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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So, I don't know much about other women's experiences, but everyone knows that guys sometimes (out of nervousness or shyness etc) can't get it up, if you know what I mean.I know that women don't have 'ahem's' ...but can they get the same sort of thing when they're nervous too? I'm asking because I think I have it.I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a bit now, and we've been sexually active for at least 9 months I reckon. He has never given me an orgasm...and I lied to him many times that he did, because I didn't want him to feel like he was failing me. That was the wrong thing to do, and since then I have told him the truth and although he was hurt, we moved on, and I never lie to him now. I kind of feel like it's my fault, because even though we've been together for a while, I ALWAYS feel kinda nervous before we have sex.So..down to the details XD When one of us initiates, I get into a sort of nervous, excited state, but it seems to stop my 'physical' want for sex. I don't really get 'wet', but the emotional side is all there, I want to do it, and I'm feeling in the mood, and I'm loving my boyfriend a heck of a lot right in that moment ;) BUT, it's as if my imaginary woman penis isn't getting up XD DOES THAT MAKE ANY SENSE???Oh well...no point explaining further, I'm pretty sure you all know what I'm trying to say XDPlease help me out,Kat,
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (27 October 2012):
 If you don't even get wet, there isn't enough foreplay - that would be my bet.
And honestly, not many women get orgasms from intercourse, but with a lot of practice you can find positions where you get the clitoris stimulated while you have penetrative sex. And that can get most women off.
NEVER, and I repeat this NEVER fake an orgasm. Or you will end up with a guy who THINKS he can please you even when he doesn't.
Try and figure out how you can get yourself off. Then find a way to entice him into more foreplay and try different positions that can help you get off.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 October 2012):
 Do you have orgasms when you masturbate? IF so then you are perfectly normal.
does he perform oral on you?
is there enough foreplay going on to get you ready.
less than 30% of women will orgasm from penetration so if you are expecting to have an orgasm during the act of intercourse, stop holding your breath... it's probably not going to happen.
I have had many many MANY partners... I'm very relaxed about sex... but I know that only one man in my life ever could consistently bring me to orgasm and that was through oral. Other than that I'm on my own.... I love my husband and he loves me... but we know that sex is not about orgasms for me.... it's about being close to the man I love and the orgasms come later...
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (26 October 2012):
 I think I know what you mean and i think most women have to learn how to orgasm. you have to teach yourself and then teach your partner. you have to show him what to do, show him how you do it yourself. mostly it involves a lot of nonsexual intimacy and then eventually some pretty intense direct stimulation to the place that seems to work best for you. if it doesn't work the first few times just vary it a bit each time. you are young and many women I have known have not have had orgasms until later in life because they didn't learn.
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