pretty nervous about who is going to read this, but i've read a lot of other answers and such, and the people seem to be really understanding so here goes. Well, this summer i met this girl from pol...
A. 22 July 2007: ok hunni--i posted a question on here a couple weeks ago saying how i had very strong feelings for my female friend and i didnt know if she liked me back because i was getting mixed signs. when im with her i always tell her i love her and when we ... (read in full...)
I'm hot for my sister
Q. hi, im 15 and i am kinda atracted to my sister. Like I was once curious what her bra size was and i went threw her clothes and found some of her panties. Is this wierd that i like this about my sister?...
A. 22 July 2007: your not weird hun, lots of guys have expressed the same feelings and concerns with the same situation! you are at an age where puberty is really starting to kick in and you are becoming swamped with all different emotions and feelings because of ... (read in full...)
Mum won't let me out.
Q. Hey, i am 14 and my mum keeps me in all the time. She won't let me go out to any of my freinds house or sleep over, she wont even let me stay at my best mates house when she know's we both won't do anything bad. Then when people come round she alwa...
A. 22 July 2007: your mum obviously cares about you and wants to protect you but maybe she is smothering you too much! have you done anything in the past to break your mums trust and give her reason to worry about you or do you live in a dodgy area where its not ... (read in full...)
How do you get a girl to fall for you?
Q. how do i get a girl to fall in love with me ?...
A. 22 July 2007: As the other posts have said-you cant make someone fall in love with you no matter how hard you try! it sucks i know, believe me i would do it if it was possible!
the only thing you can do is be yourself, flirt with her, treat her well and hope... (read in full...)
19 and 14 is that ok?
Q. Is it ok for me to date a guy that is 19 and I am 14?. I really like him and don't want to let him go....
A. 22 July 2007: There is no problem in a 5 year age gap but there are several things that will get in the way of this relationship. Firstly, you are too young for sex, its illegal and your boyfriend may not want to wait around for you to become old enough! howe... (read in full...)
Why have things changed?
Q. I like this girl and she likes me but things aren't going to well. I really like her but i'm not sure if she still feels the same way... i can't get her out of my head and i'm not acting the same as i used to around her.. What should i do because ...
A. 22 July 2007: Why are you not acting the way you used to around her?, is it because you think she doesn't feel the same way or is there another reason? If your worried about her feelings then the only way you can know for sure is to ask her how she feels! You ne... (read in full...)
Why do i stop myself from having an orgasm?
Q. I never seem to let myself orgasm. Whenever i get close i make my partner stop. What can i do to stop this happening? xx...
A. 22 July 2007: What are you afraid of? Have you never had an orgasm?, i think that maybe you make your partner stop becuase as you come to orgasm the feelings become so intense and you suddenly begin to lose control of everything! The feeling of pleasure overtake... (read in full...)
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