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Why does he need to look at pictures of naked and semi-naked women? Is it because I've lost fullness in my breasts since breast feeding?

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Question - (25 December 2012) 8 Answers - (Newest, 23 January 2013)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Why would my partner look at naked/ semi naked pictures of women?

Porn I can understand, but I guess he's looking at the naked women cos I lost the fullness of my breasts due to breast feeding.

I was never big anyway. I don't feel the need to look at pics of other men so why does he do it?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013):

You are beautiful, and more beautiful because you breastfeed. He's just a guy and we all know life changes after baby. He looked at porn before he met you and it's just a guy thing. It's sad to say but the truth. We as women just cannot relate at times. Just talk to him and let him know how it makes you feel. Best of luck-

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A female reader, freebird1 United States +, writes (10 January 2013):

I HAVE BEEN THROUGH ALL THE porno ! it has nothing to do with you , simply that he is stimulated by it, and it triggers the brain.you or no one has to except it though.there are lots of men out there that need only a woman .

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A female reader, freebird1 United States +, writes (9 January 2013):

it is not you, if he loves you it is not because the shape of your breast go to thebrainonporn.com find out what is really going on ...

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (27 December 2012):

olderthandirt agony auntIt's not you! Men like porn even if their wife is the most beautiful women on the planet because porn brings the fantasy of having a huge penis to life. The porn kings all are what men want to look like and the porn queens are what they want if only they had a big enough penis. We spend more time looking at what we don't have(but wish we did) than looking at the women. Our fantasy is "if only we were that size we'd be able to qualify for those favors"We see men recieving sexual favors granted to them only because they are so well endowed.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2012):

No, it's got nothing to do with you or your boobs. You could be the most beautiful woman on the planet, and your husband will still look at other women. You can be the most beautiful woman on the planet in his eyes, and he will still look at other women. Basically, it doesn't matter who you are or how you look. Men simply cannot be satisfied looking at the same naked woman for the rest of their lives.

I realize it's irritating and also discouraging to go to a bunch of effort to look your best only to have your husband eye up some woman that passes by, or find out he's looking at naked women on the internet, but we've all been through it. It's best to just not read too much into it.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (26 December 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntCan he look at the Mona Lisa to enjoy it?

Can he look at a Picasso to enjoy it?

I like to look at Leonard Nimoy's Body Project pictures (they are nudes of overweight women) because I find them esthetically pleasing to my eye. He has said he does not find these women SEXUALLY attractive but he does like the esthetics of photographing them. GO FIGURE... BEAUTY for BEAUTY'S sake... wow.

Sadly for you, if you want to know WHY a man is doing something you have to ASK HIM. He may like to look at them nothing more.

I am sure that your feeling pretty bad about those deflated boobs right about now. I know I did with mine after years of nurturing both my sons. it was physical and emotional nourishment and it was critical to their development. I have no regrets about it.

The only way to know why YOUR husband is doing it is for YOU to ask him. And not in a confrontational way....

just ask... because you are curious. Take away the part of the equation where you are feeling lack of self-esteem, where you are judging yourself and making yourself feel low and bad.... it may be in your mind.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (26 December 2012):

Honeypie agony auntHave you asked him? without bring up your own boobs?

Maybe he thinks naked pictures is considered more "harmless" them actual porn.

Talk to him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2012):

There is plenty of people asking the same questions and I can't understand the porn so what do you mean by you can understand it?

Probably formed the habit before you.

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