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writes:Ok, this is my first time doing this, and i am pretty nervous about who is going to read this, but i've read a lot of other answers and such, and the people seem to be really understanding so here goes.Well, this summer i met this girl from poland named samantha, and she's really cool, and right from the get go we became super close friends. But lately it seems like shes attracted to me because of the following signs:1) whenever we talk she maintains intense eye contact, with her eyes wandering from the mouth and back to my eyes.2)she is really touchy feely, like she'll always grab my hands, and hug me for extended periods of time until i get kinda uncomfortable and pull away.3)she always says she loves me, and adresses me by saying "my love" and such, but im pretty sure she does this with many others so i'm not sure.4) shes always really close to me, and when we make contact, like her breast brushing my arm no attempt to ever pull away is made, she just kind of doesn't move,5)another time we watched an entire film where we we both lying down, and her arm was around me, and she kept nuzzling her head on top of mine.6)she tells me almost everything, like i have so many secrets of her, and she has so many secrets of me7)she kind of i don't know if its jealousy, but she'll disagree with me everytime i find a guy is hot, like ppl that everyone finds is hot like johnny depp, and even more so when i tell her that i find a girl is hot too, like cameron diaz.8)the thing is, she had a boyfriend, and she says she dumped him because she was bored, and so it makes me think she likes guys, but then again it doesn't, because whenever i ask her about them she goes out of her way to assure me that she's over them.9)she wants to move to canada permanently now too, and she asked me to promise that if she moves here that "i'll still love her"10)also, there was this one time when i was just standing outside a friends car, and she got out, looks down at her shoes and went "______, i love you,without looking up, and then i went " i love you too" and then she said "good", again never looking upThis is kind of long i know, and its weird for me as this is my first time seeking help at all, let alone on the internet. I think i might like her back too, but im not sure if i just realllly like her as a friend, like a girl crush or something. But i think if i got some external insight then i might be able to see where i should go with this.thanks for taking the time to read this!sincerelysam_14
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 I think its much more, theres an obvious physical attraction, and she obviously feels alot for you. Although, I agree with dropping a hint to her, see how she reacts and then you can see if you really do feel that way for her, take it slow and see how it goes.
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Good luck xxxxx
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reader, sam_14 +, writes (22 July 2007):
sam_14 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok thanks a lot guys. I will keep you updated!
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reader, blaz£ +, writes (22 July 2007):
 It's something more, just be sure that you don't get to involved and then find out she has done this before.Take things slow, see how it goes. If you think that she really is in love with you go for it,you can usually tell.
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reader, 88jane +, writes (22 July 2007):
 ok hunni--i posted a question on here a couple weeks ago saying how i had very strong feelings for my female friend and i didnt know if she liked me back because i was getting mixed signs. when im with her i always tell her i love her and when we watch films i stroke her hair and things like that, similar things to what your friend does to you. I still dont know how my friend feels. I think that if you like her aswell then you need to step up with the flirting and reaaly hint that you like her--if she doesnt have feelings for you and shes just being friendly then you will soon be able to tell. however, if you dont like her in this way then you need to tone things down and stop giving her hope (if she does infact like you). Saying that you love her too is fine if you love her as a friend but maybe you could say --yeh i love you too, your an amazing friend---just make it clear that you see her as a friend only!
so in summary-heres what i suggest---
1.decide what you feel about her. friends or more?
2.if its more-step up the flirting and see how she reacts
3.if its friends, make it clear!!
i hope this makes sense!! keep us updated to the situation please, id like to hear how it goes! xxxx
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 July 2007):
 It seems to me she's giving strong hints that she is interested. Why don't you drop a hint to her, to remove the doubt? If she responds to the first hint, escalate to another, and another, until you two are ready.
I think I can't tell what you feel. However, if you were able to notice all these signs, I suppose you're into her, too. If you didn't, maybe you wouldn't sound that excited about it all.
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